I need a minute to just have a rant.
So I'm an Aerialist, been learning hoop and on/off silks (teacher's fault, she didn't like silks) since 2018. Since 2019 I've been doing pole and for some reason my dad is taking the hump.
He lies to my face saying he's supportive and thinks it's cool or whatever but then has a huge go at my mum about my choice in extra curriculum activity.
Erm hello, it's my sport not hers and I didn't ask for your opinion?
I'm not a sexy poler either, I am a sports/tricks poler (I'm only not sexy cause I don't have a sexy bone in my body in my opinion) so how my own father can sexualize my Instagram which is full of none revealing trick shots of silks and hoop ALSO is beyond me.
I'm just hurt that 1) he seemingly doesn't have the balls to discuss it with me like an adult and 2) instead of talking to me he makes snide comments like "I don't want to have to tell people my daughter is a pole dancer" I'm not a fucking pole dancer, that is a job title along with exotic dancer, exotic instructor, pole instructor, personal trainer, secretary. Get it? I am a student and I fucking love doing it because it's so fun and you can become so strong and it's helped my flexibility sooo much I can't even tell you.
It just breaks my heart because when I do hoop or silks he's all for it. Pole? I just get jokes made at me. From my own father.
I can't tell you how much that hurts.
When I have children I will never ever be like this, so thank you dad for the useful parenting tip.
My kids wanna dress like princesses, boy or girl? Fine. If my kids wanna do pole themselves? Here for it. It they wanna do ANYTHING that is not harmful to themselves or others, I am down for that.