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itâs weird how people will try and talk about transess in regards to people like Marsha and be like âoh well they called themselves gay so they were just gay menâ when likeâŚif you knew anything about that era and how transness was navigated then, you would know that gay was a catch all term for relatively any deviation from the gender and sexual norm. There have been multiple trans women from that era that have explicitly said that they didnât have the same terminology as we do now so they just called themselves gay because thatâs what they knew. thatâs a part of the reason why the term âgay rightsâ has been the go to phrase when talking about any sort of movement that includes the entire community. but y'all donât ever crack open a book and get some sort of satisfaction from talk out your neck and ass simultaneously so.
Suzanne and Lorna are very gentle and kind people with mental illnesses that distort their perception of reality and make it hard for others to understand them. So Iâm so glad they find understanding in one another, because other characters often just see their illnesses; and both these women are so much more than that.
You can be lonely without being alone, and alone without being lonely
Lebanese women hang eerie wedding dresses from Beirut seafront in rape law protest                Â
A parliamentary committee has voted to abolish archaic legislation but activists step up pressure ahead of 15 May vote
            Bethan McKernan            Beirut         Â
24/04/2017
Activists campaigning to get Lebanon to abolish an old law that allows rapists to escape punishment for their crimes as long as they marry the survivor have staged a powerful protest on Beirutâs Corniche.
Thirty-one wedding dresses representing each day of the month in which women could be subject to further abuse by attackers who marry them were strung up on the Lebanese capitalâs famous seafront to draw attention to Article 522 of the law addressing rape, assault and forced marriage.
Swaying in the breeze between the palms, they looked like corpses. Abaad â a Lebanese charity focused on womenâs rights and helping domestic abuse survivors â staged a similar protest last December, in which women wearing wedding dresses and bandages splattered with red paint demonstrated outside parliament.
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/middle-east/lebanon-women-beirut-wedding-dress-rape-law-protest-seafront-corniche-water-abaad-jean-oghassabian-a7698756.html
My girl spoke nothing but fucking TRUTH. Now thatâs this kind of Women we need our girls to look up too.
Who is she?
Sarah Kendzior.
Sheâs an expert in authoritarianism and has accurately predicted almost everything that is happening - her unflinching insight and analysis is terrifying but invaluable right now. Well worth following on twitter.
fucking
why did i never see this until now
I love that she barely even opened her eyes to look at those men. She said allat with a veil of âstfu Iâm so doneâ over her face, it was incredible.
i think the most egregious example of the manic pixie dream girl trope was this play i but I just remembered seeing it, several years agoâŚÂ
it was about this sad-sack guy driving across the country to try and reunite his old band for one last show
heâs accompanied by this girl who he was in the band with, back in the day⌠and he was in love with her then, and sheâs cool & smart & funny & talks only to him for the entire play, even when the rest of the band joins him on the drive
& at the end of the play it turns out that she was a ghost the whole time, nobody else in the play could see or hear her, & the âlast showâ he kept referring to is actually going to be her funeral wake bcs she died..
That her ghost had accompanied them on this trip bcs he was grieving & she wanted to help him let go of herâŚ
which, you know, was a surprise & it was really emotional & legit the play was pretty good
But I just started thinking about it randomlyâŚ
And I keep being struck by the fact that the play only works if the entire audience is so used to the idea that a female character would literally only speak to the main male character for the entire length of a narrative.
Would only converse with him, interact with him, even when there were other people around.
That even as he talked about what he was doing next, she never discussed their future goals. She never touched any props or anyone other than him.Â
That nothing she did or said would genuinely have anything to do with herself as a person, except in the context of how he felt about her.Â
The entire play hinges on the audience not expecting anything hinky about a female character who acts like that,
& most of the audience bought it, hook, line, and sinker.
even I did. there was genuine feeling of surprise in the room
and I justâŚ
A woman can literally be an incorporeal ghost & as long as she is emotionally supportive of a man we see her as a fully realistically person
if that isnât a sad indictment of how female characters get treated idk what is, honestly
I wanna reblog this everyday
lol full offense but stop policing how frequently bisexuals date either genders. just cause iâve dated 5 girls back to back doesnât make me a lesbian, just like another bisexual woman who has dated 5 men back to back doesnât make her straight. being bisexual means the person has the potential to be attracted to more than one gender and thatâs it. what they do with it is their business so just let us live for crying out loud let us live.
â 5 girls back to back doesnât make me a lesbian â Kinda makes it likely that you are more into girls than guys thoâ. Guys are much more available as partners for women unless they are quite unattractive. But letâs imagine it was exactly equal that you would select a girl or a guy - that their sex genuinely was irrelevant, and that there was no difference in availability. Iâm rusty at maths, but from memory, the chance itâs coincidence is (1/(2^5)) *100% = (1/32) *100% =Â 0.03125Â *100% =3.125% Feel free to correct my maths - itâs been about 35 years now since i did probability. But if i was a betting man - iâm going to say my money is going to be on a woman for your next partner. Maybe you are a lesbian, and maybe dudes need to know that so they donât get hurt? Just a thought.
hoooooomygodddhooomyygodddhoooooooomygodddlmaaaaaaooooooooooooooooo
Why are men like this??????
hold on a sec...did someone just mansplain bisexuality? its 2017 and weâre STILL dealing with this bi-erasure nonsense?! what the actual fuck people?!
OKAY FUCKBOY MC DOUCHE LET ME EXPLAIN YOU A THING: ATTRACTION IS NOT SOMETHING YOU CAN COMPUTE WITH MATH YOU IGNORANT FUCKWIT, GENDER AVAILABILITY IS NOT THE ONLY VARIABLE YOU ACTUAL SHITTRUMPET! TAKE YOUR PROBABILITY AND SHOVE IT UP YOUR URETHRA DRY, STAY OUT OF SHIT THAT DOESNâT INVOLVE YOU IN THE SLIGHTEST AND TRY TO BE LESS OF AN ASSHAT.
that is all, I bit you good day.
Perks of Dating a Necromancer
(because I had this conversation with my friend and I feel like I should post this here)
1. Skeleton War will be an actual thing.
2. Your pet is dead? Not for long!
3. Receiving creepily adorable Valentineâs Day presents (eg. âHuman blood is red, but some of their veins are blue. Last year I gave you my heart, so this year Iâll give you two.â)
4. Death puns.
5. Youâll be totally safe during a zombie apocalypse thanks to âControl Undeadâ
6. Youâre dating someone who is totally capable of creating an invincible army of undead. I mean, come on.
7. UNDEAD DRAGONS.
8. Theyâre great if you need to hide a body.
9. Skeleton puns.
10. Theyâre massive help if youâre struggling with biology..
11. They can fix that poor little dead bird you found yesterday at the park.
12. ââTill death do us partâ no longer applies.
13. Neither does âYOLOâ
14. They usually dress in black, so if you like that too, you can steal their clothes if you want. (oversized hoodies that smell a little like death, but only a little ftw)
15. They can make a few skeletons/zombies do a wide variety of silly dances to cheer you up.
16. Halloween.
17. They may tell you what happens after death.
18. Hearing them do an impression of Frankenstein when raising the dead. (âITâS ALIIIIIIIIIIIVEâ)
19. You know the skeleton rave from the music video of âHey Girls, Hey Boysâ by Chemical Brothers? Yeah.
20. Watching horror movies together and hearing them complain about how such-and-such is a wrong way to raise the dead, and anyway thatâs not how the human skeleton works etc. etc.
21. âAre you a graveyard? Because Iâm dead inside and want to bury myself in you.â
22. The whole âskulls, bones and old booksâ aesthetic
23. Want to meet J.R.R Tolkien? Terry Pratchett? Christopher Lee? No problem!
24. The same as above, but with family members.
25. Hearing random facts about the human body/bones/life/death etc. everyday.
26. They can probably bring back extinct animals as long as they have the skeletons (I think)
27. âJurassic Park: Skeleton Editionâ. Only the dinosaurs arenât trying to kill you.
28. Quiet walks through the graveyards.
29. Throwing a mini zombie apocalypse on Halloween and/or April Fools.
30. Since they stay among the dead for so long, they usually appreciate any living creature staying close to them. (ie. extremely adorable cuddling sessions. Necromancers make the best cuddlers, shut up.)
professor: so why do we think this first generation of college educated women mostly didn't marry?
me: they were lesbians
everyone: [laughter]
professor: no like stop laughing...that's the correct answer.
What did we do to deserve Bill Nye
LET THE MAN SPEAK FOR US
Hereâs an awesome little piece of history:
Archaeologists in the Burnt City have discovered what appears to be an ancient prosthetic eye. What makes this discovery exceptionally awesome is the striking description of how the owner and her false eye would have appeared while she was still alive and blinking:
[The eye] has a hemispherical form and a diameter of just over 2.5 cm (1 inch). It consists of very light material, probably bitumen paste. The surface of the artificial eye is covered with a thin layer of gold, engraved with a central circle (representing the iris) and gold lines patterned like sun rays. The female remains found with the artificial eye was 1.82 m tall (6 feet), much taller than ordinary women of her time. On both sides of the eye are drilled tiny holes, through which a golden thread could hold the eyeball in place. Since microscopic research has shown that the eye socket showed clear imprints of the golden thread, the eyeball must have been worn during her lifetime. The womanâs skeleton has been dated to between 2900 and 2800 BCE.Â
So she was an extraordinarily tall woman walking around wearing an engraved golden eye patterned with rays like a tiny sun. What an awesome sight that must have been.
[via TYWKIWDBI]
Wow.
SOMEONE DRAW HER PLEASE
CHALLENGE ACCEPTED!!
CAN WE TALK ABOUT HOW AN ANCIENT CRAFTSMAN WAS PRESENTED WITH PEOPLE LOOKING FOR HELP TO NORMALIZE THEIR DISABILITY. AND THEN SAID âNAH FUCK THIS WEâRE GOING TO
MAKE YOU LOOK BADASS.âÂ
i love her
i still love her
No, but.
She might have come in asking to me made badass. Like.
âHullo, people.have been giving me grief for losing my eye, so I want to convince them that I traded my left eye for super-powers. Can you do that?â
âYeah, sounds awesome, just let me in on the con too!â
âSweetness.â
lets play a game of: did i really do this or did i just think about doing it so hard that i constructed a false memory of it
this is a symptom of dissociation
I DO THIS ALL THE FUCKING TIME HOLY SHIT
BOY could I go for some affection rn or maybe death
if someone does the âfine, youâre right, iâm clearly a terrible person, iâm satan, iâm the worst person alive, i should just dieâ thing in response to criticism of their harmful behavior, they are trying to manipulate ppl and flip the situation around so that they look like a victim
stop tolerating this in 2k17 tbh. like really and truly, if you or your friend thinks this is okay pls call the hotline on the bottom of the screen and learn how to take responsibility for your bad behaviorÂ
The bad thing is I do this on a regular basis. Not because I want to manipulate people, but because thatâs actually how I feel. Iâm bad at receiving concrit. I canât say that everyone who reacts this way feels the same as I do, butâŚnot every case is like that.
have you considered that, regardless of your intentions, reacting in such an exaggerated way would make it very difficult for anyone to criticize you or tell you that youâre harming people with your behavior? iâm not interested in searching out peopleâs motives, i donât really care why someone does or says manipulative things. being unable or unwilling to simply apologize and not make it about themselves is a solid indicator that a person is not interested in being held accountable for their bad behavior, and people, especially the injured parties in question, shouldnât have to tolerate it.
take responsibility for your bad behavior 2k17 tbh
Okay, life lesson time.Â
When I was in my late teens and early 20s, I kept getting involved with people who would say, âOh, Iâm a bad personâ any time I brought up ANYTHING that was the least bit of a disagreement.Â
Like, âPlease donât leave my X on the floorâ would get, âOh, Iâm a horrible person!â
HEREâS WHY THIS IS A HUGELY PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIOR, and if you think Iâm calling you out and you think youâre about to shut down, take a breath, remember that this is about learning, and keep reading.
What is important is what happened after. My boyfriend might say, âOh, Iâm just an awful boyfriendâ and instead of him acknowledging the BEHAVIOR and working on fixing it, heâd get me trying to buck him up for the next half hour, telling him he was a good person. The behavior that started it all would not change.
Well, things led to things and I went back home to live for a while, and found that the same exact thing was happening⌠with my mother.
And then I learned about pattern arguments. Pattern arguments are the ones where you keep having the same nonproductive argument over and over again. They donât all follow this pattern, but this is a really common one.
The trick?
BREAK THE PATTERN
First you have to know what the pattern is. In this case: 1. Grievance 2. Self deprecation 3. Ego stroking So, with my mother, we started in on one of these, and she said, âI guess Iâm just a terrible mother.â And instead of reassuring her, instead of derailing the issue and letting it go⌠I said, âWhen you say that, it makes me wonder how terrible a daughter I could be that you would think you were a bad mother. We have this conversation this way over and over, and the problem that I have always gets pushed aside in favor of trying to make you feel better. When youâre willing to have a real conversation about this, Iâm happy to talk to you, but Iâm bored with this argument, so Iâll see you later if you want to really talk.â And I left the room. Now, my mom is a reasonably self-aware person, and does a lot of hard emotional work, and so she got it, very quickly. 10 minutes later she came out and found me, and we had a real conversation about whatever the hell the issue really was, and we have literally NEVER had that particular pattern argument again in 23 years. Boyfriend came to visit. I was upset about something, he started in on the âIâm just a shitty boyfriendâ thing⌠and my response? âYep. You are.â His jaw dropped. He blinked. And I said, âLook, thatâs what you do. You say shit like that and it means you donât have to change your behavior, and Iâm tired of the pattern we have where I tell you something isnât working for me, you tell me youâre terrible, and I spend half an hour making you feel better. Iâm tired of it and Iâm not doing it anymore. If youâre willing to have an actual conversation about this, and not just the same old argument, Iâm game. But this thing we do where you talk yourself down and I butter you up? Is boring. And Iâm over it.â We also did not have that argument again. (The relationship finally ended for real a while after, but it ended in a grown-up way, and not with a ridiculous meaningless fight.) When you knock yourself down, the gut instinct for the people around you is to pick you up. But that means youâre not pulling your weight in the relationship. Youâre making them do the work and youâre not actually hearing them. So that brings us to another point:
How to deal with criticism
Okay, so if youâre not going to knock yourself down when someone says something negative about you, what DO you do? We donât actually train people to take criticism well. But it is an art and a skill and NECESSARY to finding emotional stability in the face of a critical world.
I see it as a flow chart, but since the flow chart I made for it ended up in a book that I donât own the copyright to (not a big deal) Iâll write out the decision tree here instead: 1. Someone offers criticism (constructive or not!)
2. Listen and think about it without immediately trying to defend yourself. You can say, âOkay, I need a moment to take that in and think about it because I want to understand it.â Or something else appropriate to the situation. It is okay to ask for time to think in most circumstances. Most people will appreciate that you are thinking about their words instead of immediately getting defensive or counterattacking. Think about whether what they are saying is valid, might be valid or is not valid.Â
3A. If it is valid, then you have a choice. You can try to fix the behavior or you can acknowledge that it is a valid criticism but decide you arenât likely to fix it. Start by acknowledging the validity of the criticism, and then say what youâre going to do to fix it, or say that itâs valid but it isnât something youâre willing (or possibly able) to change, or say that itâs a valid criticism and youâll need to think about possible solutions. They may have a suggestion. Taking it or not is also a choice.Â
3B. If youâre not sure itâs valid, but it might be, tell them, âI really need to give this some more thought.â or âCan you tell me more about this? Iâm not sure I understand the issue well.â  Or âIf you can point me at some reading material or search terms, Iâd like to study this before I decide what Iâm going to do.âÂ
3C. If you know it is not a valid criticism, STOP a moment, and look at WHY they are making it. This is where Active Listening can be very helpful. âI hear you saying that X is a problem. I donât see it that way right now but Iâd like to understand better why you do.â Or if you think they donât have enough information, âI hear you saying X, but my understanding of the issue is Y. Hereâs what I know about it if youâre ready to listen.â If theyâre just looking for a fight, tell them youâre not interested in fighting, and disentangle yourself.Â
4. If the criticism is something you are going to listen to and take action on, tell them what kind of action youâre going to take. If itâs something youâre hearing and thinking about, tell them that. If itâs not something youâre going to do anything about or itâs just wrong, thank them for their input and move on.
Literally never is it going to be helpful to say, âOh, Iâm just a terrible person.â Thatâs very much like a nonapology-apology in terms of how unhelpful it is to any conversation. Itâs kind of worse because it actually expects emotional labor from someone who is already having to bring up something unpleasant with you. Think about what they say Decide whether youâre going to do something about it Do the thing, or tell them youâre not going to do the thing. Donât demand emotional labor from other people when you were the one who messed up.Â
Apologize if appropriate. This is all predicated on the notion that youâre talking to someone who actually wants to communicate and isnât just an asshole on the attack. Because seriously, the whole âIâm a terrible personâ thing? Boring as fuck. Knock that shit off. Maybe you are. Maybe you arenât. But take responsibility and have a little self-respect and donât make others pick your emotional dirty towels off the metaphorical bathroom floor.Â
I love the idea behind this and Iâm sure it works on rational people. but I know for a fact if I tried this on my mom Iâd never hear the end of it, Iâd be on my deathbed and sheâs be there still alive through pure determination and spite going on about how disrespectful I was that one time such and such years ago.
