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hemipenal-system

whatever. transfem period thread

#trans #transfem #transition

annadeef

Pray for my cat. Nothing wrong with her she's just dumb.

#babyyyy

yk. it's Really jarring to wake up in my boyfriend's arms and get on this site to see pages and pages of people loudly hating trans men? because they think trans men don't deserve to talk about transphobia?

I'm transfeminine. my boyfriend is a trans man. we can just..... both talk about the transphobia we face? we can do both. there's a Lot of overlap!

- we've both been harassed for using public bathrooms

- we've both been excluded from friend groups for looking too masculine to be good nonthreatening queers

- we've both been fetishized for body parts we're dysphoric about

- we both worry about healthcare and explaining our genders to doctors who don't get it

like it's different in some ways! he's a man who has to see a gynecologist. I'm an enby who gets misgendered daily. but we literally have so much to commiserate about, why would we be fighting over who gets to vent more? we can just both vent about the transphobia together. because we agree it's bad

#transphobia #transandrophobia #exorsexism #canithey comments

life-on-our-planet

eepy mourning dove cupping its wings under its belly for cushion ©Ella

#so comfy

everythingfox

Fluffy boy

(via)

tobiosty

General useful stuff!

Guides

How to make Crumbl Cookies!

How to bookbind!

How to pirate movies/shows

How to make frog plushies

How to make a Go-bag for emergencies

How to repair clothing

How to make different a03 kudos!

How to download videos/pictures/gifs from a website

How to make various chocolate desserts!

Tips and Tricks!

A03 formatting

Back stretches!

Depression tips

Adult cheat sheet

How to regulate and understand your emotions better

Disabling Windows 11 web search in search bar

Resources

Horror game recs!

Dca fic recs!

Hand references

Free Adobe photoshop

Artist resources

Free spotify

Pirating sites

Artist resources pt 2

Helpful random sites

Homemaking, gardening, sustainability

Free libraries!

Making stuff and doing things (free book pdf)

Healthcare (medicine discount websites, guide on how to pay hospital bills)

Alternative stuff to mega corporations

#whoa! resources!

notlayingroses

Everything I read about recovering from burnout is like “it takes months or even years to fully recover” and it’s like okay…. I have a weekend before I gotta clock in on Monday

hellothanksjellyfish

Just gonna leave this here

acti-veg

‘While bats can only sense the outer shapes and textures of their targets, dolphins can peer inside theirs. If a dolphin echolocates on you, it will perceive your lungs and your skeleton. It can likely sense shrapnel in war veterans and fetuses in pregnant women. It can pick out the air-filled swim bladders that allow fish, their main prey, to control their buoyancy.

It can almost certainly tell different species apart based on the shape of those air bladders. And it can tell if a fish has something weird inside it, like a metal hook. In Hawaii, false killer whales often pluck tuna off fishing lines, and “they’ll know where the hook is inside that fish,” Aude Pacini, who studies these animals, tells me. “They can ‘see’ things that you and I would never consider unless we had an X-ray machine or an MRI scanner.”

This penetrating perception is so unusual that scientists have barely begun to consider its implications. The beaked whales, for example, are odontocetes that look dolphin-esque on the outside—but on the inside, their skulls bear a strange assortment of crests, ridges, and bumps, many of which are only found in males.

Pavel Gol’din has suggested that these structures might be the equivalent of deer antlers—showy ornaments that are used to attract mates. Such ornaments would normally protrude from the body in a visible and conspicuous way, but that’s unnecessary for animals that are living medical scanners.’

-Ed Yong, An Immense World

namu-the-orca

Cetacean echolocation is one of those things that boggles your mind once you really start to think about the implications. They can see each others' hearts beating fast with fear or excitement. They can see if another dolphin is healthy, or pregnant; how the fetus is doing; if they have ingested debris. Their echolocation is also incredibly precise: a bottlenose dolphin could discriminate between cilinders differing in wall thickness by just 0.23 mm (0.009 inch) from 8 meters away!! And they certainly notice when something is off.

I'm not sure if I ever shared this story before here, but in Curacao, when I was allowed to assist in a guest interaction programme, there was suddenly consternation in the pool behind us. A guest had entered the water and the dolphins were going crazy, paying no heed to the trainers anymore. The lead trainer that was with me gave the dolphins to me to watch over while she went to help. When she came back she told me what had happened. The guest that had caused so much uproar had left the water again and was asked if he had done anything to upset the dolphins. He hadn't, and he couldn't imagine what was wrong... until he mentioned he had a pacemaker. The younger dolphins in the pool had never seen someone with a pacemaker before and apparently it rocked their world.

It was such a wild experience, and offered such a cool insight into how dolphins experience their world. I'll never forget it.

#!!!

genderkoolaid

i think heterosexuality does have sexual revolutionary potential to the same extent that homosexuality does. its just that patriarchal society restricts m/f relationships so much that we don't recognize their true potential. like at its best, you are connecting with someone of a different gender- even your "opposite"- and through that connection you end up seeing yourself in them. im not even talking about "getting in touch with your feminine/masculine side" shit im talking about loving/lusting someone so much that you feel they are a part of you, and through that you demystify the other gender and feel profoundly tied to the issues they face. the patriarchy restrains straightness by forcing people in love/lust to always keep a wall between them, to insist on the idea that men and women speak a different language, to still see even the person they love/desire as an Other. a new, freer vision of straightness is one that inevitably fosters genderfuckery and inter-gender solidarity. heterosexual love and lust, freed from its restraints, has the power to shake up the basic patriarchal ideas of how men and women are supposed to relate to each other as "opposites." and this is why bi+ and transhet people are send by God to heal society thank you for coming to my tedtalk

#this is so true i love my bf <33 #he's a man and im Not and im really happy that he loves being a man #it was bad for me but it's good for him! and that's really been helpful for like #not going “masculinity was horrible for me so it's horrible for everyone ever”

caspercryptid

I feel like not enough people realize that people under enormous strain act really really fucking Weird

pine-branches

things humans are known to do when stressed:

-hallucinate

-cry over what seems to be small things

-become furiously angry over what seems to be small things

-hit a self destruct button over and over again

-lose all sense of reality

-becoming straight up unable to communicate

-view every situation as life or death

-experience delusions/become vulnerable to irrational worldviews

-perceive hostility where none exists

-become extremely nauseous and/or throw up

-stop engaging in sleeping/eating/basic hygiene

-stop processing sensory input

-process way too much sensory input all at once

-lash out at others/themselves

-and more!

being able to recognize when a human (ie. you or another person) is so stressed out they cannot think clearly is VERY important for conflict resolution and diffusing emotional crisis. highly recommend trying to train yourself at being able to recognize that state of panic- there is a point in which logic and rationality is useless and you have to address the underlying emotional issue first. knowing that saves everyone a lot of pain and struggle.

#mental health

feltedflyingfox

LGBTQ+ Pokemon: Relationship Dynamics

Polyamorous Porygon | Polyamorous Porygon2

Polyamorous PorygonZ | Queer Platonic Skitty

Polyamorous has so many flags I had to do three! The Porygons work out so well for these.

itkitcatrose

I love how you used the Porygon line for the different Polyamorous flags. It’s such a smart idea! (๑˃ᴗ˂)ﻭ

#polyamory #queerplatonic #pride flag #aww! cute!!

dailymanners

Book Recommendations

Miss Manner's Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior. If you want to read up more on manners outside of this blog, really any book by Miss Manners is going to be my front line recommendation, but this book is the best starting point for Miss Manner's books and gives the best general overview. I especially recommend books by Miss Manners for anyone who feels like they're on the socially awkward side and/or has a habit of accidentally upsetting others without realizing how or why, because Miss Manners actually takes the time to lay out and explain many social norms and boundaries that people expect you to "just know" without ever coming right out and saying.

How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Now, it was written by a businessman over 100 years ago, so some bits might seem dated and/or more geared towards the professional world. However, I am still including it here and still recommend reading it because I think this book lays down a lot of good and effective ground rules with how to be cordial and amicable in your daily social interactions, as well as good and in depth explanations on why these cordial and amicable behaviors are more preferable than their alternatives.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. Yes, throwing in a book about abusive relationships on this list might seem like an odd choice. However, this book is about so much more than verbally abusive relationships in the conventional sense. This book completely changed my entire worldview on human interactions and human relationships. I cannot rave enough about this book and what it says about human interactions and relationships. I wish I could give a copy to everybody in the entire world. Here's a goodreads review that summarizes why I think everybody in the whole world needs to read this book:

now, as a small disclaimer this book is a few decades old, so you might find some of the language a bit dated. However please don't let that stop you from reading this book, it will change your entire perspective on humanity and human interactions.

I will likely add more to this list at some point. If you're aware of other books / resources you think would be helpful and belong on this list, please feel free to message me.

#whoa! resources!

laterkiss

happy pride month 🏳️‍🌈

#queer #oh cute! :O

lgbtranswoman

Ice cold takes from a Transgender Woman:

Men are not inherently Evil

Everyone has the capacity for evil

Transgender Men are men

Transgender Women are women

Excluding Cisgender Men from your spaces requires Transgender Men to out themselves if they want to engage (Same for Women)

Anyone can be Non-Binary, there is no "look" or requirement

Non-binary masculine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces, many are just treated as men and predators

Non-binary feminine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces without being seen as "Woman-Lite"

Edited the wording on the first point because too many terfs keep thinking I'm their friend.

lgbtranswoman

Bringing back my most popular post for 2026 cause y'all still need it.

thesweetiepienovels

Some is better than none. Some is better than none. Some is better than none. Walking for three minutes, is better than nothing. Drinking a glass of water and eating a snack, is better than nothing. Wiping down the counter, is better than nothing. Small things are not nothing. Small things are not nothing. Small things are not nothing. You don’t have to achieve grand things if all you’re capable of right now is the smaller things. They are still achievements. Don’t do nothing just because you don’t think you’re capable of doing bigger things, just do something you’re capable of today.

#mental health

winged-thinged

You have to let people love you. You have to let people get to know you. You have to let people help you. Being so completely selfless that you try to erase yourself off the face of the planet and never ask for anything and reject everybody's offers of support makes you very hard to love! Unfortunately. Emptying yourself out of everything that makes you, you is not actually what your loved ones want from you, generally. They want to make you happy! They will be so so sad if you don't give them the chance. It's not all selfish. I promise.

#mental health