[kawareo]

Got reminded again of my old coworker who was a massive misogynist but also trans inclusive. Told me he believed trans women are indeed women because "only women would be stupid enough to want to be women"

I wonder what he's doing now

[kawareo]

He also aggressively corrected himself whenever he accidentally misgendered a trans guy we knew because "there's already more women than men in the world, the more numbers we steal from them, the better." Did that even when the trans guy wasn't around.

[kawareo]

I need to point out that he was completely serious btw. This man had no sense of humor if he tried.

He was a cook at the restaurant/bar I was a bartender at, and almost punched a costumer once because he overheard him talking about how women belong in the kitchen. Told me he thought women should stay out of kitchens, that cooking is a man's job and when I asked him what he thinks women should be doing, he went quiet for a moment, then proceeded to explain to me the following

"I trust a bitch to run a kitchen as much as she can run a country, they should do shit like plumbing. Or electricity. Something you can just learn to do and don't need to lead, you know?"

Apparently women are good at "fixing shit". He claimed that he doesn't trust male plumbers or electricians except if they're gay because "something most be wrong with you if you want to go fix other people's houses, that's that maternal instinct"

[kawareo]

Love that you guys seem to like the stories about my Guy, here's another. (also for context i need to say that english is not the language he spoke, and when i say 'fag', i'm using it for our version of the slur. Our Guy insisted that that's just how you call gay people in our language (it isn't))

We had an openly gay coworker who looked like it (crop tops, dyed hair, make-up) and he was often harassed by the waiters from the football bar next door. The gay dude had the same name as the Guy, who insisted that we would specify the he isn't gay, so they just became "Name" and "Not Gay Name". He was fine with that.

Oh he also once went on a rant about how he respects our gay coworker more than "those other fags" because "at least he has the balls to look like a fag, yknow? None of that sneaky shit where you can't tell if they're trying to fuck you or your girlfriend." When I then told him I was bi, he looked me over and called me some slurs before telling me that I don't need to rub it in that I can get both. Then he asked me if I think he's hot and when I told him no, he informed me I should stick with women because I clearly have shit taste.

[kawareo]

He once accidentally bullied one of our younger waitresses out of an early eating disorder she was developing before working there (she told me about it after)

Boss gave us one meal from the menu a day as a job bonus, and we had this very shy seventeen year old working with us who was already nervous around men, but Our Guy was a 6'3 dude who only stopped yelling and cursing when he was not speaking at all. If he was the one cooking that day, he'd peek out of the kitchen an hour before he'd start closing it up, and would shout at you if you haven't ordered your meal yet because he hated cooking once he already cleaned. The waitress was scared shitless of him, and so whenever he would yell at her to "fucking order already", she'd panic and just pick something.

She didn't eat much but the first time she tried to throw out almost the whole plate, he got so personally insulted that he berated her for not picking something she'd like, and demanded to know what he did wrong. He got really upset about apparently not being able to cook something that this kid would like and I'm pretty sure he started putting in extra effort to make sure she would eat it this time? It lead to him quite literally standing over her like a hawk when she ate to "see her reaction" and demand an immediate review to see what he can improve.

She later told me that it she was so scared and awkward around him back then that it kind of overrode her fear of food, and that she still sometimes pretends she's back there, when she feels a bad episode coming on, so. He did do something good for the world i guess

[kawareo]

Our Guy met a nonbinary person once when my friend came to visit me at work. He was just on a smoke break so I had to introduce them and when I said "They're visiting" he got confused and asked us how many people are there (and then threatened murder if they dare order something while he's on a break). I had to explain this man what a nonbinary person is, he thought about it for a second, called the whole thing "fucking stupid, there ain't that shit in nature" and then proceeded to very mockingly refer to them as (our language equivalent of) "your majesty" and use the pronouns you use for people you're supposed to respect (which is genderless and very formal)

My friend thought he was really funny before I explained to them that I'm pretty sure he thought he was being mean (but hey he it wasn't misgendering so yay)

Then (after his break) they ordered a vegan sandwich and we heard him cussing them out about how "they should pick a fucking struggle". Later I asked him about it and got told that "how much shit can you deny yourself? Cheese, gender, the fuck's next?"

[veal7creative]

"Cheese, gender, what the fuck's next?"

I like how his issue isn't with the "that shit ain't in nature" thing he mentioned, but the idea that being nonbinary is some form of self-deprivation and that they deserve a gender like everyone else.

More notes for The Study

[hussyknee]

This post made it to TikTok.

[elodieunderglass]

What a FASCINATING person

[burgundywing]

guys who the fuck decided a shortform video thing was a good idea on TUMBLR

[burgundywing]

guys whos the voltron author that decided that keiths fav song was the trapeze singe rby iron and wine cause i owe them my whole life and i desperately want them to make a keith playlist

[heavilycaffeinatedsblog]

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

[burgundywing]

PLEASE MAKE A KEITH KOGANE PLAYLIST I OWE U MY LIFE FOR MAKING ME LISTEN TO THAT SONG

[heavilycaffeinatedsblog]

Omg ill brainstorm

[heavilycaffeinatedsblog]

OKAY SORRY I FORGOT ABOUT THIS BUT HERE ARE SOME SONGS I HEADCANNON KEITH LISTENED TO!

1. Glory by Dermot Kennedy

2. Appointments by Julien Baker

3. Nervous by Current Joys

4. August by flipturn

5. Coma/Smoke by Hailaker

6. Sweet Disposition by The Temper Trap

7. We Are Beautiful, We Are Doomed by Los Campesinos

8. Too Late Now by Wet Leg

9. I’m So by MIYAVI

10. Holy War by Rainbow Kitten Surprise

When I think of more I’ll add them!

[burgundywing]

THANK YOU YOYRE AWESOME 🙏🙏🙏

[heavilycaffeinatedsblog]

I'm utterly obsessed with how you write Adam. his roles in Silver Bells & Dear Reader are both so funny, like he invited his student to his house for dinner and immediately got him drinking, all to set him up with his brother in law. he's insane. he's wildly unprofessional. he's the nosiest person alive. i love it more than words can say.

Thank u thank u, I believe in my heart of hearts that Adam canonically was messy as hell

[burgundywing]

guys whos the voltron author that decided that keiths fav song was the trapeze singe rby iron and wine cause i owe them my whole life and i desperately want them to make a keith playlist

[heavilycaffeinatedsblog]

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

[burgundywing]

PLEASE MAKE A KEITH KOGANE PLAYLIST I OWE U MY LIFE FOR MAKING ME LISTEN TO THAT SONG

[falintome]

If paladudes had social media…

[clownjuicebox]

i gotchu klance truthers

[rain-dragons]

I TAKE THEM EVERY MORNING LIKE DAILY VITAMINS

[burgundywing]

its so fucking back guys

[burgundywing]

guys whos the voltron author that decided that keiths fav song was the trapeze singe rby iron and wine cause i owe them my whole life and i desperately want them to make a keith playlist

[burgundywing]

shadow the hedgehog: crucified

[disregardasiamawoman]

There’s really nothing special about queer characters in media, so why shouldn't there be more of them? 

Queer representation in animation has been a topic of debate in relatively recent years, as the uprising of the (predominantly) younger generations fighting for the rights of minorities has become somewhat of a trend. While this is completely needed for any major changes to happen in the media world, since catering to trends is how big media companies profit in the short term; being a minority isn’t a trend. It is a struggle, and yet it is a way of life. Being a minority does not make you any less of a person, but also doesn’t mean you’re any more of a person, and therefore doesn't mean you need any sort of special attention in the media so why are people so mad about it in the first place? While representation is what we have been asking for, the answer isn’t to drop random queer characters with no plot into existing stories, and it isn’t to just add in that an already existing character is all of a sudden gay. What we have been asking for, is representation, not a spectacle. Not something for people to pity, or to marvel at. Just show people being people, and that is it. 

A lot of people forget that representation in the media isn’t just putting a minority on a pedestal and going, “Hey! Look at this! We made this for you [insert minority here]!” But instead is the normalization of these minorities in the environments they are in. An example of terrible representation in animated media specifically, is the queer relationship between Korra and Asaami in ‘Avatar: The Legend Of Korra’. Neither of these characters are even hinted at being somewhat queer until the very last episodes, and even then calling it representation is a stretch. This is what some might call queerbaiting, which is loosely defined as baiting the queer community into thinking there will be representation in a show, and then not following through with those promises, or following through just enough to be worthy of a spot in the “Top 10 queer romances in animated history”. The moral gymnastics the people who make the decisions at these studios must have to do, to think that all people want for their representation is some vague hand holding in the last scene of a show, or in the case of the show Voltron, some flashbacks of a past relationship of a pretty prominent character and then outing him as homosexual. This example would have been fine, however, it was done in the second to last season of the show, indicating to viewers and people of the queer community in this fandom that this relationship, and this plot point was an afterthought to bait the already very queer fandom of the show into thinking that they would get at least a little bit of representation. To top it all off, the love interest for this surprise gay character was killed off in the first non-flashback scene that he starred in, so how’s that for enthusiasm. 

Queerbaiting isn’t all that goes on however, while a lot of queer representation is iffy at best, there’s still some crumbs here and there that show genuine thought of characters and their stories, as opposed to just saying that they’re queer and then not building on their character from there at all. One of these examples is the show Yuri on Ice. It is essentially a one season show about a former ice skater, who finds himself with no purpose after losing a tournament, and then being offered to be coached by his all time favorite ice skating idol. The show focuses on ice skating mainly, with a compelling plot, interesting side characters, and meaningful backstories, it’s essentially just like any other sports anime, with little bits of focus on the romance between these two male leads. It’s one of the best representations of queer relationships I’ve seen in animated media as it truly shows that queer people are just people. They have lives, and they have stories to be told, they can have opportunities and competition, just like every other non-queer character in media. 

Companies shouldn’t be creating queer characters for the sole purpose of gaining views, traction or being seen as woke or progressive in any way. If they want that oh-so sought after representation, they should be creating meaningful characters, with meaningful backstories, and interesting characteristics. Being queer isn’t a personality trait, or a buzz word for attention, it is just a way of life, and as much as big media companies might disagree, queer people aren’t spectacles, they are simply people. There’s really nothing special about queer characters in media, so why shouldn't there be more of them?

But as I am a woman, please disregard this.

-T

[crimsondaisy24]

Voltron s1 lineup (with a few headcanons)

This took WAY too long

[burgundywing]

back in the voltron phase and thinking about how much id tweak out if i only had food goo to eat like imagine going that long without something CRUNCHY. or like finger food that u can pick at and share???? terrible

[disregardasiamawoman]

Why Do We Let Men Who Have Not Spoken to a Woman Write Female Superheroes?

Representation of women in comics has long been a hotly debated topic, the main issue being the unnecessary sexualisation of women. Writers have a responsibility to provide accurate representation in their stories due to the widespread impact media has on our society. If our only representations of female heroes are not strong, capable women, but scantily clad sex objects for our male main characters, then how are real women going to be perceived? How are these women supposed to be the role models for young girls in the same way that Superman, Spiderman, and other male heroes are role models for young boys?

All female heroes are victims of this sexualisation due to the mostly male creative teams at DC and Marvel. Starfire, one of the most famous female heroes in DC is often a victim of this sexualisation. She is one of the main heroes in the Titans, so she has been used in many comics and TV shows since she was created. When DC did another revamp of their character stories, making the New 52 universe, Starfire was used in the comics Red Hood and the Outlaws written by Scott Lobdell and illustrated by Kenneth Rocafort. The most disappointing thing about Red Hood and the Outlaws is how the dynamic between the Outlaws could have been great if Starfire was not written purely for sex appeal. The positionality of Lobdell becomes an issue when he tries to write Starfire as a sexually liberated woman because he is a man and is writing it from a male perspective. Starfire becomes a man’s fantasy of a sexually liberated women and instead of empowering the character, it becomes degrading (Hudson, 2011). Our first introduction to Starfire is to let the reader know that Jason has had sex with her, Jason letting Roy know that she’s “with us, but yeah she’s been ‘with’ me”. Lobdell then goes on to write Starfire asking Roy to have sex with her after a montage of her in a bikini on the beach. It becomes obvious that Lobdell has not considered how representing female characters correctly is important, but has instead written what he believes is the sexiest version of Starfire. In one fell swoop Starfire’s character has been reduced from a caring, funny, and kind teammate to nothing but a sexy alien with superpowers who can’t tell humans apart and just wants to proposition every man she sees. This comic could’ve been easily improved if Starfire was written with her previous personality and not seen as the love interest.

Starfire’s character is made worse through writers often employing the “born sexy yesterday” trope when writing her. Born sexy yesterday is a trope written by males for males where the female character mimics behaviours and intelligence of a young child despite being physically sexy and appealing (Sampson, 2019). As Starfire is an alien, many comics depict her as unknowing of human customs, leading to ‘funny’ misunderstandings like her swimming fully naked when it is human custom to wear swimsuits. Starfire is often written with childish optimism and naivety which is rather uncomfortable when the other half of her personality is sex appeal. These paedophilic depictions of women in comics has real world implications. Young girls and teenagers have often been targeted sexually by older more mature man and continuing to depict childlike personalities as sexy in our media exacerbates and maintains this problem.

Throughout the entire comic Starfire had little clothing, her New 52 era outfit even more revealing than the one she was created with in the 80s, and despite referring to her as one of the most powerful people on earth, Lobdell treated her character with little respect. Starfire’s costume can and has been made in a way that it not overly sexualised while still being “sexy” and tasteful. Lobdell’s version of Starfire was not tasteful with her outfit containing boots, a thong, and barely any coverage of her chest. When women talk about not wanting female hero costumes to be so revealing, we do not mean that we want these heroes to be incredibly modest. The issue with women’s hero costumes is the double standard when compared to male hero costumes. Most men’s costumes are skintight and fully cover the man up to his neck. Many of them are armoured in order to protect the wearer against the enemies they face. Starfire’s costume leaves readers worried her nipples will fall out.

If Starfire was treated with the same respect Lobdell affords her male teammates, Red Hood and the Outlaws could have been a much better comic. Instead, the comic focuses too much on sex, specifically surrounding Starfire’s character, and it draws readers focus away from the main plot points and completely alienates female readers. DC allowing these harmful portrayals of women to be perpetuated in their comics makes readers wonder if they are that worried about losing their historically male dominated audience. However, by letting this continue, DC will lose the steadily growing audience of female comic fans. Women can clearly see that comics like Red Hood and the Outlaws are not written for them and portray women as thoughtless shells. Comics like these also impact the way that women are seen in real life. If all the media someone consumes shows that a woman’s only goal is to have sex with her male teammates and friends, men are going to be unable to see women as friends.

Lobdell has written Starfire in a way that completely reduces her character and makes it so readers are unable to look up to her as a role model. Like Superman, she is an alien with incredible powers, but unlike him, she has been turned into nothing but eye candy for male readers. Lobdell projects his fantasies around her character onto the comic and because of this cannot write her character in a meaningful way. Starfire’s only relation to the plot is for her male teammates to make sexual comments about her and for her to bust them out of situations where they need alien superpowers. She brings nothing to the team in a way readers can connect to so all she does is reinforce the narrative that women are objects.

But as I am a woman, please disregard this.

-B

[burgundywing]

so i was talking to one of my friends about how Ive learnt a lot about queer culture and history through reading steddie fanfics and shes asked for reccs and i was wondering if anyone knew of any where eddie talks about queer history or explains things like hanky code and other identifiying methods. i think its a really interesting way to learn about queer history and i cannot find any of the ones ive read in my bookmarks

[zelkams-art]

in all timelines in all possibilities only you can show me this

[jayvikbrainrot]

[jollymalt]

s1 vik and s2 jayce meeting