[bakeonlyforyouself]

Another day, another trans woman defending a rapist because the rapist is also a trans woman. Sigh.

[bakeonlyforyouself]

I'm on various sides of tumblr (mostly watching gender specials crumble), so this situation is very niche but. It's amazing to me. The trans woman's words quite literally went along the lines of:

"Well *victim* wasn't a good person anyways, so who knows if it's true," "the ALLEGED rapist was soooo suicidal after the situation," and "how does supporting a suicidal trans woman make ME a bad person???"

All huge res flags, idk how she has a following. Minimizing rape because the victim wasn't a "good person" is beyond insane. Saying the victim only came out about it as a "smear campaign against trans women" is especially insane, considering the victim was in a relationship with said trans woman.

The rapist ADMITTED what she did. She ACKNOWLEDGED what she did was rape. Was she suicidal? GOOD??? I wish a lot more rapists would take that step lmao.

[bakeonlyforyouself]

Another day, another trans woman defending a rapist because the rapist is also a trans woman. Sigh.

[meepertonton]

Here are some evidence based recommendations for UTI prevention

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[meepertonton]

Here are some evidence based recommendations for UTI prevention

Note the need for a certain proanthocyanidin level in cranberry products

[anaukeya3]

I want to get an IUD/the arm thing but my parents are scared it will have bad side effects, does anyone here have experience?

[bakeonlyforyouself]

Hi there! I've had an IUD (Mirena) for 2 years now, and here is my experience-

- Insertion was not painful, personally. You feel a little achey for the next day or so, but nothing worse than period pains typically are. There may be some light spotting during this time, but with my experience, both the spotting and pain were minimal!

- The first few months, I had a "regular" period, meaning it occurred at its typical time and lasted what was a typical duration for me. The flow was ridiculous for the first few days but would slow down.

- After about 5 months, I stopped having a typical period. The most I *see* is a bit of spotting every now and again, so I have to track my cycle through different means. I still get cramps every now and again, but not typically anywhere near how they were prior to having an IUD. HOWEVER, sometimes I get cramps that are debilitating, but my ob doesn't think the two are connected.

- Obviously experienced some hormonal changes (acne, fatigue, breast tenderness, hair growth/loss), but you can expect similar experiences with any hormonal birth control.

I'm not a doctor, and yours would run you through the pros, cons, and possible concerns personally, but I think the biggest concern would be the device being dislodged or misplaced upon insertion (uncommon), and any negative side effects of the device, which aren't dissimilar to hormonal birth control. I *personally* wish I hadn't been talked into a hormonal IUD, I wish I would've gotten a copper one instead, just because I don't love the hormonal side effects of the Mirena. But ofc that's my personal experience. I know many other women who have also used a Mirena and loved it. I will also add that I MUCH prefer this over the pill, which I took for 5 years beforehand. There's no chance of forgetting to use or take, and there are no side effects of not taking it because... well, it's in there and not going anywhere for the next 6 years, lol.

I hope you find this helpful! As always, there are more resources from better sources than my personal experience. Take a look at Planned Parenthood's website, or another good resource is reproductiveaccess.org

[bakeonlyforyouself]

It's really interesting to me that trans-progressive people will say things like "gender isn't real" and "anyone can be anything", but they look at a cis woman who doesn't conform to beauty standards and assume she must be some sort of trans. She doesn't remove her body hair or wears clothing she finds comfortable, and for some reason, this challenges people.

I've had a discussion with my friend about this because I see this so much. I would rather claw off my skin than have someone call me "they" because they assume I'm something I'm not. There is quite literally nothing about me that would indicate that I identify as anything but a woman, I just happen to refuse to remove body hair or wear makeup and wear what I find most comfortable. It's kind of insane to me that for a group of people who claim to be progressive, an adult woman cannot look like an adult woman (not a male curated look to appeal to pedophilic beauty standards).

What's even worse is having people try to convince me that I'm anything but a woman. There's always a misogynistic reason for their way of thinking, too, but they think they're doing something by trying to convince me that my sex isn't good enough. Get a life.

[witchytakes]

and then everyone clapped

[bakeonlyforyouself]

This was literally within the span of a few weeks during 2021 but okayyyyyyyy

[bakeonlyforyouself]

People are genuinely so stupid for falling for the distraction tactics that are being used by the US government rn.

"They're trying to remove trans rights!"

Yeaaaaaaaaah okay and what about the rapid turn towards a fascist oligarchy? About the mass deportations and push to revoke naturalized citizen's citizenship? Closing down borders and pulling out of alliances the US has been in for ages?

Between the trans thing and the tiktok thing, it's really shows the utter lack of education and ability to think critically, which is... alarming. I'm not saying it's NOT an issue, but there are MUCH bigger fish to fry.

[dollille-deactivated20250113]

i ♡ blocking men when they follow or interact

[honeymuse2002]

Especially men with p0rn blogs. If I see one photo of a naked woman I’ll block you immediately.

[bakeonlyforyouself]

There was a post/article sent to a group chat I'm in today, which talked about the increased restrictions on pornography in the US. It mentioned that 11% of men in the US admit to having a porn addiction and how the "serious" side effects of porn include trouble in the bedroom and quite possibly the worst thing imaginable- erectile dysfunction (I'm not even kidding, the post worded it as though that's the worst possible thing porn causes). While the post had some interesting commentary on censorship, especially in regards to queer media, I couldn't help but roll my eyes and dismiss it as a whole because of the incessant coddling of men throughout the whole thing.

What really, truly got me was the response from some of my friends. "I didn't realize porn was so bad for men!" Excuse me? I feel like with every step taken forward (addressing issues with pornography and actually identifying porn addiction in general), we take 20 steps back by allowing men to be treated as the victim. Sure, we're finally taking some time to acknowledge that excessive porn consumption is awful, but only because it makes men's penises stop working.

I speak out after the post is sent and some friends reply, and IMMEDIATELY: "That's too broad of an assumption to make," "say you're conservative without saying you're conservative," and "some women like to make and do stuff like that" from the men in the group chat that had previously been silent. Blocked. Blocked. Blocked.

Could not be bothered to interact with those losers ever again lmaooooo. Sorry your dicks don't work and women don't want you, but you could just say that instead of getting defensive over media that rots your brain.

[colombinaa]

i just realised that “you’re a bigot” is just one of the new ways of calling women crazy for being aware of our global plight

and the way we use it to tone-police each other, it’s literally the same thing

20th century: oh you think female oppression is real and males are the oppressor? you’re a fucking insane crazy bitch go get a lobotomy and suck my dick

21st century: oh you think female oppression is real and males are the oppressor? you’re a fucking bigot white feminist terf bitch go kill yourself and suck my girlcock

[bakeonlyforyouself]

Foaming at the mouth to defend a group of people who would NEVER do the same for you is insane lol

[shesay-deactivated20250513]

You don't see many homeless women on the street because they're getting trafficked and raped. Hope that helps because u ppl are so dump with your “society cares more about women that's why the majority of the homeless are men” no it's because they're getting assaulted and pimped in motels that's why u don't see them.

[rodrickheffeley]

if someone comes forward with their story about being raped or sexually assaulted by your fav celebrity artist and your first instinct is “im so disappointed I can’t enjoy his characters anymore :(” you’re literally fucked in the head . some of you are way too grown to be detached from the reality like this. we are in a lack of empathy epidemic. yes im talking about Neil gaiman and his fans .

[beirarowling]

When J.K. Rowling simply said that only women menstruate, Harry Potter instantly became problematic and badly written in their eyes, and all trans people were in danger. But when Gaiman is revealed as a violent rapist it's "We can't deny the contributions he's made to literature! He's still a great writer and I will have to struggle now with how much his stories mean to me!!" Not a thought for the women he's harmed to be found anywhere in their mourning posts. Their hypocrisy and misogyny is so repulsive and unforgivable.

[bakeonlyforyouself]

Does anyone know some radfem artists? I want to get art made by women for my home 🥰

Oh, and book recs?

[fishnanigans]

Is this true?

I never knew this.

[vulva-venus-hates-that-penis]

Reminder that the vagina is self cleaning yk discharge yeah, men need the aisle of soap for their genitals but not like they'd use it...

[bakeonlyforyouself]

It's alarming and discouraging that this isn't common knowledge.

[kiefbowl]

whenever a famous man is outed as a total creep, his fans have to make everything about how it impacts their mediocre and underperforming lives. which really shows a lack of moral fiber.

[bakeonlyforyouself]

It's really interesting to me that trans-progressive people will say things like "gender isn't real" and "anyone can be anything", but they look at a cis woman who doesn't conform to beauty standards and assume she must be some sort of trans. She doesn't remove her body hair or wears clothing she finds comfortable, and for some reason, this challenges people.

I've had a discussion with my friend about this because I see this so much. I would rather claw off my skin than have someone call me "they" because they assume I'm something I'm not. There is quite literally nothing about me that would indicate that I identify as anything but a woman, I just happen to refuse to remove body hair or wear makeup and wear what I find most comfortable. It's kind of insane to me that for a group of people who claim to be progressive, an adult woman cannot look like an adult woman (not a male curated look to appeal to pedophilic beauty standards).

What's even worse is having people try to convince me that I'm anything but a woman. There's always a misogynistic reason for their way of thinking, too, but they think they're doing something by trying to convince me that my sex isn't good enough. Get a life.