Non-Binary Bear Extraordinaire

I'm a non-binary bear who loves origami, cooking, DIY projects, vaporwave, Bayonetta, and government-mandated yassifications. Feel free to message me!

[brucebocchi]

I have no clue why this is so god damn funny but i cannot stop fucking watching it

[plastiboo]

[gaytanic-panic]

[gala-xyzz]

[thanksbrunette]

[orivu]

[plastiboo]

[burronetta]

I played a couple of matches of DbD earlier to help me finish up some of my Blood Moon Killer challenges. I figured I'd be an Unknown with the bloody prestige skin because dressing for the occasion is always a good thing. One of my matches was against what some call a "bully squad". Flashlight saves, body-blocking the hooks, gesturing me to follow them while in chase. One of them, a Steve, was really good at looping, and he was actually a lot of fun to chase! Managed to down him only once, but then a Vee in the cute new outfit in the store managed to blind me just in the nick of time.

All in all, they were really good at keeping me from hooking, and they managed to get a 4E. I told them they had great teamwork, and one of them said, "You're a good sport." I couldn't have been happier! I'm always worried that when I try to play effectively it'll come across like I'm being mean-spirited, so it's nice to feel appreciated and to appreciate a good team when I go against one.

[coinandcandle]

Local house witch telling you to please learn basic housekeeping skills.

It’s not your fault if no one ever taught you but YouTube is a magical place and can teach you at your own pace.

[coinandcandle]

Someone asked me what housekeeping skills I’d recommend learning.

Keep in ming that this is not me shaming you, I know you have your reasons, folks. This is just a guy who enjoys clean spaces asking that you start learning now.

Here’s what I suggest as an adult who has lived with other adults who didn’t have housekeeping skills:

First and foremost, learn about all the places in your house that need to be cleaned and understand how often they should be cleaned. the American Cleaning Institute (I guess that’s a thing) has a good article about basic cleaning info. Plus this video on cleaning tips is great!

Learn how to do your dishes. HOT water is the only way to clean your dishes.

Learn how to clean your shower head, especially if you live in a place with hard water. Same goes for your sinks.

Learn how to do your laundry correctly. Even without the whole “separating whites and colors” thing, there are things you need to learn about washing your clothes. Learn what the tags mean, too.

Also, you don’t have to use fabric softener and you shouldn’t use it on towels or any fabric meant to absorb. (Learn about laundromats) And please learn how to clean out your dryer vent, it’s a safety hazard!

Get a disinfecting cleaner for your high-touch areas, especially the gross ones like the bathroom. Just because it doesn’t look dirty, doesn’t mean it’s clean!

Learn how to sweep, mop, and vacuum effectively.

You’ll also want to make sure to change out your home’s air filters.

TL;DR, here are some cleaning videos.

How to Clean Everything in Your Bathroom

How to Clean Everything in Your Kitchen

Livingroom Cleaning Routine

How to Clean Everything in Your Bedroom

Now these resources are not the end-all-be-all, but I think if you don’t know much about cleaning your space this is a good way to start.

[thumperdaetime]

here’s some of the things that are helping me actually clean (as an adult who had messy parents, and has a hard time getting threw my nurodivergency about cleaning specifically) that may be helpful to you:

Favorite Cleaning Book: it helps you work through the emotional side of cleaning (and other care tasks)

Current Favorite Decluttering Method/Concept: it helps you know how much is too much to keep and how to get started when you’re overwhelmed. (having too much stuff makes it incredibly hard to clean/organize.)

Basic Cleaning Skills: this channel is amazing! this man has a special interest in cleaning and cleans people’s spaces who deal nurodivergence that make it hard to clean. he does this for free (or at a deficit because he pays for supplies and dumpsters and transport and such) and does it all with empathy and kindness working With the people as much as people can handle instead of just coming in to “fix” an issue. these videos are a bit different from his usual ones, (the last one’s most like his usual videos) but i find having the sped up cleaning videos with a voiceover can help fill in for body doubling when im too ashamed to bring people into my messy spaces.

[analog-machine]

I’m gonna queue this as well so you’ll be seeing it again from me in a few months without any comments on it, but this is all good things to know

[rootkit]

the way he spilled...

[dappercyborg]

The Simpson literally made a joke about this in 1997 this is a settled issue, stop giving power back to straight people

[youn8ss]

calling yourself homophobic slurs is just doing homophobic people’s job for them, you’re proving them right by identifying within it.

[rootkit]

cry about it to some other faggot then please

[rootkit]

they deleted... my impact

[mqxim]

1989 Nissan Snail

[traegorn]

Y'all.

It's not a "Nissan Snail."

Nissan gave it a much better name.

It's a Nissan S-Cargo.

[ainawgsd]

Okay, but it has a snail on it's mudflap!

[cathemeralcoelocanth]

@drukhari

[muzzlesbian]

just saw a post talking about the misogynistic phenomenon of men frequently offloading household tasks to women & expecting us to do them... and describing it as "learned helplessness"

we are putting that term on the shelf

[muzzlesbian]

Learned helplessness is the behavior exhibited by a subject after enduring repeated aversive stimuli beyond their control. In humans, learned helplessness is related to the concept of self-efficacy, the individual's belief in their innate ability to achieve goals.

literal first paragraph of the wikipedia article for learned helplessness. this is a depression symptom. it is frequently caused by lifelong abuse from controlling authority figures. it is the exact OPPOSITE of an abuse tactic and would most likely be displayed by the WOMEN in that kind of scenario!!

the actual relevant term for what the man is doing is probably "weaponized incompetence" which is an abuse tactic. please for the love of fuck do not conflate the two

[were--ralph]

what if i just went to college for a third time and put myself in even more debt

[burronetta]

Hubby's mentioned that I should try doing that, but for engineering. Not because I could make a career out of engineering, but because I've always been interested and only just now have the confidence to give it a shot.

[bogleech]

[thelovelygods]

[bogleech]

This is going to actually be a thing, isn't it. A chatgpjesus is going to catch on and cause some fucking cult movement in our lifetimes.

[bone-free-as-the-wind]

All hail Volcano Snail

[tricksters-kiss]

"Blades are for staking!"

[stealingpotatoes]

What was your reaction to the news of the 50th anniversary of Star Wars a new hope showing the original 1977 cut

IM GOING TO HAVE TO SEE JABBA'S HUMANSONA ON A CINEMA SCREEN ?

[vaspider]

Nope, this was a deleted scene and doesn't appear at all in the original 1977 theatrical release.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[an-alarming-number-of-bees]

They’re more deserving of the uniform than most generals.

[mens-rights-activia]

Heroes

[memewhore]

Society couldn’t function without them.

[kaijutegu]

Society really couldn’t function without them. Anthropologist Robin Nagel did this fabulous ethnography of NYC sanitation workers called Picking Up where she actually became a sanitation worker herself. In NYC alone, there’s fewer than 10,000 sanitation workers dealing with a daily load of about 11,000 tons of garbage and 2,000 tons of recycling. It’s a more dangerous profession than firefighting or police work (cops and fire aren’t even in the top ten most dangerous jobs in the US), and if the sanitation workers aren’t able to do their jobs, cities become unlivable overnight.

(Also you should read that Robin Nagel book, it’s really fascinating. Even if you don’t live in a city, it’s a great read.)