[californiaspit]

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Babe... babe, calm d- BABE! I TOLD YOU WHY I CANT FOLLOW YOU BACK ON TUMBLR! YOUR TOP POST IS A REBLOG, AND AS A FUNNYMAN I CAN'T- STOP CRYING

[ptsdconfessions]

Therapist Red Flags

Therapy is important and can be really helpful, but not all therapists are good at their job. Here’s a few things to look out for when you’re seeing a therapist:

Not listening to what you tell them

Ignoring confidentiality (except in emergencies)

Making you feel judged or ashamed

Ignoring or trivialising your needs

Consistently being late

Making fun of your needs / accomplishments

Being judgemental or critical of you

Not taking your feedback on sessions into account

Condescending facial expressions or body language

Ignoring what you want to do / accomplish in therapy

Talking too much about themselves

Making you feel like problems are all your fault

Being insensitive to your culture or religion

They’re making you feel bad about yourself

Using the phone or getting distracted during your sessions

Attempting to make romantic / sexual advances on you

Making you feel stupid or invalid for what you say or how you feel

Forgetting important details about you / your life

Pushing you too hard before you’re ready

You wondering if their behaviour is a red flag. If you’re looking it up then chances are you already feel uncomfortable in therapy. You should never be forced into seeing a therapist who makes you feel uneasy. There’s no shame in leaving and finding a different therapist.

[scallioncreamcheesebagel]

a couple more. these are all things i have actually encountered with my past therapists.

misgendering you or others, making excuses for doing so (ex. “they/them pronouns are too hard to use”)

manipulating you into staying when you try to leave (ex. by saying no other therapist will want to take your case)

shortening the length of your session but still charging you the same / shortening the length of your sessions without consulting you

do not hesitate to leave a therapist if you are not getting what you need from them.

[californiaspit]

:/ i wanna recreate

[aidoru-ojisan]

[pathologising]

let me assign you a sanrio plushie based on completely unrelated questions right now…

[yourgoat]

WHHFfh

[hotvampireadjacent]

I um

[neyhaz]

this promotional image of big boss looks  like a russian/polish gym teacher that has a heavy accent and is tough to his students, but good at heart, and with a large family.

[britnxyspears]

I would bite his hand so fast. I dont know what it is about this picture his hands just look very biteable. I feel like toddler

[yekkes]

Whenever I put on tefillin I think of that art an HIV+ Jewish artist made and I really just want to print it out and put it on my wall

[wizardmp3]

ID 1: black and white image of a male torso and arm that has been wrapped with teffilin and has a bloodied bandage at the crook of the arm. subtitled “‘Akedah,’ 1995 / Albert J. Winn”

ID 2: “Winn has also refashioned this medical procedure into a personal custom, creating order from the chaos of AIDS. In order to participate in early drug trials, Winn endured frequent and exhausting blood tests, sometimes giving up to thirteen vials of blood at a time. To mentally cope with this brutal process, Winn imagined the tourniquet as teffilin, phylacteries worn around the arms and head during prayer, thereby reshaping this AIDS practice as part of his religious identity. In Akedah (1995), the leather strap of the teffilin snugly embraces Winn’s bandaged arm, illustrating this marriage of Winn’s HIV+ and Jewish selves. Through Observe 1994-2011 and Akedah, Sawdon Smith and Winn situate their medical battles with AIDS into their own subjectivities, including the disease in their lives in a way that doesn’t solely define them.” END ID

[californiaspit]

mutuals to fuck off to las vegas with

[peoplehood-deactivated20211003]

Sudden wave of an immense love for humanity has hit me once again…

[peoplehood-deactivated20211003]

We all exist together… that’s pretty neat…

[general-multi-fandom-chaos]

i can't believe a bunch of grown men named Josh showed up to some random park with the intention of fighting each other and then let some four year old named Josh win. there's so much hope for our society.

[homobeast]

the statements “the south & appalachia can be and is an unsafe place for a lot of minorities in some places, especially for BIPOC & lgbt people and a lot of aspects of southern culture can be bigoted.” and “the south is the most racially diverse region and has the highest concentration of lgbt people in the country, is not inherently racist or unsafe, and claiming the entire south are uneducated, bigoted hicks is racist & classist and ignores the disenfranchisement of minorities in the south.” can coexist.

[homobeast]

there is soooooooooo much nuance to this and i’m begging people who don’t live in the south to listen to people who live here. no one’s claiming the south is free from criticism and is a safe haven for minorities. but some people are far, far too comfortable calling everyone in the south uneducated hicks and refusing to understand the duality of there being poor, disenfranchised people in the south who are being exploited while refusing to acknowledge the racism anywhere else.

[micro-usb-deactivated20230625]

every NFT 6 months from now

[ryebreadgf]

toddlers with glasses make me want to cry like you are so small and you can't even see properly. you are so small and your glasses are so big. don't even get me started on when the glasses are the kind that go around the head so they won't fall off or when they make their eyes look bigger. literally cryung just thinking about it

[lmaonade]

we should be able to rotate desktop programs freely

[lmaonade]

i want to use my computer like t his

[lmaonade]

people keep telling me "linux can do this" bro i was joking. i don't want to do this. why would i wanna do this. the fact that linux can do this means it's stupid as shit that is not a flex. you all look like shit

[shevinyl]

i dont remember the last time I saw trans representation in Indian media but this ad just made me feel so blessed

xx

[getintherobot]

the actress, meera singhania rehani, on her transition

[dankmemeuniversity]