“i don’t wanna be a bitch but you guys are really boring”
i think there’s a bit of an epidemic with people reading books only to self insert with a dream partner rather than just reading to experience stories.
if you just don’t like/connect with certain characters no one can negate that, however some of the conversations i witness people having about certain male characters is solely watered down to the fact that their not a perfect “book boyfriend” which drives me insane.
gerard gibson is pretty much ignored by all the boys of tommen readers because he’s victimized and has a flipped savior story (his love interest being the savior). most people can’t bring themselves to outwardly dislike him, but they aren’t quite sure where to file him in their head because he wasn’t written as a book boyfriend, he was written as a character. he has how own shit, his own motivations, how own baggage. he’s his own, full, and well rounded character. they want book boyfriends so he’s not mentioned at all.
joey lynch is either completely and totally unfairly villainized for how how treated aoife, or his depth is completely ignored in favor of him being this protective savior character. his actual motivations and reasons for sometimes “acting out” and endangering others being painted as irredeemable moments when it’s obvious he’s struggling and has every right to be. but alternatively the other side pretends aoife who was breaking her back to provide for herself and also fighting for her life to bring his ass back every time, didn’t do enough and wasn’t sympathetic enough to his issues. (or didnt pay enough attention to his siblings? as though that’s even on her??). joey lynch has entirely too much backstory for us to solely whine about the times he was high and acted like an asshole. you guys are so boring.
(i’m gonna get heat for this one) but bj ballentine is also a victim of this. bj ballentine gets ugly, messy, toxic, and you later find out why but he is given absolutely no mercy when it comes to those who read magnolia parks. his entire background is forgotten and tossed aside all because no one can stomach cheating trope? (which also irks me bc it’s not even a trope really, it’s a blip in the insane timeline and lives of magnolia and bj honestly.) everyone wants to talk about his cheating exclusively but there’s never any mention of his assault, his going to therapy, his growth, etc. even if you hold the belief he didn’t grow, that part of his story is still TOTALLY ignored. i genuinely applaud the fact that you would never take back a cheating partner, good for you, truly. but bj ballentine was not written to be your hypothetical book boyfriend, he was written to be bj ballentine. to water him down to this one event when we get SO MUCH character out of him is so odd to me. you have to throw out more than half the story for that to work! he’s fiercely loyal, protective, smart, a bit arrogant, seemingly has a death wish (goading julian is crazy). very family orientated and not just with his own. (his relationship with bridget and bushka genuinely turns my heart to mush.) and had even the ice queen daisy haites herself charmed and in the palm of his hand in less than like 10 minutes. (her spilling her feelings to him and him giving advice was so sweet)
anyway i could drone on about this forever. connell waldron is overhated, people care too much about percy jackson’s 3 seconds with rachel dare and his small comments about calypso.
i don’t know when this started and why i’ve never been affected by it, but i just got online one day and everyone stopped reading stories to read stories. they want to agree and feel comfortable in every aspect and that’s honestly a bit scary to me. 😇