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[magnoliamyrrh]

the year is 2035. the new beauty standard is for women to cut their ears off, as ears are a masculine trait which make the face look too big and hearing isnt necessary as it doesnt align with being demure. evil feminists say perhaps this is unnecessary and ears are natural. women are agressively proclaiming they are cutting their ears off due to sensory issues

[anjomecanico]

I don't want women to "feel empowered", I want them to actually have power

[thatsonemorbidcorvid]

I don’t want women to “feel safe”, I want them to actually be safe

[hydrachea]

> turns on my computer

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> opens my email

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> launches a software

> disables a new AI fea

[yesterdaysprint]

Leicester Chronicle, England, July 11, 1931

[biac-091299]

Being a radfem is like being atheist in a theocracy

[loveridden1999]

[bitterbutesweet]

[classic-jamie]

Oh also! Both for pride and because I want to post more of my original stuff here, here's a zine I made for my recent screenprinting class! :p It's called Masculine Women and it's about being masculine and a woman! Fun fact, also, when you unfold the real thing, there's a big poster on the back! It looks like this:

[honeyblankets]

one of the most despicable parts of male supremacy is the strategic refusal to acknowledge female oppression. you can never address a problem it nobody admits it exists. there is no guilty party if we ignore the problem.

you will watch the news and see story after story of a woman being killed by a man but no one will call it femicide. you will hear statistic after statistic about women being raped/assaulted/trafficked by men but no one will call it misogyny. you hear songs and watch shows where men are degrading and abusing women but nobody blinks. there’s a “male loneliness epidemic” narrative but not a “female suffering crisis” narrative.

[anomalys-bane]

does he respect and love women or does he just find femininity endearing. does he admire the strength of women when its unrelated to childbirth and motherhood. does he get along with women or does he just find them easier to be around than men. does he respect and appreciate unconventionally attractive women. how does he treat abrasive, autonomous women.

so many 'respectful' men run around having a noble savage view of women and we're expected to gush over him and treat him like some rare god. and unfortunately women are so starved of anything close to respect that they eat it up every time.

[genderisareligion]

American women and girls everywhere say thank you to First Wave Feminists for among suffrage also raising the age of consent from a measley fucking 10 years old in the 1800s

[bubbtub]

When we say girls and women should be afforded the protection of sex exclusive sporting events, it's not entirely because of biological differences between males and us. Clearly these differences are less present in certain age groups.

These girls are absolutely destroying the other team, but look at how the boys are already putting their hands on them and shoving them to the ground in retaliation. They cannot handle losing to an all girls' team, so they're forgoing sportsmanship and honor. Yes, the boys may learn that a win isn't assured to them just because they're male, but the girls will learn to expect male violence if they succeed. Good on the ref for calling it out.

[griefplot]

this is what i'm talking about when i say leftist men use their bullshit ideology to be violent misogynists. it's not praxis to support women beaters. as if chris brown isnt rich af either.

[mini-wrants]

Actually watching this stalking show on Netflix is super illuminating because:

Researchers being quoted are like “mostly these men will keep reoffending and we can say jail time might cure them but um. Unfortunately the data doesn’t support that.”

Absolutely none of the men will own up to having done something wrong. One of the men talks about the trauma he and his wife went through together: he accidentally killed her son with a tractor, got into drugs over the guilt, kept harassing her about wanting to kill her, and then went to her work with a noose in his car screaming he would kill her. Another man stole $100,000 from a woman and then started stalking her because she wouldn’t “listen to his apology”. Another man actually previously killed a girlfriend and the stalking victims testified against him on the stand, because he confided the murder story to her to scare her.

What’s interesting though is they do have one female stalker. She started leaving little voodoo dolls and shit on her husband’s ex-wife’s doorstep and car because she was sending nude photos of the women to her husband. Her story made national news. She was put on probation because she never did anything violent, but part of the terms of the probation was she had no contact whatsoever with her own mother for 8 years. The terms of this woman’s no-contact order with her mother were stricter than the no-contact orders given to men against their victims after they were imprisoned (all of the men either attempt to or continue to stalk their victims from prison). The female stalker did own up to what she did and expressed remorse immediately.

Anyway.

[mini-wrants]

What’s also very interesting is how the legal system has basically legalized saying you’re going to kill someone as long as the person making the threats is a man and the person being threatened is a woman.

A man kept punching out the windows of a woman’s home when she wasn’t there, sent her thousands of texts about being camped outside her home, asked her neighbor about guns at 6 in the morning, memorized her work and gym schedule. Because none of this was “a threat to bodily harm” it was all fine. The stalking victim had to hire an attorney to find other victims he did beat in order to prove he was a real risk to her.

The man was totally aware that as long as she didn’t have his face on videotape while kicking in the windows of her house, he couldn’t be touched. He repeated multiple times that she never had him on tape breaking into her home, therefore it wasn’t him and he shouldn’t be in prison.

Like….

[strategicdefiantchaosreigns]

These posts are dishonestly framed and it's gross, tbh.

[mini-wrants]

I’m curious about what’s dishonest and gross about relaying what these men and women stated about their actual, real-life stalking cases.

Was it the part where a man stated that because he wasn’t on tape breaking into her home, he shouldn’t be in jail for trying to break into her home? That he knew that without cameras it would be very hard for a prosecutor to do anything to him? Even though he had also left hundreds of voicemails detailing her daily movements and outfits to let her know he was watching her at all times?

Was it the part where a man stole $100,000 from his employer but kept breaking a restraining order even while in jail because he “just wanted to apologize” to her? And then later gave a fellow inmate a detailed layout of her home to put a hit on her and then the inmate turned him in and the map of her home was accurate?

Or was it the part that the jails these men were housed in let them continue to make phone calls to their victims, while a female stalker was court ordered to not contact her mother because her crime was committed with her mother, and was following the terms of that court order.

Was it the part where the researcher in Episode 1 stated that data doesn’t back that these offenders will stop offending? That rehabilitation doesn’t necessarily work, which was kind of supported by the stalkers themselves who all had multiple victims (except the one woman who was stalking her husband’s ex).

What was disgusting about my framing.

[mini-wrants]

Most verbal harassment and stalking is totally and completely legal. Even when stalkers start to break the law, it’s hard to prove to a jury they’re a physical danger to their victims or to the surrounding public.

But simultaneously, stalking tends to be an excellent harbinger of future violence against that victim - once you’re kicking in the front door of a persons property and leaving her dozens of voicemails a day, there’s a higher likelihood that the stalkers next step is actually breaking into the house and hurting or killing her.

I’m sorry that these cases upset you - they upset me too. But my framing is correct.

[labrysv]

It's not progressive to say "women are oppressed so they should be brutalized in films for the sake of realism". Hate to break it to you, but most men are sadistic towards women, not empathetic. The male film director who recycles the violent pornography he’s consumed isn’t challenging anything. He's only desensitizing an entire audience to cruelty against women.

[gnomebutch]

TRAs will call you bioessentalist and then proceed to sincerely say that there’s a difference between male and female brains which impacts what gender stereotypes you prefer

[avobrav]

The dude at my job who says he's a woman said everyone in his family knew something was up because he liked Barbies and playing frilly dress up as a kid.

Then I've got a friend who's a woman who says she's a man, and she says her family knew something was up when as a kid she was more into wearing suits and had more fun playing pretend as male characters from action and comedy movies.

Not only are these two people being bioessentialist - they're letting MARKETERS determine the essentialist part. Men in boardrooms are deciding which of their products are for women vs men, and trans people treat those decisions as a bible for what women and men should be.