i'm bi and so are my characters

31 year old bi white nonbinary (they/them) with an MFA in creative writing. This blog is mostly me shouting about my favorite media into the void and posting writing related stuff including inspiration. I follow back as: ponnearponfarponwhereveryouare. my other blogs are: maiaisbia and biwenqing

[ghostapop]

i feel like a lot of fandoms pride themselves on being gayer than the source material but have they considered being less racist and less misogynistic than the source material as well . could be revolutionary

[luna-azzurra]

What helped me write trauma better is remembering that the nervous system learns predictions. If danger used to come after quiet, calm can feel threatening. If kindness used to come with a price, kindness can feel suspicious. So healing is not just “they know they’re safe now.” Healing is the slow, annoying, deeply unfair process of teaching the body that the old prediction is not always the present truth.

[rembrandtswife]

Radiant Star: not really a spoiler

*opens Radiant Star*

*genderfuckery in the first paragraph*

Yeahhh, this is what I'm here for

[asaethiel]

1/2 of the messiest polycule in the queer housing facebook group AKA i just finished imperial radch

[renthony]

It's wild to watch the phrase "tumblr sexyman" morph into "man that tumblr thinks is sexy," because when I first saw the phrase come into use, I always saw it used in reference to the phenomenon of "when presented with a wide array of fictional characters, tumblr will always pick the skinny white man to obsess over, and if the fan-favorite character has no canonical human appearance, the fandom will inevitably create a popular fanon of the character as as a skinny white man."

When I hear "tumblr sexyman," I think of Cecil Night Vale being constantly depicted as a skinny white man instead of literally anything else. I think of the background character white men who get elevated over protagonists that are women, people of color, or otherwise not the white man power fantasy.

"Tumblr sexyman" is, like. An insult. I DON'T want any of my blorbos to win a "tumblr sexyman" poll. "Tumblr sexyman" is the exact opposite of what I want my own OCs to be. If any of my characters ever get called "tumblr sexyman," I will have to immediately re-evaluate myself and the art I'm making.

[renthony]

Things I think of when I hear "tumblr sexyman":

Cecil Night Vale, as previously mentioned.

Oncelercest, because if there aren't two skinny white men to ship, tumblr fandom will start shipping the skinny white man with himself.

Bill Cipher inexplicably being fanon'd as a white twink despite being a fucking triangle.

Everyone fawning over Marvel Loki while shoving every woman and Black person in the MCU aside.

The way nearly every single character in Hazbin Hotel has the same "tall and skinny" body type, along with all the criticisms Black audience members have made about the issues with Alastor's design.

The way tumblr got obsessed with the white man villain in Sinners.

[post-troy-stress-disorder]

stephen maturin gotta be one of the characters of all time. he's five foot six & 120 lbs soaking wet. he successfully improvises a cranioplasty on a ship deck with a silver coin. he likes birds and critters. he's shit at math. he knows like 10 languages. he recited the entire aeneid in latin from memory while delirious. he discovered a new tortoise species and named it after his bestie. he's a spy for the royal navy despite knowing fuckall about ships. he's high on opioids all the time. he's irish catholic

[juneleaf]

not arguing w a dude w has big brown eyes. whatever u say beautiful

[3liza]

no-dopamine baddies approaching every single list of tasks like "which of these things will cause the most amount of personal suffering to me if left undone"

[3liza]

guess who just read yet another list of "tools to combat decision paralysis" that was mostly reward-based and got mad

[3liza]

hey this is really insightful. do you have any advice about identifying the linchpin task? i mean obviously "think about it really hard" might be all there is to it. basically i think this concept is good and would welcome more commentary from you, if you have more to add

[ocean-again]

the trouble is that Thinking (or at least applying the Talking Brain to the task) is counterproductive here, because that's the voice going "we need to clean the kitchen, why aren't we cleaning the kitchen??" and in these circumstances, giving that sector of the mind more oversight won't help.

it is necessary instead to sit down and kinda try and quiet that voice, and then start with considering my physical needs, kinda mentally run through the maslow's pyramid from bottom to top as if I'm dealing with a little kid throwing a tantrum. like, did we sleep last night? have we had lunch? am I lonely? should I call my aunt? do I want to finish the book I've been reading? do I want to boil chicken bones today? what's bothering me? I'll then try out a couple of things that seem likely and while they may not be The Thing it's useful to build momentum anyways.

but like, if I give it space, the answer will float upwards into view and it's usually something I've been putting off for a long-ass time.

and it'll sound So Stupid to the Talking Mind, who has important tasks that it's trying to get done, but we're going to tell that voice that the kitchen will wait while we take down the Christmas tree, fold the laundry that's been in the basket for a week, sketch the idea, call my aunt, whatever it is, and inevitably the Linchpin Task will take about half an hour, and once it's done I can feel the weight lifted off my shoulders.

Linchpin Tasks are sometimes that it's time to deal with The Emotions At The Bottom Of The Pile, which is when a pile of stuff builds up to cover whatever is at the bottom being emotionally fraught. (letters, the shirt I wore the day my grandpa died, y'know, The Emotions)

I've gotten better at identifying when those piles are starting to accrete and dealing with them before they get bad, but like, you gotta be able to identify the pile of stuff your eyeballs keep slipping off because it feels too emotionally difficult to deal with right now, and like, learning to ignore the part of the mind that wants to assign task priority levels is a counter-intuitive way to get things done.

I hope this makes sense. basically, when it comes to doing stuff, do the thing that's most emotionally fraught first, especially if you can come up with a bunch of excuses to not do it.

[fortheninth]

image description: tags reading #I tend to go for "which of these tasks is the secret task my subconscious has decided is the linchpin of my productivity" #sometimes that task is not something that's actually urgent in a normal sense but if I don't do it first I will put myself in waiting mode #and like I don't want to be waiting on myself to do a thing that I'm specifically not doing because it's not important

[finngualart]

Painted for the art contest hosted by Toby’s News on Twitter and IG.

[scribeherself]

people will say “they’re only friends” and then show me two people who would crawl through broken glass to hear the other laugh once. two people who have memorized each other’s coffee orders, fears, childhood stories, and emergency contacts. two people who would haunt each other’s houses as ghosts. be serious.

[scribeherself]

Just an FYI—the original intention of this post was to challenge the way people say only friends, as though friendship is somehow lesser than other forms of love. As if being deeply known, cherished, and chosen by another person could ever be a small thing. Normalize profound platonic love. Some of the most fulfilling, transformative, and enduring relationships we will ever have are friendships. 🫶🏼

[thedoubteriswise]

the thing about diana villiers is that I can't even be mad at her at this point. is she making several other people unnecessarily miserable? of course. but what else is someone like her going to do if they're stuck being a woman in england in 1803. if she could just have an IUD and her own checking account she'd be thriving

[starstrider-productions]

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[saltavenegar]

Queequeg: henceforth we are married

Ishmael: bosom friends :)

Queequeg giving Ishmael half of his money: married

Ishmael: oh— married married

[sclappin]

How convenient it is to attach small, useful objects to your clothes at waist level

[prideandprejudice]

HOLLANOV + PRIDE AND PREJUDICE (2005)

[beyondwhimsy]

The four stages of lizard fashion according to my good friend Johnathan Harker

1. Oh no The Horror

2. He’s doing it again 🙄

3. When in Transylvania do as the vampires do

4. I wish I had a gun

[bisexuallegolas]

this whole scene is gold but I have to pull out this part that truly highlights the way they are married. they need their private swim and gossip time!!!! bonus if there are creatures for stephen!!! adorable!!!