briar patch finn

an artists' secret ventblog; i'm more positive IRL

[allegedly-human]

nothing is more tumblr than having a tumblr sexyman wiki and then warn you to not find some of those men sexy because it's problematic

[kuttithevangu]

the new fantasy genre, popehunk, encompasses all books in which historical figures responsible for real atrocities are presented as sexy and potentially suffering from a cute lil' anxiety disorder

[briarpatchfinn]

One of the problems with growing up being told you are always the crazy one in a room full of sane people, is that you end up becoming really confused when people around you act in ways that don't make sense, because the idea that *they* might be projecting or distorting or otherwise acting badly out of mental illness was never an allowed possibility.

So when people around you act in hurtful ways that don't make sense, it's easy to gaslight yourself that it's because of some faux pas you've made. It's tempting to panic and flail in your communication and then pre-emptively apologize for how crazy you are being, which makes it easy for witnesses to be like "yeah you're definitely the crazy one." Meanwhile the person who defensively misread your texts and accused you of doing things that you didn't do is completely off the hook. Cause look, you're being crazy now! And obviously *their* hostile and/or mentally ill behavior is just a normal reaction to how crazy you are being!

And so you try to "be accountable" by going back to behavioral therapy and wonder why all this treatment for your "cognitive distortions" is only making things worse. Until you realize it's because the idea that your problems are all caused by cognitive distortion was the actual cognitive distortion all along.

[vacuously-true]

It is extremely rare that I get unintentionally rickrolled. It is extremely common that I look at a link and think to myself, that's a rickroll, and I click on it. Then I get to enjoy the satisfaction of being correct, as well as the entirety of Never Gonna Give You Up. That shit is a banger. If someone offers me a link directly to that song you think I'm not gonna take it? No. You know the rules and so do I. It's Astley time.

[briarpatchfinn]

If I want to make the case that my art looks good in a gallery wall I probably need to a) make art that fits in standard frames and b) get some cute frames and make a gallery wall myself.

I mostly have it pinned up on strings with clips, which is also cute but not photogenic 😅

[a-book-of-creatures]

Is it socially acceptable to use opaque watercolors, or is that considered gouache?

[briarpatchfinn]

WHY IS EVERY INTERACTION I HAVE ON THREADS LIKE THIS???

[briarpatchfinn]

So I didn't know the Nazis had appropriated any form of the skull and crossbones, and when I saw people going "everyone knows that!" I started a little panic spiral about whether my "gay pirates against fascism" patch design gives off Nazi vibes. Yes, the one with the kawaii skull surrounded by little hearts.

And then someone reblogged scrupulosity comics onto my dash and I laughed.

[fiddleheadfinn]

Asking myself the big questions, like will I regret block printing a bunch of dildos on my boring t-shirt??

[s1ck0]

paper cuts by Isabelle Suen

[briarpatchfinn]

Like I think about people I love who need extra reassurance and over-apologize when upset, and then I think about the ways people have treated me when I acted like that, and like. What the fuck. I would not jump to the conclusion that someone I loved was overexplaining or overapologizing or crying during a conflict just to control me???

There have been times when it becomes a pattern and I've had to set boundaries, including leaving. But with someone who has been a solid friend for years, and who is actively working on their stuff? Hell no. I want to be part of the reason they get better, not another person who retraumatized them.

[briarpatchfinn]

I saw the wildest take (from a white queer) that other white queers are showing "white entitlement" when they expect to be able to enter community spaces or have loving relationships as a still-traumatized person.

People will really just social justice word salad their way into the most status quo stances. Healing happens within community and strong relationships.

Now that I have some distance from my trauma, I can see that people who react as if they're being threatened, manipulated, or harmed just by seeing someone in distress are themselves exhibiting harmful dysregulated behavior. Their demands that everyone around them be regulated are a projection of whatever is unhealed within themselves. Healthy people can witness someone in pain—including frustration at their behavior—without believing they are automatically back in an abusive dynamic.

[briarpatchfinn]

Re-teaching myself HTML/CSS so I can build a silly Neocities site. Look at this very practical website I coded! The sections wiggle around helpfully when you hover on them.

[briarpatchfinn]

It has grown and evolved.

It's funny how much HTML and CSS have stayed in my head for decades, while I've basically memory holed an entire semester of Python.

Now if only I could make heads or tails of basic JavaScript.

[briarpatchfinn]

Re-teaching myself HTML/CSS so I can build a silly Neocities site. Look at this very practical website I coded! The sections wiggle around helpfully when you hover on them.

[pronouncingitwang]

at some point in your life you will be boiling fruit, water, sugar, and lemon juice in a pot to make a syrup or jam. the instructions will tell you to simmer for a certain amt of time. your timer will go off and you will look at the pot and go, "hm, this doesn't look thick enough. maybe i'll let it go for another 10 minutes." this is the devil speaking. it's only so liquid right now because it is at boiling point. it will thicken when it cools down. learn from the follies of my youth and do not let this happen to you

[yokowan]

at some point in your life you will be making a sauce or a stew in which you need to add cornstarch to thicken it. and you will prepare a slurry of starch in cold water and think "this looks like way too little starch to thicken this amount of liquid." this is the devil speaking. cornstarch instantly polymerizes at 95°C and if you add too much it will turn into an impossibly thick goop.

[le-jardin-inculte]

at some point in your life you will be making some sort of cream based dessert that requires gelatin to thicken it. and you will soak some gelatin sheets in water and think "this is too few gelatin sheets for this amount of cream." this is the devil speaking. it will thicken in the fridge and if you add too much you will end up with milk jelly

[shithowdy]

at some point in your life you will be baking cookies. you will take the sheet out after twelve minutes as the recipe instructs and the cookies will still be glistening and soft. "these don't seem cooked enough," you will think to yourself, "i should place them back into the oven until their edges are nice and golden." this is the devil talking. this is how you get dry, overdone cookies. the cookies will continue to bake on the warm sheet for several more minutes and then harden up after sitting on a rack for a while. trust the process. trust the process.

[whitachi]

at some point in your life you will be adding a small pasta to a soup and you will think "that is not enough small pasta." this is the devil talking. the pasta will absorb the stock and expand. this is how you end up with a soup that is a solid mass of soggy ditalini.

[araceil]

At some point in your life you will be adding garlic to a dish and you will think "that is not enough garlic." These are angels speaking. They are correct. Add more garlic.

[fiddleheadfinn]

Patches are on sale until the end of June! (shop)

[briarpatchfinn]

To anyone who needs to hear it, today is a good day to finally throw away your ex's cigarette butts and enjoy your freshly painted porch on your own terms.