[leatherdykez]

COURTESY OF LEATHER ARCHIVES AND MUSEUM

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Good girls use their safeword frequently btw

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Some people had a weird reaction to this one, so let me clarify some misconceptions and express my perspective a bit more.

When we talk about kink, a lot of the time people treat safe words as if they are exclusively an expression of an absolute limit. A firm proclamation that the scene is too rough, the pain too much, the situation too extreme, and that the entire thing needs to stop. Safeword use in such situations is obviously essential and mandatory in order to bring the scene or sensation to an end and ensure the safety of all participants. This is not, however, the only time a safeword should be used.

They can be used to express when someone is at their limit. They can mean the scene needs to end completely because the sub can't take it anymore at all. But they don't have to mean that. Safewords should be used to pause or stop the scene and break character for any reason. You can also use your safeword to pause and discuss a limit, communicate that something is or isn't working for you, ensure that everything is going to plan, take a water break, go get a toy from the other room, check with your partner about something, pause to change your laundry, or do absolutely anything else out of character related to your scene.

This is why a lot of people use green/yellow/red.

Green - continue

Yellow - pause and make a change

Red - I need this situation to be over and for us to get right into aftercare.

What a lot of people seem to miss is that in this framework yellow is also a safeword.

All of this is ignoring the additional dimension that Dominants also need to safeword!! It's completely normal and if you're doing a lot of BDSM it should happen in your daily kink life often. Real life is not a romance novel.

Using your safeword is essential and you should use it all the time, whenever you want. Breaking character during kink is normal, healthy, sexy, and fundamentally essential. Do it more often.

[poetrylesbian]

im sick of signing in to things

[angelicguy]

people who are obsessed with IQ would buckle if there was a number associated with how pleasant you are to interact with

[plomeekparty]

Cast Photos (pt. 11)

[radicalgraff]

ACAB cat spotted in Baku, Azerbaijan

[neverneverland]

Brian Wilson went to bed for three years. Jean-Michel Basquiat would spend all day in bed. Monica Ali, Charles Bukowski, Marcel Proust, Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Tracey Emin, Emily Dickinson, Edith Sitwell, Frida Kahlo, William Wordsworth, René Descartes, Mark Twain, Henri Matisse, Kathy Acker, Derek Jarman and Patti Smith all worked or work from bed and they’re productive people. (Am I protesting too much?) Humans take to their beds for all sorts of reasons: because they’re overwhelmed by life, need to rest, think, recover from illness and trauma, because they’re cold, lonely, scared, depressed – sometimes I lie in bed for weeks with a puddle of depression in my sternum – to work, even to protest (Emily Dickinson, John and Yoko). Polar bears spend six months of the year sleeping, dormice too. Half their lives are spent asleep, no one calls them lazy. There’s a region in the South of France, near the Alps, where whole villages used to sleep through the seven months of winter – I might be descended from them. And in 1900, it was recorded that peasants from Pskov in northwest Russia would fall into a deep winter sleep called lotska for half the year: ‘for six whole months out of the twelve to be in the state of Nirvana longed for by Eastern sages, free from the stress of life, from the need to labour, from the multitudinous burdens, anxieties, and vexations of existence’.

— Viv Albertine, To Throw Away Unopened.

[crimson-femme]

Frankie & Dymond by Peter DaSilva, On Our Backs (Feb/March 1999)

[achillesinhighheels]

Sorry i texted back so quickly! My phone was just in my hand. And also i want you

[thelaurenshippen]

watching bridgerton and obviously there were a lot of things wrong with the way socializing has worked in the past, but honestly the idea of a "calling hour" is so appealing. office hours for friendship. you can show up unannounced at my home between 1 and 3pm. you must leave by 3pm. I may give you a pastry. lets bring that back

[kocalls]

[cheaphalloweencostume]

i’m gonna say something that doesn’t feel good but you might need to hear it: bending over backwards being a people-pleaser, being conflict averse and not telling anyone your needs, and then being resentful and upset when your needs aren’t met is a You problem first

[cheaphalloweencostume]

not related but also just good advice: when you’re lowkey frustrated with someone and can’t quite figure out why their behavior is bothering you, i highly recommend examining if they have broken an imaginary rule or standard that you hold yourself to

[larksecho]

round of applause for the stretch marks 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[quasi-normalcy]

The following two statements are both true:

Star Trek has always been woke

Star Trek has always been corporate

[quasi-normalcy]

Star Trek has always been internationalist

Star Trek has always been American

[quasi-normalcy]

Star Trek has mostly been utopian

Star Trek has mostly been written by middle-class white heterosexual men

[rabbitdyke]

ready for dore alley

[beardedmrbean]

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

do you ever feel yourself fail a charisma check in real time