Our Rainbow Is Here! 🌈

24. Art teacher, feminist, cyster, mommy to 2 fur babies, 1 "angel" baby, and our sweet rainbow baby, married to the best man ever!!!

[huffylemon]

[ronanwazlib]

au where everything is the same except sirius black is played by jonathan van ness from queer eye

[everythings-onfirebut-itsfine]

Harry: Wait, so Pettigrew actually betrayed my parents?

Sirius:

[thickthighsnbigdreams]

I am HERE for this.

[pissedandpunk-deactivated202012]

Sirius escapes Azkaban and is united with Harry and joins the Order:

[novacorps]

Sirius: My cousin Bellatrix?

[the-love-of-reblog]

Someone mentions Severus Snape at all:

[trinecomics]

2018-01-17, Let Her Be, by Trine Watkins

Just something that makes me mad.

[sadradfem]

Men disagreeing with public breastfeeding is something that disturbs me because they really believe they own womens bodies. Breasts are FOR breastfeeding infants, that’s their function! The sole reason we have them is so we can breastfeed if we have a child. Men have taken ownership of womens breasts, this just shows what entitled brats they are. Breasts are not sexual. They are sexualized by men, that is the only reason they are considered sexual. They exist to serve a purpose which is anything other than sexual! It is not our fault that men sexualize our bodies.

[memeguy-com]

years later House is still as relevant as he ever was

[doyouthinkaboutme]

I wasn’t vaccinated and never got sick so

[appropriately-inappropriate]

And I swam and didn’t drown.

Anecdotes aren’t evidence. The reason YOU specifically didn’t get sick is because of something called Mass Immunity.

That means that since everyone ELSE is vaccinated (you’re welcome), there’s nowhere for the virus to establish a hold. That mass immunity is the only thing that keeps people who CANNOT vaccinate—like the immunocompromised—from catching it.

The second that people stop vaccinating, that immunity disappears and the disease resurges, as is clear from the fact that the US is currently experiencing an epidemic of a disease that was projected to become extinct in our lifetimes.

Get immunized. There’s no reason not to.

[gehayi]

or a adinfinitumxx:

Considering that there’s a whole host of people in my age range who weren’t vaccinated enough (even I was missing the second dose of MMR until recently) getting the measles and the mumps I think it’s ridiculous that we’re arguing over a life and death situation. Literally, do you want to live or die?

Also, even if you weren’t vaccinated and never got sick–at least not visibly–that doesn’t preclude the possibility that you picked up a virus and passed it on without knowing it. 

Maybe you had…oh, let’s say measles. But you had no symptoms. Or maybe you had a fever,  or sore eyes, or a harsh dry cough, but that was it. But nothing that said anything was seriously wrong. And in the meantime, you went about your business. Maybe you waited for a bus with an old man, or shared an aisle at the store with a pregnant woman and her wailing one-year-old, or attended a party with your friends.  

And the disease you didn’t know you had? That passed on to the people you met, or to people that they met. The disease you didn’t know you had was passed to a friend at that party, and she passed it to her mother and father, they passed it to their workmates, and now two offices are sick with your measles. The old man you saw at the bus stop? He got pneumonia as a result of the measles you passed to him. The pregnant woman from the store? She miscarried. Her baby, who was too young to be vaccinated? She developed encephalitis and died. 

You’re not the only one who’s being protected by your vaccination. You’re protecting everyone else as well. That’s the fucking POINT of vaccination.

[bopowithpcos-blog]

Our little family ❤️ We won, and PCOS lost.

[parskis]

i swear to god, men raising their voice is the most terrifying thing in the whole world. they dont understand, like its an immediate panic response, game over

[cl4yton-deactivated20180207]

I actually had no idea women found this so scary

[periwinklepromise]

my downstairs neighbors fight on a regular basis, and every time he starts yelling i’m a little afraid he’s going to kill her. i have no reason to think this except that he is a man and he is angry

[thewonderfulthingaboutfish]

My math teacher has a loud voice and a temper and he scares the living shit out of me almost everyday. He’s made me and other kids cry more than once and he and his teacher buddies make a joke out of terrifying students.

[diamondsamura1-deactivated20220]

this was women in general? i knew my gf didn’t like it but I was unaware if this affected most women

[survivor-surviving]

Yes, it does

[pandora-ness]

As a woman, I had no idea it effected other women like this. I was too afraid to even talk about it. I thought I was weak. Thanks for bringing attention to this.

[kaldraws8280]

My dad thinks it’s funny that I used to cry when he raised his voice. I freak out whenever some one does. Once my director did, and I started crying I couldn’t stop. I’m glad to see I’m not alone…

[suicunesrider]

This is so important– seeing how common this is– and I also want you all to know that this is not normal. It isn’t something instinctively ingrained into women, to be afraid of men. There is no natural state of men being a threat that women constantly have to be afraid of. This is cultural. So many women and girls here have a mutual understanding of this feeling, and I think it really shows an unsettling truth about our society, particularly about how men are raised to act and how so many women have this defensive reaction gradually develop. It’s so important that these people have their voices heard, because it teaches us about problems that we just can’t deny the existence of any longer.

[shidoninoure]

I’m glad I’m not the only one

[anexperimentallife]

My fellow men, pay attention. I didn’t realize how scary this could be until one of my exes explained it to me, and it’s heartbreaking.

Also, when we move too much during an argument, or lean forward, it’s scary, and I never knew. I was even a little insulted at first, because surely she didn’t think I would hurt her. But see, that doesn’t matter. It wasn’t a sign that she mistrusted me specifically; it’s a conditioned response. (Although if you keep doing it once you realize it scares her, she SHOULDN’T trust you.)

Not every woman has been physically harmed by a man she trusted, but every woman KNOWS a woman who has.

I used to be horrible about this, because I didn’t realize how intimidating it was. I didn’t understand why the woman I was with clammed up or tried to tell me what she thought I wanted to hear, and I only got angrier, and acted even more like an asshole. It was wrong. It was abusive. It didn’t matter if I INTENDED it that way; it was still emotionally abusive. And it was inexcusable.

I get that when passions are high, and when you’re frustrated, it’s a natural tendency to let your voice get louder, to shout and gesture and lean forward. But you can train yourself to do better. You can train yourself to keep more of an even tone, to refrain from large and fast gestures, to not lean into her personal space. I did. I’m not perfect at it yet, but goddamn it, I WILL be.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard, that you just can’t do it, or that you “shouldn’t have to.” I’m 53 years old and just now getting the hang of it, and if this old dog can learn something new, so can you.

[elfwreck]

Note to guys: It really, REALLY doesn’t matter if you’re thinking, “but I would never…”

History is littered with the bodies of women who believed a man “would never.” This includes women killed by men who honestly, deeply, truly believed they “would never”… right up until she said that one thing or moved in just that way and he just got so mad, just that once, and pushed her or punched her or slashed her or shot her… just once, y’know, to shut her up, or because she was flinching and didn’t she know that HE’S NOT LIKE THAT and I’LL TEACH HER TO BE AFRAID OF ME…

We are trained, from infancy, that Men With Loud Voices are a source of pain from which we cannot escape, and attempts to escape may result in more pain. And as soon as we’re old enough to comprehend a world broader than our immediate circle, a world that extends into the past and will run into the future, we realize that there is no way, no way at all, to tell which men “would never” and which men “would never… except if.”

We live or die on that “if.” And any man who doesn’t like facing that hyper-vigilance can work on fixing OTHER MEN, not women’s fear.

The reaction shouldn’t be “not all men are like that;” it should be “no woman should have to live in fear.”

It’s telling that so many people will hear a story of long-term abuse and say, “why did she stay with him?” and not “why did he treat her like that?”

[plaggnoir]

This made me cry.

[galactic-gangstar-gibbon-deacti]

Don’t skip over this.

[bopowithpcos-blog]

Wow. I didn't know that this was so common. I thought I was a big weepy baby. Luckily, my husband and I had this talk a long time ago, and we don't raise our voices during arguments anymore. If it gets heated, we take a break to cool off and calm down before returning to the argument. This is what has worked for us.

[moons-moon]

Yall seein this shit ://

[baawri]

[vajeentambourine]

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.

Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.

Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.

Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.

I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.

Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.

But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.

Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.

[bopowithpcos-blog]

Damn. I needed this

[bopowithpcos-blog]

She's finally here!! My sweet girl was born via c-section on April 20 at 12:36am. She is 6 pounds 14 ounces and 19 inches long. She is the most beautiful little person I've ever seen in my life. My husband and I are so in love.

[bopowithpcos-blog]

40 weeks 5 days Pregnant

SOMEONE PLEASE GET THIS BABY OUT OF ME!

I've been in "early labor" for DAYS!

[thefrizzkid-deactivated20220425]

I won’t let this number own me (which is easier said than done, of course )

[mother-trillest-archive]

Vaccines save lives!

[bopowithpcos-blog]

Around this time last year, I was searching for a doctor who would help me with my PCOS. And this time in 2016, I was going through a miscarriage. Now, I’m 36 weeks and 2 days pregnant. I cannot wait until my sweet girl is born. -2 years+ of TTC -1 miscarriage -4 cycles of letrozole & metformin -1 rainbow 🌈 baby I know it was a long & difficult journey. I also know that others have a much longer and more difficult journey than me. I feel blessed.

[peace-love-colbert]

The Daily Show | March 15, 2018

[deezhandztho]

Just cuz yo titties saggy dont mean they aint nice titties

[h0neyydeww]

I feel appreciated