If you are going to have literally no criteria for being queer, then how can you say that anyone isn't? How can you refer to any person in any context as cis/straight?
If someone tells me theyâre queer I believe them. If someone tells me theyâre straight I believe them. This isnât that hard
What so like a cis het allo person can just call themselves queer now?
What problem, exactly, are you so concerned about? I donât know if youâve noticed but queerness is still very much marginalized, itâs not as âtrendyâ as people try to act, and straight people arenât tripping over themselves to call themselves queer. And if youâre worried about being âtrickedâ by âinfiltratorsâ, like, you know those people can just say that theyâre gay? Like they can lie? Theyâre not going to try and âsabotageâ queer spaces by saying âhey I donât have any marginalized orientations or identities but Iâm still totally queerâ, theyâd just say âhey Iâm super gay, love people of the same genderâ
What, concretely, are you worried about happening? Whatâs the worst thing that could happen due to inclusivity? Because the worst things that can happen due to gatekeeping are very well-known, and Iâm much more scared of that
It's less that it's trendy and more like, I like having my queer-only spaces. Also queer is a bad word. All our words are bad words. They aren't oppressed, and for a cishetallo to use a slur as their identity feels a little demeaning to me. Like I dont hate them of course but the A was never for Ally . It's not queer to be normal
Interacting with them is cool and having them at pride I'm not opposed to but as a person who's queer it does feel like they're kinda dressing it up
Im gonna be honest Ive never seen people like that but like, I'm allowed to not like it
Iâm not going to distrust and exclude people because of a problem you made up. If someone tells me theyâre queer, I believe them
