Bento Thug Life

Elder millennial, still here after over a decade. Goth stuff, cute animals, and whatever else strikes my fancy

[reallyreallyreallytrying]

nip over to troy, bit of rough and tumble, big horse, bish bash bosh, back home to ithaca. simple as

[only-cat-memes]

[fairycosmos]

dj play a 6pm breeze in 2007

[shinraalpha]

i do think lobbying for data centres over climate goals should be considered a crime against humanity btw

[tgatbc]

[special-lucky-chosen-one]

me as a kid reading Dune: I appreciate the detailed world-building that justifies why everyone fights with swords and has mental powers, but the idea of a Butlerian Jihad against computers is pretty silly

me in 2025, trying desperately to find the three (3) places you need to go to to disable the latest helpful AI assistant that's inserted itself into my work chat and is advising me to do things that would be a breach of federal law: Oh Now I Get It

[cricketcat9]

Yep, some here

[ubecakes]

me and my dear lifelong friend Unwise Purchases

[scribeherself]

having a best friend who meets your level of freak is unmatched. you present them with the most unhinged, deeply buried thought from the depths of your psyche and instead of blinking blankly they just go "oh absolutely"—and I think that mutual brain rot like that is the highest form of intimacy actually.

[brellstudiosart]

grace after finding ilyukhina's hidden bag of vodka and lipstick

[serial-unaliver-deactivated2024]

[serial-unaliver-deactivated2024]

this post has more people in my inbox defending working for lockheed martin than you'd expect

[eroticcannibal]

The act of simply watching people have sex is itself morally neutral. That's all porn is.

[kiss-of-light]

it isn’t, though. sorry if I’m missing a joke here but… it really, really isn’t.

[eroticcannibal]

It is. There is nothing wrong with watching people have sex. The morality of it depends on the context (buying porn from sex workers to watch is good, revenge porn is bad, for example), but watching people fuck? That's morally neutral. It's just watching some activities.

[kiss-of-light]

Almost all porn is abuse, you know that right? Most women in porn are drugged and then raped.

Even if she were paid, it would still be coercive, similarly to prostitution. You cannot buy women, or their consent. That immediately creates a coercive force that makes the consent invalid.

[eroticcannibal]

Ok so first of all you're lying. That is not how most porn works at all.

Regarding economic coercion, that's called having a job. But also I promise you there is a world of difference between trying to buy a person (for the love of fuck will you people ever aknowledge its not only women in porn and work conditions are a concern for EVERYONE involved) and someone making a career in porn.

Also re read what I said because you have said nothing that argues against what im saying AT ALL.

[queerautism]

The way these people talk about sex workers genuinely makes me sick. Sex workers are not being bought, they are not owned by people paying them. They are compensated for their services or performance, like every other worker. They own themselves no matter what. They deserve dignity and respect and their work not being described in such horrible fucking ways.

And it's genuinely fucked up to tell people what they can and cannot consent to tbh? You don't get to choose that for others and then try to say you genuinely care about consent. You just want to control people.

[eroticcannibal]

Absolutely right. We are people, we own ourselves, we decide what we do and don't want to do. Honestly if I attach the criteria of pay and a camera to my consent, denying me that is no less fucked up than forcing that on me.

Puritanical christians/radfems and rapists/traffickers are two sides of the same coin and all ultimately working towards the goal of ruining people's lives for their own benefit.

[autistichalsin]

Also, it needs to be repeated again that stigmatization of sex work leaves trafficking victims trapped. They are now in an even more socioeconomically disadvantaged position than before because no one will want to help an "icky porn star" who is being exploited.

To help trafficked and coerced sex workers we necessarily must end the demonization of sex work or else you are giving traffickers the literal tools to force unwilling people into it!

One of my family members was sex trafficked. Her case became a part of state legal precedent because her trafficker's conviction resulted in an expanded definition of one of the terms used to define trafficking (kept vague for the sake of my family's anonymity.) You know what one of the biggest barriers was to her getting help?

The fact that everyone she reached out to saw her as a stupid meth head "whore" and not a person who was fucking afraid for her life.

If society had shown sex workers some basic amount of decency, she might have had the social standing to get help sooner.

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

remember: a big part of what "sex work is work" means is "let sex workers have workers' protections"

[vlad-theimplier]

I got to see a change in the criminal law, in real time, that shifted the window on how sex workers are treated in my state. Agencies that tended to treat them as perpetrators, even when they were victims, had their behavior changed the most. But even the more progressive police departments, and of course any number of labor- and benefit-related agencies, also got a few notches more understanding and accepting.

TL;DR: sex workers are people, sex work is work, and the road to utopia is paved with extremely boring legislation and administrative decisions.

[quantecosealmondopuoifare]

this is such a simple point but god it needs to be repeated. i keep seeing even young, progressive people say "porn rots peoples brain" no!! misoginy rots peoples brains!! a video of people having sex consensually is literally fine!!

[towerologia-sideblog]

and not to become wokezilla but it has me sat the way bigotry and all of bad things a person can do continue to be Explained Away by speculating the bigot must have brain damage it be from porn or whatever, its not that bigotry benefits the bigot in society, it couldnt be that, otherwise everybody (including me!) could become a bigot, and im Morally Pure and Leftist, so bigots must have some immutable Sick In The Head quality that actually makes them act this way, it be from birth or from consumption of media that I Personally find immoral

[i-am-a-fish]

I just want to love and be loved. why is lunch twelve dollars now

[toastyglow]

the backrooms are simply not as scary conceptually if there is Something In Them

[toastyglow]

the whole reason why they're so unnerving is BECAUSE there's nothing in them!! because they're unrelentingly liminal and lonely and uncomforting. there shouldn't be a monster guy in there chasing you. you should glimpse other humans (?) from a distance but they walk away before you can close the gap and then they're gone. things should run away from YOU. do u get it

[toastyglow]

"and there was a MONSTERowooowwohhhh" the monster is isolation and banal beige sameness and uncanny valley architecture. you fool. you rube. you're putting a hat on a hat and the second hat is not only unnecessary but it ruins the first hat!!!!!!! "there's a monster in there" great so now it's just another place for a monster to be. ridiculous

[toastyglow]

fine I will concede: you CAN actually put something in there while maintaining the vibes, but it should complement the location instead of just being a generic scary guy you could put literally anywhere

[scruq]

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Report this ad wherever you see it. The fact that staff allows this kind of shit yet still turning a blind eye to everything else is just pure hatred.

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Alejandra Caraballo (@esqueer.net)

If you see this, don't participate. It's a rigged study by Lisa Littman and unethical researcher J. Michael Bailey meant to undermine access

[eroticcannibal]

The act of simply watching people have sex is itself morally neutral. That's all porn is.

[kiss-of-light]

it isn’t, though. sorry if I’m missing a joke here but… it really, really isn’t.

[eroticcannibal]

It is. There is nothing wrong with watching people have sex. The morality of it depends on the context (buying porn from sex workers to watch is good, revenge porn is bad, for example), but watching people fuck? That's morally neutral. It's just watching some activities.

[kiss-of-light]

Almost all porn is abuse, you know that right? Most women in porn are drugged and then raped.

Even if she were paid, it would still be coercive, similarly to prostitution. You cannot buy women, or their consent. That immediately creates a coercive force that makes the consent invalid.

[eroticcannibal]

Ok so first of all you're lying. That is not how most porn works at all.

Regarding economic coercion, that's called having a job. But also I promise you there is a world of difference between trying to buy a person (for the love of fuck will you people ever aknowledge its not only women in porn and work conditions are a concern for EVERYONE involved) and someone making a career in porn.

Also re read what I said because you have said nothing that argues against what im saying AT ALL.

[queerautism]

The way these people talk about sex workers genuinely makes me sick. Sex workers are not being bought, they are not owned by people paying them. They are compensated for their services or performance, like every other worker. They own themselves no matter what. They deserve dignity and respect and their work not being described in such horrible fucking ways.

And it's genuinely fucked up to tell people what they can and cannot consent to tbh? You don't get to choose that for others and then try to say you genuinely care about consent. You just want to control people.

[eroticcannibal]

Absolutely right. We are people, we own ourselves, we decide what we do and don't want to do. Honestly if I attach the criteria of pay and a camera to my consent, denying me that is no less fucked up than forcing that on me.

Puritanical christians/radfems and rapists/traffickers are two sides of the same coin and all ultimately working towards the goal of ruining people's lives for their own benefit.

[autistichalsin]

Also, it needs to be repeated again that stigmatization of sex work leaves trafficking victims trapped. They are now in an even more socioeconomically disadvantaged position than before because no one will want to help an "icky porn star" who is being exploited.

To help trafficked and coerced sex workers we necessarily must end the demonization of sex work or else you are giving traffickers the literal tools to force unwilling people into it!

One of my family members was sex trafficked. Her case became a part of state legal precedent because her trafficker's conviction resulted in an expanded definition of one of the terms used to define trafficking (kept vague for the sake of my family's anonymity.) You know what one of the biggest barriers was to her getting help?

The fact that everyone she reached out to saw her as a stupid meth head "whore" and not a person who was fucking afraid for her life.

If society had shown sex workers some basic amount of decency, she might have had the social standing to get help sooner.

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

remember: a big part of what "sex work is work" means is "let sex workers have workers' protections"

[vlad-theimplier]

I got to see a change in the criminal law, in real time, that shifted the window on how sex workers are treated in my state. Agencies that tended to treat them as perpetrators, even when they were victims, had their behavior changed the most. But even the more progressive police departments, and of course any number of labor- and benefit-related agencies, also got a few notches more understanding and accepting.

TL;DR: sex workers are people, sex work is work, and the road to utopia is paved with extremely boring legislation and administrative decisions.

[teabree-shark]

[m0thmancore]

[cryptotheism]

What sets the mysteries apart from other elements of Greek religion is their focus on ceremony and personal transformation. The Greco-Roman world was full of public ceremonies in which government officials might sacrifice a bull and recite some prayers for a crowd, but these ceremonies often only marked an occasion. The beginning of a harvest, the return of an army, the swearing-in of a new government official, etc. The value of a mystery rite was personal and transformative. The ritual was built around how it changed the participants. They marked a change not in the seasons or politics, but within the self. There are also the more practical aspects of Greek mystery rites that should not simply be left implied. A weeklong holiday of feasting and carousing, culminating in taking drugs and performing in a secret play enacting one’s own death, sounds like a blast. It is no wonder they attracted peasants and emperors alike.

Mystery Rites, today on Patreon