💕Rain Brings Rainbows💕

C| 29| bi| nerd

[toloveisallsheknows]

“touched my soul long before i knew what his hands felt like”

—

[cozypoems]

“she wanted to be the one to make him smile. she wanted to feel the purpose in his hands as they explored her body. she wanted to run her fingers through his hair as he fell asleep. she wanted to know about his past and become his future. she wanted to kiss him harder than she had ever kissed anyone before. how come it couldn’t be that easy?”

— parallels pt 2 (1:02 am)

[1amthoughtslove]

I find myself thinking about you, again.

[wlwdaydreamms]

im curious about what made you you. im curious about your taste in music. im curious about the way your mind thinks. im curious about how your body likes to be touched. im curious about your late night thoughts and how they make you feel. im curious about every single thing about you.

[thoughtkick]

“‘You’re going to be happy’ said life ‘but first I’ll make you strong.’”

— Unknown

[somanyjacks]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase "self care" doesn't resonate with you, try calling it "system maintenance" and see if that clicks.

[queerandkinkier]

Aftercare

I’ve organized some of the things I need from aftercare (in person or long distance) into 4 components, and thought it could be helpful for others too! I’ve put some examples for each, but it will of course look different for everyone.

1. Physical Care/Needs -

Wiping away tears

Helping up from floor

Getting a warm towel

Soothing bruises

Getting a glass of water

2. Physical Comfort/Affection -

Gentle kisses and hugs

Holding eachother tight

Breathing with eachother

Cuddling and/or napping together

Brushing fingers through hair

3. Scene Validation -

“That was so fun/sexy”

“That felt so good when you ____”

“You were such a good ____ for me”

“I love the bruises/marks you gave me”

“Thank you for (carrying out some fantasy) with me”

4. Human Affirmations -

“I love you; I care about you”

“I’m so grateful to have you in my life”

“I always have a great time when I’m with you”

“You’re a wonderful/kind/etc person”

Mentioning a non-sexual part of your relationship that you like, or reiterating that you value eachother as more than just a sub/dom(me)

I think that this can work whether you have a deeper connection or a more casual play partner! I always feel best when all of these components are covered during aftercare.

These things can obv be done in person, and I think it’s also really important to give this kind of care when you’re long distance, even if it’s just through words after sexting… for example-

“When we were done, I would help you up and wipe away your tears, bring you a warm towel and make sure you’re ok. Then I’d love to cuddle, with your head on my chest, and give you forehead kisses while telling you how good you made me feel and how wonderful of a person I think you are.”

Thanks for reading! Be safe everyone 💕💕

[carlinskie]

Hell yes! Now this is aftercare.

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[feministism]

[carlinskie]

Yup. It's not normal, yo.

[thegingerpowers]

and vodka… they also make vodka… sounds great to me. *winks*

[carlinskie]

Hell yes ;) vodka and fries. Classy

[sirslittlethief]

You’re not a bad sub if:

Edging isn’t for you.

Denial isn’t for you.

Pain isn’t for you.

Anal isn’t for you.

Oral isn’t for you.

You’re also not a bad sub if you need to safeword, if your limits are different today, if you have chronic conditions or mental health struggles that limit you more than you’d like.

There’s so many posts that talk about the “ways to be a good sub” and honestly there is no one way and it’s okay to do what’s right for you. You’re not a bad sub at all.

[carlinskie]

Did you hear that? I sure did.

[perfectfeelings]

“I’m down to cuddle for like 2 days straight.”

—

[carlinskie]

Um, YES!!!!

[takethisride]

You can’t see people’s mental health.

Be kind always.

- takethisride

[isntitlovelybeinginlove]

I’ve been really craving dominance so much more than I usually do. Like I just want someone to possessively hold my waist while we wait in line at a grocery store, push me against the wall and kiss me senseless in our kitchen, firmly hold my chin while you’re talking just to let me know I need to give you all my attention, tie my hands up and touch me until I’m literally crying for all of you. Just do anything to make me feel taken care of and owned pls:(

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[bauliya]

the idea that being closeted is being a liar is a heterosexual propaganda that hates queer people protecting themselves. you don't have to come out if you're not safe.

[nguyennclaudia]

“She wasn’t like anyone he’d met before. He was sure he wanted never to let go of her hand; their fingers seemed to fit together in just the right way - effortlessly clasped, like perfect complements.”

— Nicholas Sparks, The Last Song (via loveroftheligth)