EQUROMIC: a gender related to being a knight based moon god; this gender is related to the full moon, knighthood, the colors white/blue/purple, guardianship, softness, water/rain, godness, depression, love, and melancholy! ⊹ ⁺
JULICESSE: a gender related to being a princess based sun goddess; this gender is related to the bright sun, princesshood, the colors white/pink/yellow, guardianship, softness, light, goddessness, sunflowers, love, and hyperactivity! ⊹ ⁺
flag/coined by me! requested by anon!
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— “equ” from “eques”, meaning knight! “romic” from romeo! “juli” from juliet! “cesse” from “princesse”, meaning princess!
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This is a little different from the stuff we usually make/do, but after a lot of consideration we decided it would be helpful to coin/create a new tag! Really, it’s meant to be more an online community than just a tag, but we’ll see if it takes off. Without further ado:
#traumageninclusive
This is a tag for all of the traumagenic and traumabased systems (as well as any other plurals who have experienced trauma) that are uncomfortable with how much of the traumagenic and disordered plural community is anti-endogenic and medicalizes systems, as well as how trauma survivor and recovery spaces in general pathologist plurality and exclude systems who do not fit strict medical models. It is a tag open to any system/multiple/median/plural who is inclusive of all forms of plurality (i.e. who is not a sysmed/anti-endogenic/anti-non-traumagenic) and who has trauma which is significant to their experience of plurality. It is meant to be a tag and community focused on trauma and trauma recovery as it relates to plural experience and in general uniting the community of all plurals who have experienced trauma. The only requirements for using the tag/participating in the community are that you are not anti-non-traumagenic or anti-non-disordered systems/a sysmed and that you are a system/plural who has experienced trauma. You do not have to be disordered or traumagenic, but you should be aware that this is a community/tag that is centering those plurals and their experiences, as well as all other experiences of trauma and related mental health issues.
We really want to create a community for all plural trauma survivors that is safe for and accessible to all systems. We know from disordered systems we have spoken to that a lot of disordered (DID/OSDD) system communities can be very exclusionary and that makes it difficult for many survivors to access recovery communities/spaces and important resources that come with them. This is especially true for mixed origin systems who still have significant experiences of trauma and who may also be traumagenic/disordered but cannot access trauma recovery communities that are exclusionary and that fundamentally do not respect them or don’t allow them to participate at all. It’s also true of many traumagenic and disordered systems who are uncomfortable with or feel unsafe in exclusionist communities, as we’ve heard from many traumagenic DID and OSDD systems. This tag/community is all about making spaces for plurals of all kinds to share a trauma informed space. It’s a community for resilience, recovery, respect, support, and compassionately sharing and discussing the unique life experience of both being plural and having experienced trauma.
There is also a naming scheme for specific versions of this tag. By adding a specific type of system after “traumageninclusive” you’ll make the tag that’s exclusive to those kinds of systems. For example:
#traumageninclusive traumagenic
This is the tag for traumagenic systems in the traumageninclusive community/using the tag. It is exclusive to traumagenic systems.
#traumageninclusive OSDD
This is the tag for OSDD systems in the traumageninclusive community/using the tag. It is exclusive to OSDD systems.
So on and so fourth. You can use any system modifier or origin to add on to the tag in order to use the tag/community exclusive to those systems. So, “#traumageninclusive endogenic” for the endogenic exclusive tag, “#traumageninclusive disordered” for the disordered system exclusive tag, “#traumageninclusive DID” for the DID exclusive tag, “#traumageninclusive mixed origin” for the mixed origin exclusive tag, “#traumageninclusive median” for the median exclusive tag, etc.
A little PAQ (Preemptively Asked Questions) is underneath the cut. If you have any questions feel free to ask us, but please read that first!
Can I participate in this community/use this tag if I am not/my system is not traumagenic or traumabased?
Yes! The only requirements are that you in some way fall under the plural umbrella and have experienced trauma. This is a tag/community for plural trauma survivors, and anyone who is a plural trauma survivor can participate, regardless of origin or system function. However, please only use the specific tags or participate in the specific communities if they apply to you. For example, “#traumageninclusive OSDD” is the OSDD exclusive tag/community, so only use that and participate in that space if you have OSDD.
Why did you& make the tag if you& are not traumagenic/traumabased/disordered?
The short answer is that we are a plural system who has experienced trauma and the vast majority of trauma survivor or recovery spaces exclude us and many other systems, which leaves us left without the ability to access those kinds of supportive communities. Instead of trying to navigate the murky and stressful waters of trying to find communities that will tolerate us, we decided to create our own affirming online community for all plural trauma survivors.
The long answer is that we know that inclusive traumagenic and disordered systems are often excluded from survivor spaces just for being inclusive or are uncomfortable with those spaces due to how their exclusion negatively impacts all systems and can create hostile environments with grilling, fakeclaiming, and other issues. We wanted to create an online community/space where those systems could comfortably and safely engage in a trauma survivor/recovery community without having to worry about being excluded or disrespected. Not only this, but there are many endogenic and non-traumagenic systems who have significant experiences of trauma or who are traumabased that simply cannot access survivor/recovery communities and resources. A space for all systems who have experienced trauma is not a space that currently exists, so we wanted to create one, and a way to easily unite that community online. We also know how important it is for specific kinds of systems or people with specific conditions/disorders to have their own exclusive spaces, which is why we created the exclusive tag modifiers. This way there can be specific DID, OSDD, or disordered system communities that are safe and inclusive. One of our close friends is a mixed origin DID system, and we know from hearing their experiences that having these kinds of spaces is extremely helpful and important.
Why did you& pick the name you did for the tag?
A few reasons. The phrase “traumagenic exclusive space/traumagenic only” is often misused by exclusionary communities to mean “systems who meet strict medicalized models of plurality only” which is very alienating to many traumagenic systems who have had their terminology misused and appropriated in this way. Traumagenic systems are not all DID/OSDD/disordered systems, just systems who formed in some way as the result of trauma, and we wanted to subvert the way “traumagenic” (which is an inclusive term and was coined by an origin inclusive system alongside the term endogenic) has been used in exclusionary spaces to force all systems into medicalized models of plurality. We also wanted to highlight that this is a community that exists for plural trauma survivors to discuss and have a community for their unique experiences, which means that it’s a space which centers and highlights traumagenic and traumabased systems while being inclusive and allowing all systems the autonomy to fully define themselves and their own lived experiences.
sometimes, to be a better and happier person for yourself, you’ll have to be a “bad person” to others. it means you’ll have to disappoint some people along the way, establish some boundaries that might be hard for you to do, and remind yourself other people won’t understand your recovery process or even attempt to. if you are someone who people pleases a lot, it’s very easy to fall into the trap of fawning as a trauma response, but sometimes, you’ll need to displease certain people in order to help yourself.
To myself and anyone else who might need any of this:
You are a person.
You deserve the same rights as any other person.
You are not a disease.
You are not a living joke.
Your existence is not shameful.
What happened to you was wrong.
You are not responsible for other people’s actions.
There is nothing about you that “justifies” abuse.
You didn’t take it too seriously.
It doesn’t matter if they were “just joking”.
People having fun while hurting others does not erase the hurt or make it less important.
You are not weak.
It is really common to doubt your trauma or think it isn’t bad enough because other people have it worse. It is not helpful to compare. It hurt you, so it matters.
I think asking someone "hey did you go through severe, repeated trauma?" Is a rude question no matter your beliefs. Stop asking about system origin. Seriously. If someone wants to share, they'll share when/if they're comfortable.
I can't stop sysmeds from interacting just know I don't agree with y'all
Something "allies" need to understand is that you can't pick and choose. You can't say you feel fear around men and claim to be a trans ally, or an ally of queer men, or an ally of men of color, or an ally of disabled men. Once you say you're threatened by "strange men", you're letting trans men and queer men know that you don't see us as human, and that our gender and sexuality disgusts you. You're letting closeted trans women and non binary people know that they can't trust you. You're letting men of color know that you still have racist beliefs. You're letting men with disabilities know that they are perceived as threats for their appearance and behaviors.
You don't get to say that you're an ally if you treat men as anything less than human. Stop pretending that every man is white, abled, and cishet, and learn that not everyone you personally perceive as male is actually a man.
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