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charlesoberonn

Don't open a PM with a stranger with "hello".

1. You sound like a bot

2. You don't give anything to respond to

Try to say something nice and ask questions that the other person can respond to.

charlesoberonn

I was talking about tumblr but I suppose it also applies to this

charlesoberonn

Remember Inigo Montoya

hometoursandotherstuff

memewhore

bigandretired-deactivated202501

cannibalchicken

ur-daily-inspiration

unaloid

treecitysessions

sapphling

i think the major issue is that at least in the case of fat people (i would imagine some other marginalized people too, but don't care to speak past my own experience here) the conversation re: chubby chasers has revolved around this mystical spectre of The Fetishist, whose attraction to fat people is bad because it's Fetishistic (in a way that exclusive attraction to thin bodies, by virtue of being culturally normative, is not) and it Fetishizes their partners and creates toxic Fetish Content. it's essentially the discussion of a real problem (the sexual exploitation & abuse of fat people) utilizing only the language of reactionary constructions re: "porn addiction" and non-normative attraction. i don't really give a shit if a guy has only ever dated 300LB+ women, but what i DO care about is what those women say about him and how he treated them, if he was public about their relationships, if he listened when they said "no," etc. honest-to-god shitty chubby chasers aren't bad because of this nebulous idea of Fetishism so much as the violence with which they treat fat people, the harassment they put unconsenting fat people through, the frequent abuse of their sexual partners, and definingly the way in which they exploit cultural fatphobia & the desexualization of fat people to get away with it over and over and over again. and the irony of it is that the more we panic about Fat Fetishists without centering the conversation on power and violence, and the more we by-extension reinforce attraction to fat bodies as an abnormal and abhorrent trait, the deeper this hole is dug -- because it's that very abnormality which pushes fat partners into the shadows and which casts constant doubt over our voices as survivors of sexual violence. it's goofy

daily-spooky

goldenspirits

kragehund-est

hmmm why does my uterus hurt and why do i feel kinda off. weird. surely these are not the warning symptoms of a predictable biological process that occurs on a regular schedule. anyway. im going to wear white pants today.

kragehund-est

by talos this cant be happening

thescaryjokes

when i was a kid i found an anti-new jersey fb group & as someone from new jersey i took it really personally for some reason, so I'd go on there and on an almost daily basis I'd make posts like "wont you visit our beautiful coastline? :)" and all the comments were like "i hope you get run over by a car" and it would give me insane anxiety but i kept doing it