Bread-Winners & Bunions

Reflections on my flight on the Co-Humaning Airways - lessons from my deepest love experiences

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Never lose touch. 🌻 #GoDeeper #HumanAirways #SelfCav #Botho #MentalHealth #Communication #CoHumaning #Wellness #Growth #GrowingPains #TimeHeals #NamasteAkere https://www.instagram.com/p/Bxo8wJmDP_QMi-6JPjACi9gkMhJ8MmnPMC6ESQ0/?igshid=j3vztutnntc0

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When I read this post yesterday, I was shook in so many ways. The above truths are loaded with all the emotions we would rather not address as humans (I'm talking to just the humans now, everyone else can continue scrolling like it applies to everyone else except them). Most of us have been on BOTH giving and recieving ends of these internal mountains: Pride, lack of accountability for shitty behaviour, denial of reality as a way to "protect" yourself from cold weather, battling to keep up or break down that wall that let's you fake perfection coz you actually can't believe that you bleed or make others bleed. These words also present the harsh reality that being mere flesh and spirit results in the long distance from this perfection you wear without siezing. But quiet introspection (sometimes with aid from some form of therapy) offers one an open window into yourself to find the parts of you that hurt so much that cannot face your own flaws. If you keep running, you will keep losing and you'll never grow. If you keep pointing at everyone else except for yourself, even where you earned the weight of what is yours to carry, you will not grow. Being an asshole outwardly and then pretending like it is beneath you to behave in such a manner = Cntl+Alt+Delete is a formula that holds no water. Fuck fear, face thy demons and slay them! 👑 #HumanAirways #SelfCav #Botho #GoDeeper #MentalHealth #Wellness #Growth #GrowingPains #TimeHeals #NamasteAkere https://www.instagram.com/p/BvdovVbhJmz7THZFuaNu7zZ0urSpDFmuPab4v00/?igshid=h373n5epn80e

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With every passing day, I am believing more and more that every single key we need to unlock the doors in our lives exists within us. The challenge is keeping up the energy to kick down the fear of being alone, especially in the moments when what feels like "loneliness" threatens to overshadow the mission of self-realization. No piggy-back rides. We all have our own Goliath to slay. 👑❤👑 #HumanAirways #SelfCav #GoDeeper #MentalHealth #Wellness #Growth #GrowingPains #TimeHeals #NamasteAkere https://www.instagram.com/p/BuqFReqhrx4VivuPSx0lyKAGoCtPOXf5Umr1io0/?igshid=524fv1ejbh3e

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Anticipating a long-term, "forever and a day" kind of relationship without a certain level of intimacy built is like anticipating sweet berry jam from pressed bananas. Sex is sex. Intimacy on the other hand requires that you log in mentally, spiritually and emotionally. This unfortunately is not a notion that we are all trained for and that is not our fault. What is our fault however is our own unwillingness to learn and to grow into deeper givers of self (to self and to the ones we love) and more than just givers of orgasms and all things tangible. 👑❤👑 Namaste akere. #Love #SelfCav #GoDeeper #MentalHealth #Wellness #Growth #HumanAirways #NamasteAkere (at Johannesburg, Gauteng) https://www.instagram.com/p/BuDkUGqhKjif2rcGCEKEb3sffK-JW1xwZtUynA0/?igshid=13p3708b747g5

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The journey towards this level of solid and consistent spiritual and emotional understanding is an on-going one, rocky on some paths and flat on others. The point is to affirm and reaffirm yourself of this as you navigate, making steady and deliberate efforts to keep your soul open to the Universe's direction, more than you hang tightly to your own. Love and light akere. 👑💛👑 https://www.instagram.com/p/Btye5cqh4h4shCoAbRQCMxcl4qNifJmAekALLk0/?igshid=ix2k2v79apw8

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This is one of the truths that 2018 has taught me. In retrospect, it has been a lesson I was being taught for years but I only started learning this year. I only started listening this year. For so many years I dedicated myself to loving people into better versions of themselves - a version that is self-aware, a version that is communicative, truthful, open and intimate. There is absolutely nothing you can do to move another human being into one direction or another, even if it is a positive one that both you and them will benefit from. No amount of love and loyalty shown will make you worth their effort unless they decide that they are ready. Learn to pick your battles and walk away from the ones that are much bigger than you. Focus on your own growth. Learn to choose yourself guilt-free, over and over. Invest spiritual energy and love into people that will reciprocate willingly, with no measure and no fear. Namaste akere. 👑 https://www.instagram.com/p/BrcEgKrBiRNxGV2VShTBOl0Wfs-VrypXlmITSk0/?igshid=62m8mv73a8z8

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One of the things I've learnt in this here life is that you have to keep your feet on the ground you're walking on and be aware of all the feet around you. It is the spirit that is built for elevation. The beauty of the human spirit is that it can lift other spirits as it rises. If your ego is elevated, it blocks all opportunities to learn and to grow because you are out of reach. Humility is royalty. 👑 https://www.instagram.com/p/Bq_0p8EBI5I1Mc_B5TFPyQV8VvlpgCSwPbPbrU0/?igshid=w388six5gspw

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Facts only! It's not going anywhere fam... Face your sh*t. #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfLove #HumanAirways #Feelings #StuffWeDontTalkAboutOnTheGram https://www.instagram.com/p/Boy1mWPBTwABYWRgVM2R78IqqzOZCPbzJUNyOg0/?igshid=6oa6uzq5u1co

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Letting go of things/people that we love is really hard... But sometimes hanging on is even harder and it causes more pain. It takes a surrendering of one's self to the pain so that the process of healing can have enough room to work. Like most human things, this is much easier said than done. The good news is that everyday is a new opportunity to try again, to love yourself and others better. To forgive yourself for not knowing better. To BE better. #GrowingPains https://www.instagram.com/p/BouNNdohiKexjJlWaUvquJEEn5tg58Ma1uXB140/?igshid=14dism05r9fz2

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The universe arranged my meeting with this post this morning. Got me deep in my feels, won't even lie... Sometimes we get stuck in situations that we know we aren't meant to settle for because we feel there might not be anything better out there, like it's as good as it will ever be. Jobs, residential locations, relationships etc. Letting go is not easy but sometimes you need to be brave enough to let go of what you think is "the best" so that you can really grow. YOU are the only one who can make enough room for God to bless you with what will be THEE VERY BEST - being mindful of the fact that you are absolutely deserving of it. Namaste ya'll 🎈 https://www.instagram.com/p/BjRbaEQFnNrBig8CCm2_svan4Kh8FPvTYj8EGc0/?igshid=j0v2vwehc235

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Growing up, my mom single-handedly ran a tight ship with a clear set of rules and regulations that applied equally to her army of 3 daughters. 💣We used to complain about her military style of parenting and often compared our household with those of our peers, who often had what we thought was heaps more "freedom" than us. Even her approach to emotions was unconventional, with us getting pep-talks on our approach towards the challenges we faced instead of hugs and back-rubs. She would always say "Neneza, can you think of a realistic solution for this problem? If your answer is no, pray over it. Pray for the strength to adapt to the changes and to overcome the discomfort they may bring. But if your answer is yes, you better wipe those tears and prepare for battle, young lion!" 😱😂 Looking back, I realise that the comradary and team-work she advocated for taught us how to love and respect her without ever mistaking that comradary for a friendship with one of our peers. Looking back, preparing us for the real world took priority over us liking her. Looking back, was she a perfect parent? No. Could I have done with more hugs? Yes, hle bathong... 😂 But my heart is full of gratitude because her training and affirmations continue to be a point of reference in my low moments. I only hope to be half of the parent she is to my own children. #ToughLove ❤ #TheRealWorld #PussyPower #YoungLion #UnapologeticallyRoyal 👑 https://www.instagram.com/p/Bg8obnxgCMJ3icPJoTd5lQklWq3diySSoSTOXI0/?igshid=1acnjw0uzo5kg

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Some people have all the money in their bank accounts and are still dead broke. | StayWoke 💨 https://www.instagram.com/p/BY3znlGjXUx-Gu8x_ZFpHOXK0GRg4L1RvCoDao0/?igshid=15wm59mfbc3x5

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Sometimes greatness isn't something you need to apply for. When it is in your blood, you don't need to prove it to anybody by being loud, arrogant and pompous. That's not what royalty and leadership is about. The ultimate gesture of humility is when a KING can dance with his people. Learnt so much from this man about how one should carry themselves, even amongst fools who step on people's heads to elevate themselves. Because of him, I know better. ☝My uncle - Kgoshi Kgabo Moloto the Third. ❤ #BlackExcellence https://www.instagram.com/p/BE0QukyDls3bMQlPx12RHpd_Lyr-WPTRs_XZzM0/?igshid=15byfbdt7um8m

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Although we have no control of its movement, nor do we have undoubted knowledge of its origin or the point at which it will all end, what we do know is that we MUST recognise all that it offers us and all that it takes away from us - on this limited sphere/dimension where you and I co-exist. Pain. Healing. Slavery and bondage. Freedom. Darkness. Light. Love. Emptiness. Options. Decisions. #BasicConcepts #Time #REALity #BrainFarts https://www.instagram.com/p/BDcrnSUDltxZxVz9ihkPdBgg61H9qrjsJqhFW00/?igshid=su8s7yrqpf55

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The tricky thing about life & "co-humaning" is that we always need to remember that we are one part logic, one part instinct and countless parts of emotion. This means that when we deal with challenges like loss (in the form of death, a break up etc) - we tend to apply step-by-step guides of how to deal with it in the hopes that the mind will lead the other troops into salvation in single-file order. Then we tend to feel frustrated when our feels catch us in the middle of our faux-swag, just to remind us of which flight we are actually on. #FeelsAirways 🤣 Note to self & other humaning humans: Give it time. Be patient with yourself. Healing is a process. Lean on the love and support that is available to you. Meditate. Eat fruit. Laugh out loud. LET GO! Dream of the version of yourself you will meet when your flight lands. ✨✊🏾✨ Namaste. https://www.instagram.com/p/BoGbab3BTHLexUV7jGLGubkZS48c-WbtpagsMk0/?igshid=fnslc3xeoqu1

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Seconds turn into minutes, minutes to hours Hours to days, some passing slower than others Like sorting scattered beads with every colour representing the different eras of your life The eras you piece together with string and tears Nobody is having a good time Be gentle Be kind Be patient To others and to yourself Everything is for our own good and the good of those who drink from our cups #HumanAirways #SelfCav #Botho #GoDeeper #MentalHealth #Wellness #Growth #GrowingPains #TimeHeals #NamasteAkere https://www.instagram.com/p/BvyI1lnBms0mULm3q_n-6_P4KTHCSKLS5sfuak0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=8l5b11bys6tb

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Mood for the rest of my life. https://www.instagram.com/p/Bff5aX4jJuO9ivxfS_iDyESv-nhKSDwXcERYec0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1kh57lnyxh8pp