This post is getting pretty long with all the updates, so I'll summarize everything here and answer some important questions (TW for sexual assault, physical abuse, and stalking):
- Not only have current orders of protection been filed for both me and my kid, but I've had restraining orders on this man pretty consistently for the past decade. Unfortunately, this has not stopped him from stalking me and harassing me. There was an active restraining order when he broke into my house.
- The reason he's been able to break restraining orders so many times is because nobody can ever find him until he shows up somewhere to threaten someone before running away again. He never finishes parole or probation. Last time I tried to renew the restraining order before he went to prison 3 years ago, I was going to court every month just for them to tell me they couldn't find him (even though I caught him waking around my neighborhood more than once). He hasn't had his own place to live since 2013 when he destroyed his apartment by throwing me into all the walls. He never stays anywhere for more than a couple of weeks, less due to the fact that he doesn't want to be found and more due to the fact that he physically assaults everyone. He doesn't keep any job for more than a week or two for the same reason. Last time he was employed, he made a public facebook post about how he "beat the shit out of his boss for telling him what to do."
- I have always had full custody of my kid. His father has no rights to him.
- This man seriously still sees me as his property despite breaking up over a decade ago. We dated for only a few months when I was 18 and he was 21 before he sexually assaulted me while I was waiting on a new birth control prescription and yelled "this one's for a baby!" as he ejaculated in me. He continues to tell me to this day that he forcibly impregnated me in order to "keep me in his life forever." He's 32 now. He tattooed a picture of my face covering his entire thigh 8 years after we broke up. The last time I spoke to him on the phone, he told me he had been "contemplating my teenage sexuality." I received a letter earlier this year about how he's "writing an anime where my character is in love with his character." 2 weeks ago, I received a love song he wrote about me in the mail. I still receive his letters despite the fact that the prison is ordered not to let him contact me. His most recent ex, the other woman who is pressing charges on him for his threats to get her pregnant whether she likes it or not, told me that he told her that "the only way we could ever stop him from coming after us is with a gun to his head."
- This man is so dangerous and violent that HIS OWN FAMILY doesn't allow him around his kid. They have all offered to testify for me in court, however, I've never had to take their offer or even use any of my OWN evidence in court because he's already proven to the courts that he's a dangerous person and has even threatened JUDGES.
- He has told me several times that he thinks he's God and has said that he could "make my family stop existing if he wanted to."
- This man physically assaulted me several times during our relationship, including when I was pregnant, and assaulted me with a knife the last time I saw him in person 3 or 4 years ago, sending me to the hospital to get stitches. He assaulted my dad and my brother. He has assaulted every one of his friends. He assaults his own family members. Again, he bragged about beating the shit out of his boss at one point. He's not just abusive to partners, he's abusive to EVERYONE.
- After no one could find him to serve him the last order of protection in 2022, I eventually received a phone call from him from the LA prison. He laughed as he told me about how he was there for "nearly beating some guy to death with a skateboard." This was before he went into his usual rant about how much of a disgusting slut I am, of course.
- After he served out his prison sentence in LA, he was transferred back to my state to serve out the rest of his sentences for charges he had here. He has cases that have been going on for 10-13 years because of repeatedly absconding from parole and probation. He has 18 entries on casenet.
- Again, I have all the protections in place to keep him from legally touching me or communicating with us. They're just not gonna stop him. They've never stopped him before. All it does is give me legal protections after the fact if anything were to happen to me or my kid.
He is literally the most terrifying person I and many others have met. I have 15 days left until he's back. Obviously, I won't be able to move out by then. But I still need to get away from him as soon as possible. I don't want to have to stop him from kidnapping my son again. I don't want to have to defend us against something worse than that.
There are more specific details in the notes, but the goal increased to $2,360 because my car broke down and I will have no form of transportation after I move. A negligent auto shop did major damage to my vehicle and I've already spent $3k this year fixing it. I'm still fighting with them about it.
