A weird strategy of people who support abusers is to point out (actual or made-up) mistakes the victim made. As if the victim making mistakes (or the abuser claiming the victim made mistakes) made the abuse somehow less bad/ the victim's fault/ irrelevant.
A friend of my abusers once said that her abusing multiple people to the point of cptsd didn't matter to them, because "people can change", but that me warning them about her is "telling".















