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switching to college aged instead of middle aged has been the best man decision I’ve made sexually as a 30 year old woman. I will not be returning to these older men. these older men literally just can’t

#sorryoldmen #storytime

remanence-of-love

working for your bff is honestly the BEST bc what do you mean they paid me to sit in the office and cry for two hours..

if i die i want everyone to know that it was blake

im not suicidal

He said that he was going to kill me ln the phone

stuckinapril

I love pretending to be normal in social settings bc it’s like how long will it take until they find out a screw is absolutely loose. how long can I keep this going for

my-dailydreams

“sometimes, honesty in heartbreak is the only anchor we have”

#my writing #creative writing #romantic bs #unrequited love

the sun is on my back. i smile because I thought I would be cold forever

#creative writing

kenz-eaye

“When we first love—or first attach—we idealize. The ‘good object’ is all safety, all warmth, all fulfillment. When that object disappoints us, or threatens our attachment, we defend ourselves by splitting:

Good Object = love, hope, safety.

Bad Object = betrayal, abandonment, harm.

It’s binary because the child psyche can’t hold contradiction. Splitting protects us from the unbearable idea that someone we need can also hurt us, or that someone we love might not come back. It’s primitive, but powerful.

But maturity—real, soul-deep maturity—requires us to collapse that split. To see that love and harm, care and distance, hope and fear can exist in the same person. That we, too, are capable of both.

And the thing standing in the way of that reconciliation? The fantasy.

Grief is the price of letting go of that fantasy.

To see the ‘good object’ as fallible, you have to let go of the illusion of perfect safety. To see the ‘bad object’ as human, you have to let go of the righteous armor of blame. To see the whole object—the real person—you have to mourn the imagined one.

Grief clears the distortion.”