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[radforrads-deactivated20241129]

"It never happens" what about this? I feel so bad for this lady, it is straight up violating.

And the worst thing is that this phenomenon is becoming more and more frequent, it's not a rare thing

[radfemtwitter]

[louisevonsalome131629]

how! strong! must! stereotypes! attached! to! sex! be! that! people! believe! they! can! be! used! as! a! proxy! for! sex! itself!

[hag-raven]

what other oppressor group could identify as the group it oppresses? society is so deeply and thoroughly colonized by patriarchy that it cannot even recognize this form (and most other forms) of misogyny

[latinaradfem]

this is what a lot of men want it’s so terrifying

[radfemfessing]

Getting into a straight healthy relationship with a man IS a part of radfem agenda, believe it or not. It means you actually expect the world to listen to your values and ideas and change accordingly. It means those of us who are not gay or bisexual will struggle less, and will be in less danger when seeking companionship. If you prefer separation or black pill it's fine, but it simply cannot apply to everyone - unlike the radical feminist beliefs against sexism.

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[randomstringofletterandnumber]

I say this as a radical leaning, bisexual woman married to a man - no it absolutely is not part of the radfem agenda.

Male companionship will never be compatible with full radfem values because men are the oppressor. Radical feminism is a women's liberation movement - calling even "healthy" relationships with the oppressor in line with a liberation movement is absurd.

In my opinion, it will never be compatible with radical feminism until women are completely free from the patriarchy and the oppressor. That is the only time there is a chance of it becoming "safer".

Even in the healthiest of relationships, your male partner is still statistically the most likely person to hurt or kill you. Him being a "good" guy does not change that, no matter how much you try to convince yourself that it does. You are not in any less danger and to suggest that you are, is dismissive of the women who marry "good" guys and then become victims of sexual violence and domestic violence.

You do not need companionship. You do not need romantic relationships. It is not necessary to survive.

If you happen to be in one already and you're happy and comfortable, then fine. I cannot criticise that as it would be hypocritical. As long as you are aware of the risks.

But it absolutely is not part of the radfem agenda and if you believe it is, it may be time to hit the books and educate yourself a bit.

[bodacious-ass]

radfems being depicted as "ugly" will never stop being so ironically funny to me? like you're going to try to insult a group of womyn by... telling them that you aren't going to respect their opinion because they don't fit your beauty standards?? you're literally proving their point?? a woman's worth is not based on her sex appeal lmao

[ladyalienist]

Radical feminist sources masterpost

Discovering radical feminism masterposts:

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Radical feminist literature:

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Post 9 (newer and better!)

Other masterposts/useful sources

Post 1: sex trafficking sources

Post 2: prostitution sources from prostituted women

Post 3: anti porn resources + TRAs debunking

Post 4: anti porn masterpost

Post 5: Sue Donym's work

Post 6: sources on surrogacy

Post 7: resources about forced marriage

Post 8: sex is dichotomous with sources

Post 9: miscellaneous masterpost with a lot of great stuff

[To be updated every now and then]

[angrrrl]

radicallyaligned's intro to radfem beliefs

[professorharlot]

Nobody really talks about how lonely it can be as a radfem, especially how alienated you feel from other women. The continuous betrayal and ridicule you’ll experience from the same people who agree with surface-level feminist analyses is so disheartening.

You’re eager to criticize poor male behavior yet you also vehemently deny real-world oppression that we all suffer from? Acknowledging the wage gap and sexual violence statistics is all fun and games but deconstructing anything beyond that is somehow taking things too far? Do you not see the irony in condemning things like the cosmetic industry while degrading other women who choose not to shave?

I want to know at what point they think the oppression of women starts and stops. Do you genuinely believe that thousands of years of misogyny simply disappears overnight? Is it truly the case that your father, your brother, your boyfriend have miraculously been deprogrammed and it’s all other men that are the problem?

Everyone wants to shit on men until it comes time to reconcile with the fact that the majority of them actively and intentionally contribute to maintaining a patriarchal society. Then it just gets too real

[snowflkes]

"b-but the patriachy hurts men too 😥🥺" how they expect me to react :

[cowgirlgirl2002]

Imagine being an cellular egg in your mother ovary when was a fetus in your grandmothers womb technically existing for several decades and then spending 9 months in your mother as a developing fetus yourself and having a man’s names given to you after birth

[anyathemisandrist]

I get so pissed when people say this. The education system was literally created by and for men. Women weren’t allowed to get an education for hundreds of years. Women are still not allowed to get an education in certain countries. Every time women are better at men than something they blame it on “the system.”

[deadfish-inabarrel]

The only thing that has changed about the education system is that girls are now allowed in it.

Girls and women were barred from education because it was seen as a "waste" to try to educate a "dumb woman." But now those "dumb girls" are beating the shit out of boys in their own game that was built by and for them.

[pumpkinprincesa]

It's sad when women call themselves hoes, whores, and sluts. You're not reclaiming a slur, you're humiliating yourself.

[pusheen-the-radfem]

I am always so confused by how profoundly people misunderstand the idea behind reclaiming. there is no reclaiming something that has been created and always used for your humiliation and degradation. you can only reclaim something that was once yours to begin with- like a trauma survivor finding a way back to a beloved activity or location that was important to them prior to experiencing trauma, not wanting to sacrifice it for good as a result of that trauma. there's no 'reclaiming' something that was never meant for you, and was created to actively hurt you, there's only banishing it.

[madolecence]

You put it into words! I can never think of how to say this when I want to say you can't reclaim slurs, but this is exactly it, thank you

[floridafeminists]

So you joined a region based discord server, now what?

Here are some tips for getting the most out of joining a regional feminist discord server.

Get verified! The sooner you get verified the better. Work with the server owner to make it happen.

Introduce yourself! Writing an intro can be daunting but it doesn't have to be a Pulitzer winning intro. A template you can use: "My name is (your name/handle). I'm from (town/city/state). I enjoy (hobby, TV show, book series, etc). Some feminist topics that interest me are (female spaces, women in stem, etc). I'm most excited to (make new friends here, connect with like minded women, engage in feminist activism, etc)." This is an intro that tells everyone a little bit about you and gives you an opportunity to make connections which leads to...

Read everyone else's intros! Most servers have an intros channel. This is a great way to get a feel for who else is out there. If you find a person with similar interests, ping them in the discord using the @ feature. It's going to feel cheesy and forced but this is a great way to get conversations started.

Attend meetup opportunities, if you're an adult. The reason you joined a regional discord is to make connections. Take the first step and go to a meetup.

Create meetup opportunities, if you're an adult. More likely than not, there won't be a plethora of meetups; especially if the group is small. Meetups don't have to be fancy. "I'm going to check out (coffee shop/theater/park/local protest/etc) in (town/city). Would anyone like to join?"

Attend/Create virtual meetup opportunities. In person meetups may not be as feasible for smaller groups or groups that span a large area. Utilize discord features like group voice calls and screen shares to talk, watch shows together, and simply hang.

Embrace new members! When new members join, read their intro and give them a hello.

Ultimately, you get out of these discord groups what you put in. It will take effort but you will be rewarded. Looking forward to seeing you out there! If you have any questions feel free to message me and as always, if you're a radical feminist in Florida please feel free to message me to join our discord!

[gatekeeper-of-witchcraft]

women with deep voices and facial hair and balding, from testosterone use or pcos or whatever, women who’ve had double mastectomies, I love you. you aren’t “ruined”. you aren’t “ugly”. meeting a standard of femininity does not a woman make.

[semanti]

[dykeplier-deactivated20240511]

Patti Smith, Seventh Heaven

[dykeplier-deactivated20240511]

It's been cool to see everyone's interpretation of her art, but let me clarify that this isn't a transgender poem. It's about womanhood and misogyny. Here's an excerpt of a 2015 Patti Smith interview with Maclean's.

"In the ’50s you had to wear pink ribbons if you were a girl, and you were supposed to become a hairdresser or a secretary. I couldn’t stomach it. Later on, when I fell in love with my husband and had children, that’s when my mother’s earthiness or sense of femaleness kicked in. As an artist, I never wanted to be fettered by gender nor recognized or defined as a female poet, musician or singer. They don’t do that with men—nobody says Picasso, the male artist."

"I’m very comfortable with being a female now but when I was a little kid I only wanted to be a boy. I didn’t want to be a girl. I didn’t feel like a man inside… being a boy was just cooler. [...] I’m 68 years old now and I still don’t bend to anybody’s concept of gender. All I’ve ever wanted to do was create freedom."

[marmorada]

”would have saved him” she is literally alive and well

[loubuttons]

I love you loose clothing I love you 100% cotton or 100% linen I love you dresses/skirts that go past my knees I love you denim that doesn’t stretch I love you shirts that are “too big” I love you comfortable clothing that I can actually function in for every occasion

[loubuttons]

I hate you “standing jeans” I hate you tight clothing that hurts my skin + worsens chronic health issues I hate you synthetic fabric that keeps you hot in the summer and cold in the winter I hate you shoes that you can only sit in I hate you bottoms that are so short I can’t even bend down I hate you sleeves that are too tight for me to extend my arm I hate you every single see-through, flimsy t-shirt with a revealing neckline that’s labeled as “every day wear”

[that-catholic-shinobi]

the “skirts/ dresses that go past the knees” really got me. Why does everything have to be so damn short

[purple-purple-pink-purple]

Nothing changed my opinion of women's clothing so much as realizing a full skirt that goes past your knees gives you SO much freedom to move. You can twirl, you can run, you can bend over, you can lift your knee up above your hip when you step over something, you can sit on the floor no problem.

I used to think short skirts were freeing but man, that's such a lie. I've never been in more restrictive clothing than a short skirt.

[dreichsmirr]

Never forgotten when a male friend went out in a crop top for the first time and commented on how much he felt the need to hold his stomach in all the time. Like yes, this is what I have been complaining about for years. This is the constant body monitoring that comes with wearing revealing clothes. Its not freeing to wear something that means you can't cross your legs, bend over, relax your stomach, raise your arms etc

[hadesoftheladies]

I’m trying to find that feminist article/essay I read that talked about how males become worse (sicker and more sadistic and violent) once females are removed from their lives, I think it was focused on separatism and why it’s so resisted and how women are a buffer for male violence

can anyone help me find it?

[coochiequeens]

I would be interested in this article

[hadesoftheladies]

I FOUND IT! An essay written by Marilyn Frye in 1983!

There is a mention of political lesbianism (or an implication that the author may have believed in political lesbianism) which I don’t like, but overall it’s compelling essay! My favorite part:

The parasitism of males on females is, as I see it, demonstrated by the panic, rage and hysteria generated in so many of them by the thought of being abandoned by women. But it is demonstrated in a way that is perhaps more generally persuasive by both literary and sociological evidence. Evidence cited in Jesse Bernard’s work in The Future of Marriage and in George Gilder’s Sexual Suicide and Men Alone convincingly shows that males tend in shockingly significant numbers and in alarming degree to fall into mental illness, petty crime, alcoholism, physical infirmity, chronic unemployment, drug addiction and neurosis when deprived of the care and companionship of a female mate, or keeper. (While on the other hand, women without male mates are significantly healthier and happier than women with male mates.) And masculist literature is abundant with indications of male cannibalism, of males deriving essential sustenance from females. Cannibalistic imagery, visual and verbal, is common in pornography: images likening women to food, and sex to eating. And, as documented in Millett’s Sexual Politics and many other feminist analyses of masculist literature, the theme of men getting high off beating, raping or killing women (or merely bullying them) is common. These interactions with women, or rather, these actions upon women, make men feel good, walk tall, feel refreshed, invigorated. Men are drained and depleted by their living by themselves and with and among other men, and are revived and refreshed, re-created, by going home and being served dinner, changing to clean clothes, having sex with the wife; or by dropping by the apartment of a woman friend to be served coffee or a drink and stroked in one way or another; or by picking up a prostitute for a quicky or for a dip in favorite sexual escape fantasies; or by raping refugees from their wars (foreign and domestic). The ministrations of women, be they willing or unwilling, free or paid for, are what restore in men the strength, will and confidence to go on with what they call living.

—Marilyn Frye, Some Reflections on Separatism and Power (1983), Crossing Press

[femclasscirce]

(Quick add-on to the point about likening women to food/ men "consuming" women/sex as eating: this metaphor is attested already back in ancient Greece! Many texts showcase it, especially in plays, witty sayings, and descriptions of prostituted women. There are a couple good articles on this, I'll see if I can fish them out. The idea that men have been conceiving of women in this specific way over a long period of time is as fascinating as it is depressing)