roses and cotton candy

a sky full of stars || everything's gonna be okay

[twinprime]

teal and orange truly is the greatest color combo in the world. like name one better combo

[twinprime]

this is spiritually healing to me

[beans-after-midnight]

a platypus palette?

[zzoupz]

[beans-after-midnight]

PERRY THE PLATYPUS PALETTE???

[dankmemeuniversity]

[gayahithwen]

What if we started actively disincentivizing landlords letting real estate stay empty rather than renting at reasonable prices? Like, give them a maximum of three months to get a new tenant in, and then they start accumulating fines for the unused space.

And some similar system to disincentivize the ridiculous airbnb market as well. Make it unprofitable to have homes sitting empty in a city where people with jobs find themselves living in tents. Hell, make it unprofitable to have homes sitting empty anywhere that has a homelessness problem.

[gayahithwen]

The fine? The full rent amount they’re asking for. You think $1700/month for a studio apartment is reasonable? Well, until you get someone into that apartment, you’re going to be fined that same sum every month.

For Airbnb, a lower cost, but still based on how many nights/month the space is unused, and the fine will be based on the asking price per night.

[fidelesir]

This is… really, really sensible.

[gynoidwren]

Vacancy taxes are a thing! They’ve been successfully implemented in many cities, usually as a funding mechanism for something else so they can serve this dual purpose of pushing landlords to keep housing available while also providing revenue that can be used to run city services. Unsurprisingly, they’re p. much always opposed by powerful landlord lobbies and the useless liberal politicians they can buy, but more and more places are looking at them now and if you lobby the right people or organize within your community to run a ballot initiative or w/e you could defs. get one set up in your city!

[capturingthecosmos]

Perseid Outburst at Westmeath Lookout via NASA https://ift.tt/3zDvVv4

[guerrillatech]

[ugly--cupcakes]

DARK CHOCOLATE ORANGE CUPCAKES

[sweetoothgirl]

Fluffy Lemon Ricotta Pancakes

[sweetoothgirl]

doughnuts with balsamic blueberry and cheesecake filling

[cali-cocaine]

this is good

[embyrr922]

I’d just like to add, see how they behave when they’re angry/frustrated/exhausted, and if you see something that concerns you, wait until they’re calm, and then talk to them about it.

My husband used to yell when he got frustrated, but after I explained to him that I found it upsetting, he stopped yelling and started consciously working on asking for help before he got to that level of frustration.

When I’m upset over something, or just in a bad mood, I tend to withdraw. My husband explained to me that it makes him feel like I’m mad at him, so now when I need some space, I’ll tell him what I’m upset about, or that I’m in a bad mood for no particular reason, and I need to be alone for a little while.

See your friends and partners at their worst, but don’t assume that their worst is immutable. If someone loves and cares about you, they’ll try to accommodate you to the best of their ability.

[ladylike-foxes]

^^^^ This is the best advice I’ve ever seen on this site, and it is so important. Communication is everything, and is 80% of the reason my husband and I have such a healthy, strong, and supportive relationship.

[imposterogers]

this antman deleted scene is so wholesome I cant believe I’ve never seen it?

[imposterogers]

like scott really said “I will use the antman suit to be illegal, as a treat” and went to boys night without telling the boys so they could be delighted by their luck? and luis saying, delighted, “I wish scotty was here”???? their little dancy dance? obsessed

[rowan-berry-redhead]

today is the 21st day in the 21st week of the 21st year in the 21st century

[detailedart]

So I just learnt there’s this actual thing called the Super Pink Moon, the moon of spring. But “that's not a reference to its actual color. NASA notes it's "a name that comes from the herb moss pink native to the eastern US, and one of the earliest widespread flowers of spring."

[starei]

idk about soulmates but those people who eat parts of the food or candy that you don't like and you do the same for them.....we've lived a hundred lifetimes together probably

[thechosenjuan]

honestly a good partner isn’t necessarily someone who loves the exact same things you love but rather someone who is willing to listen to you ramble on and on about a particular subject that you’re passionate about even if they have little to no interest in it

[blackholeassshole]

this is so important

[cloudcuckoolander527]

All I can think of is this…

And on the flip-side

[sapiomorph]

FREAKING BE LIKE THIS FOR YOUR PARTNERS!!!

DO THIS!!

P L E A S E

[fuckyahumor]

yes plsss

[toastbutteregg]

[lilmamabeyellin]

[itscoldinwonderland]

Different people respond better to different types of therapy, and most therapist will do multiple types of therapy with their patients.

CBT - Most common type of therapy because it works well for all mental health problems.

ACT - Especially helpful for treating anxiety disorders, depressive disorders, OCD, psychosis and substance abuse.

DBT - Specifically created for BPD. This type of therapy works really well for personality disorders, PTSD, eating disorders, substance abuse and impulsive control disorders.

Interpersonal therapy - Created to treat major depressive disorder but is now also used for other depressive and mood disorders.

There are lots of other types of therapy too (:

[tiiiiiired]

Gonna add my two cents as a research psychologist:

CBT does NOT work well if the individual has a history of being emotionally manipulated or gaslit, nor does it work well when the individual is working through traumas that have been used against them or disbelieved. CBT can feel like gaslighting, toxic positivity, denial of the seriousness of a situation, or emotional manipulation if not done very carefully. As such, it might be best to avoid it and find something else if you have a history of problems with the aforementioned experiences.

ACT also works REALLY WELL for individuals coping with sudden and "devastating" changes! It's often adapted for use by disability specific clinics to help newly diagnosed patients learn to cope with the limitations on their environments. People with disabilities (PWDs) tend to feel pressured to not express their disability related distress around non-PWDs and, as such, tend to see those feelings as shameful. There's a lot of "I should be more grateful" or "it's not as bad as it could be" feelings around disability as a result of this pressure and ACT is great for undoing them!

DBT is generally amazing for stress disorders and preventing stress disorder symptomatology in at risk populations. It teaches you stress tolerance skills and how best to avoid or diminish conflicts, allowing you to avoid the sorts of environmental triggers that commonly worsen stress disorder symptoms.

Interpersonal therapy is also great for neurodivergent folks, victims of childhood emotional abuse, and children of parents with untreated/unmanaged psychiatric disorders. Essentially, if you grew up with difficulty interacting effectively with and relating to others, interpersonal therapy can help you understand why and change those interactions in the future. Healthier relationships and social interactions are a great way to break the cycle of abuse for those of us raised by parents who were emotionally abusive and/or had untreated mental illnesses.

Since no one has mentioned it on this post, I'd like to add that most therapists these days practice a sort of integrative therapy. They'll take what they find most effective from each type of therapy for each individual problem, and piece together something a little more tailor made for their patients. This is part of why seeing an actual therapist is so important. Not every aspect of the aforementioned therapies will be relevant to every problem. Some aspects may even be harmful to handling some problems. The therapist is trained to pick out these things and adjust accordingly, unlike the average self help book or online resource. But knowing the types of therapies available and what you want to get from therapy is an immense part of finding a therapist that will suit your needs, so please research things carefully and think over what you need before selecting one!

Go to therapy, y'all!

[strawberryswinger]

if being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now