briefly infatuated

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[comicallyqueer]

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

in the midst of capitalism, fanfiction and archive of our own are always unconditionally and endlessly free. love, joy and passion, shared among human beings, are always unconditionally and endlessly free

[officialprydonchapter-deactivat]

How do you write healthy parent-child relationships?

[dragon-in-a-fez]

this might be more response than you want, but interesting (and kinda depressing when you think about it) fact: there’ve been a bunch of research studies where parents have been asked what they think makes a healthy parent-child relationship, and they tend to like…not answer the actual question because they think they’re being asked what good parenting is, which is not the same. so they talk about things like helping kids with homework and making sure they eat well. children, on the other hand, usually respond to the same question with stuff that’s literally just the definition of healthy relationships generally. affection, honesty, respect, spending time together, sharing interests. and the real kicker is, objectively, we know that’s the kind of stuff that actually has a much better impact not only on whether or not the relationship is strong and positive but also the kid’s overall happiness and psychological health.

so, if you want to write a character who’s really intent on being a Good Parent you’d have them putting massive effort into making their kid Grow Up Right, worrying about shit like if they have The Right Friends and they’re spending Enough Time Outside. but if you want to write a good relationship, just make parent and kid laugh together and respect boundaries and be emotionally supportive, like you would when writing a solid pair of friends or romantic couple.

[officialprydonchapter-deactivat]

No that was actually really helpful and I’m glad you took the time to give a serious response

[tropiyas]

[cleverwordsandotherstuffilike]

[countrygypsywt]

[charmcoin]

quite callous how the general societal reaction to allegations of child abuse increasing in frequency seems to have been "all these millions of people are lying and faking on the internet for clout, parents are the only real protectors for children" instead of "perhaps there is something wrong structurally with how we treat children"

[charmcoin]

"why are millennials/gen z/etc going no contact with their parents?" is really not a difficult question to answer

[garaks-padded-cell]

Soup is like touching god but then god backhands you into the wall so hard you cant move . Someone roll me to my chambers. I must recover

[garaks-padded-cell]

Clearly you need to be eating more challenging soups

[earthangeal]

A mural of a forest in the South Bronx, New York. Captured by Thomas Hoepker, 1983

Mural Art by Alan Sonfist, 1978. The building still exists, however the mural is no longer there

[maxknightley]

"it would be so good if it was good" will haunt you but "it's extremely good, except for the one or two parts which are so bad it's genuinely kind of insulting" will straight up drive you insane

[maxknightley]

one has you making posts like "okay but if the author UNDERSTOOD the POLITICAL IMPLICATIONS of the story they were telling, and leaned into it, it would actually be a really interesting exploration of..."

the other has you pacing your bedroom at one in the morning going "why. why would you ever in a million years do it like that. genuinely what possible thought process was involved. was the writer possessed by a fucking ghost or something."

[javascript-official]

I am sorry I am not very good with bussiness, is it good when the market looks like this.

[javascript-official]

you people have one joke

[madlori]

I enjoy it immensely when a commenter addresses all of Tumblr as "you people" as if they aren't here at the devil's sacrament with the rest of us

[1percentcharge]

i have a random issue with a handful of pre-srar fall out boy songs where I LOVE the the start of the song or just generally everything but the chorus, but the chorus itself i find kind of underwhelming (eg: ilalwtwiattgyo, ttotbo, igatrimeanomf, cfmrfrpfmsr, gblogbd(dyptstsasgts)

[geeko-sapiens]

poor thing...walked straight into the electric fence

[pmamtraveller]

Clip art by Adam Hillman

[cowthropologist]

Do I actually want to write this fanfic or do I just want to wallow in the delicious daydream like a pig in the mud?

[thebitchywitchyone]

Unfortunately I wish for others to wallow in my magnificent mud pit

[yaketysmax]

thank you for the magnificent mud pits, fanfic writers

[microsff]

"My husband complains about the cold," the man said. "Can you teach me a spell to keep him warm?"

"I can teach you to bind hair into a net to catch heat," the wizard said, "using arcane counting and a pair of fine wands."

After a while, the man said "Isn't this knitting?"

"This, too, is magic."

[thechargrey]

A little tip for parents with children in school (or for children in school to show their parents)

My mom gave me and my sister two days every semester that she called “mental health days.”

Those were days, that for ANY reason, and without having to tell my mom the reason, we could skip the day of school. We’d just tell her we were taking a mental health day and she’d call the school and let them know we were not coming in. 

#1 This helped keep our grades up by lowering our stress levels. I never got a C in any grade school class. The majority of my classes I received A’s. I also took 4 AP classes and they were not weighted. Trust me, it made a difference.

#2 I never felt the need to skip school. I knew if I ever wanted to or needed to my mom would help me. 

Your kids are young and need time to recover. They need some days where they can do nothing but stay in bed for no reason. They need their own space where their privacy is respected. It will make a huge difference.

[buckwildbarrelracer-deactivated]

Will do this when I have kids

[mossman-making-stars]

I would like to add something to this for the teachers too! (I may have already told this story on tumblr but OH WELL I’m telling it again)

One of my math teachers in high school had a policy called The Red Beanbags of Don’t Bother Me. He kept a pile of red beanbags on his desk, and at any time of the day you could go over and take one. From that point on, as long as you were in his classroom with a beanbag on your desk, no one could bother you. He wouldn’t call on you to answer problems, no students were allowed to talk to you, and perhaps most importantly, no one could ask why you took a bean bag that day. The only caveat was that if you used the beanbag more than three times in a semester you had to go talk to the school counselor about it.

I only used the beanbag a handful of times during those 4 years, but it was a godsend when I needed it. I knew people who would camp in his classroom during lunch (or even skip class and stay there all day) under the protection of the beanbag. As a teacher there’s not always a lot you can do for a student suffering mental illness/emotional abuse/ other struggles, but giving them some space and privacy in your class can make a HUGE difference.

[tumble-duh]

^^ that story is perfect

[mr-sardelli]

Night Watch: What’re you all standing around for, gentlemen?

He was aware of the sudden silence in the room, except for the whimpering coming from upstairs and the distant yelling from the privy.

‘What’re you all standing around for, gentlemen?’ he said.

‘Want to ring your bells? Anyone fancy shouting out that all’s well?’

With those words hanging in the room all big and pink, Vimes stepped out into the evening air.

(The Watchmen from right to left: Young Sam, Snouty, Nancyball, Culweather, Leggy Gaskin, Wiglet, Curry and Spatchcock. Fred and Waddy were outside in front of the Watchhouse in this scene, and Ned Coates had a night off. I took a bit of liberty with designing the mentioned, as some of them appeared only few times in the novel.)