(Inactive: owner died unexpectedly)

Trans people have rights, but none of those rights include r*ping lesbians :-) I'm a cat lover, a survivor of corrective csa, and an extremely dysphoric female. Let's abolish gender, porn, and other forms of destructive stupidity! 

[catladyterf]

Anouncement:

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I apologize for formatting issues. Tumblr is a foreign website to me)6

Greetings all,

I regret to inform you that the person who ran this blog has died. I will not elaborate on the circumstances of her death, largely because I know there are many who will celebrate it. If you are one of those people, you disgust me. I, her girlfriend, am writing this because, personally, I would want to know if someone whose blog I’d been reading had died. I will not be deleting this blog, because that would be disrespectful to her memory. However, it would also be disrespectful to try to run the blog for her.

I cannot begin to express how devastated I am to lose her. Our relationship wasn’t perfect, of course, but it was the most beautiful thing I had ever experienced in my life. I’m sure I’ll miss her every day from here on out. But this isn’t about me.

I hope all of you are doing well and that you’re interacting with people such that if they died tomorrow you’d have nothing to regret.

Sincerely,

E.K.

[catladyterf]

Please die

She did. Hope you’re happy, you sick fuck.

[catladyterf]

God fucking dammit I’ve been trying to type this like 3 times. Fucking tumblr didn’t want me to use the backspace key. Anyway

I was missing her a lot tonight so I thought to log in here and read her words. Its like I can hear her passionate ranting when I read what she wrote. it hurts but it’s a good hurt.

but uh. I go on here and lo and behold there are fifty+ messages from some kid who apparently made a tumble account just to be like “hey you stole my art for the profile puc and now people see it on my wall and they think I’m a terf and I’m scared.” So at his request I’m going to try to chNge it. Credit goes to “ghost gang creates” on Instagram. Sorry ghost gang. I didn’t know she did that. She was wrong to do it.

anyway. Grief is a real sonofabitch and it has yet to get any easier. i know I cherished her while she was alive but I wish I wish I wish I’d done more and loved her more extravagantly even than what I did. Don’t hold back. Love like you’re dying, or like they are.

——EK

(ps I’m shocked to see how many of you are still fOllowing h4r?$

[catladyterf]

Hello everyone, just a quick life update--I have been really ill the past few days, and my COVID-19 test just came back positive. My energy is basically nonexistent, so I will probably be absent for the next while. Stay safe

[wandering-feminist]

It's only natural for gay people to feel disconnected from traditional man/womanhood, as many facets of these gender roles are comprised of heterosexuality and behaviours intended to appeal to the opposite sex. This does not mean that being gay makes one less of a man or woman, only that gay people are less likely to meet society's expectations of members of their sex. If you are gay and struggle to "feel like" or relate to society's ideas of what you should be as a male or female, please know that this is perfectly normal. Being gay and gender-noncomforming is wonderful, and there is nothing wrong with being your own kind of man/woman.

[dragonsbones]

This is why "gender non-conformity" is a marker for children who later come out as same-sex attracted. Gender roles fall in line with heterosexual customs and expectations. Even as a child who doesn't understand them or doesn't even realize they're ssa, they'll end up defying them. We're not fighting against gender roles as some sort of political statement at the age of ten, its simply 100% incompatible with the way that same-sex attracted people interact with the world.

[sapphospeakeasy]

Daily Reminders:

— Bisexual Lesbians do not exist

— Bisexual Butch/Femmes do not exist

— Butch and femme men definitely do not exist

— Trans men can not and have never been butch

— “male-allighned" lesbians do not exist

— the "trans butch cusp“ isn't real, it's transmisogynist and lesphobic bullshit.

— Supporting trans women's voices is more important than blabbing about "how hard" trans men have it becouse they aren't hyper vissible

— It is specifically black trans women who are being murdered by both the police and the public

— Trans women DO NOT have male or "AMAB" priverlage

— Trans men DO have male priverlage

— AMAB nonbinary people DO exist.

[opabiniawillreturn-deactivated2]

how do trans men have male privilege if they aren't male

[thatkindoffeminist]

This person just said that supporting trans women’s voices is more important that listening to and supporting the trans men who aren't as visible (and hence who’s issues trnd to go ignored)

[its-turning-all-the-frogs-gay]

op can you even give sources for your "black trans woman" claim because last i checked, trans people get murdered less than the general public, technically making them safer than "cis" people. also! most of these deaths were concluded to be more domestic disputes that lead to violence (as trans people are remarkably involved in the sex trade which is very dangerous) rather than actual hate crimes.

[spookyterf]

priverlage

[catladyterf]

Op went from “mhm accurate” to “wtf did I just read” real quick 😂

[caroldanversenthusiast]

Apparently Mary Elizabeth Winstead in Birds of Prey wielding a crossbow isn’t sexy according to a man ??

it’s almost as if men are used to seeing women in film through a male gaze where they are sexualized and objectified for male pleasure and approval.??

huh anyway MEN are weak and ladies enjoy Mary Elizabeth Winstead looking hot and powerful as Huntress

like THAT ^^^^^^^^^ is sexy men need to grow up

[adamcansuckme]

Hmmmmm I wonder why

I know this isn't specifically about Harley Quinn, but since it's her movie, I gotta make the comparison. I mean I wonder why all men were drooling over this Harley

But I havent heard a single male praise for her hotness since the trailers for her movie came out and they find out now she looks like this

I MEAN

I W O N D E R W H Y

[caroldanversenthusiast]

the difference a woman makes thank god

[catladyterf]

They didn’t think the first picture was attractive???? How????

[sunfortune]

me reading 1984 in high school every time the main dude would give a description of the only female character: big brother just kill this clown

[sunfortune]

this post struck a nerve with the misogyny fandom

[fandoms-stole-my-soul]

If anyone would like to know exactly what winstons thoughts were when he saw Julia for the first time, I can give it to you. He saw her wearing a chasity belt (signifying that she had never had sex before) and he saw her as something to be defiled. One glance at her and he was so angry that he “could never have her” and that she would never give him the time of day because he was an old and ugly man. (She does give him the time of day later so he was mad over nothing). He is so mad that she is better and purer than he is (in his own words) that he describes exactly how he wants to rape and murder her. He describes in detail how he wants to strip her down, tie her to a pole, fill her full of arrows, rape her, and at the moment of his climax, slit her throat.

So yes, by the time the rats were put in front of his face I was damn well rooting for the rats.

[fillingupthecityskies-deactivat]

Winston isn’t meant to be a morally perfect Jesus-like character, he’s meant to represent an average man with thoughts and feelings that have been so horrifically distorted they are almost inhuman due to the nature of an oppressive state.

I’m not going to go into detail, but you’re missing the whole point about what the state says reality should be. Winston enjoys thinking the opposite as both an adrenaline rush and a coping mechanism. If the state says be orderly, do not have sex for pleasure, do not display emotion, be “Good”, then of course his fantasy is going to be radically depraved and full of rage (a strong emotion) and the most violent behavior he can dream of. It is the exact opposite of what is allowed.

[prophylexis-deactivated20201113]

Yeah as a rape survivor (and having previously been married to someone that expressed on multiple occasions a fantasy of murdering me in an “intimate way”) I’m gonna have to pass. If violent rape-murder is “going against the system” then I’m pro-system at that point. Plus if those are the thoughts of an “average man” then y'all need to be in camps.

I read & relatively enjoyed 1984. I’m still very much allowed to be outright disgusted at the way his thoughts about Julia are written & don’t need to make excuses to justify it. It added nothing to the point of the book. Just like the child sewer orgy in IT: those scenes added nothing to their respective plots except outlets for the author’s sexual depravity.

Women are not punching bags for men’s anger at the state. If you think his thoughts are “justifiable” under ANY circumstance please do me a favor & cease interacting with anything I post entirely. I too exist under an overbearing government & grew up in a puritanical religious household where sex & pleasure were taboo & yet I STILL have never fantasized about raping & killing anyone.

Men raped & murdered long before governments existed. If you think that’s a reasonable response to “the state” & not psychopathic misogyny you need therapy.

[venusdryad]

people will straight face say shit like “when men are repressed they naturally fantasize about raping and murdering women” and then turn around and say feminists demonize men

[radmenace]

this post struck a nerve with the misogyny fandom

[radfoid-deactivated20221209]

Link here.

[radfoid-deactivated20221209]

This was added.

[catladyterf]

Heartbreaking.

[catladyterf]

You deserved every rape you went through. I hope the next man to make use of you kills you when he’s done

I mean, several of them tried and it didn’t work... I don’t think I CAN be killed, so keep dreaming anon :-)

[peaches-and-honey-and-the-moon]

"Race, class, and gender" no sir its race, class, and sex

[dontratoutyourfriends-moved]

(Image text: “I will no longer entertain debate about my right to exist.”)

Gender Troubles: The Butches

[flamequil]

Someone left a link in the notes. To any trans person who wants to watch (and anyone wanting to similarly talk about butch experience): This video is set up in ways that get our terf guards up. The title, how much they mention that they get misgenderedand need to clarify they’re not trans guys in the first segment, and one frequently using the term female all contribute to the uneasy feeling it might be a terf thing. However, I heard nothing overtly hostile and plenty of stuff I related to both as a trans woman and a femme lesbian.

It’s a good chance for us to listen to others within our community and understand their needs. Lots of butch women talking about their experiences and focused on their experiences, thankfully not their opinions of trans people.

[vladscastle-deactivated20231022]

Local man gives women permission to watch documentary even if the term “female” appears

[mithliya]

how dare butch lesbians talk about their experiences???? must be terfy

[shes-unforgettable]

“frequently using the term female” Crystal clear that your movement is anti-woman and anti-feminist at its core so much so that even speaking of women sets you off. I have no patience for any movement so fragile and misogynistic. None.

[lesbian-lizards]

One of my earliest gripes with transactivism was how it was taking away gay and lesbian’s ability to discuss the ways gender harms us. “Gender” is not good for gay people (or women, for that matter, so it’s especially not good for lesbians) and now we can’t even discuss why without getting their “terf guards up”.

[catladyterf]

Hiya, just a reminder to all y'all that if you're overly suspicious/skeptical and less than compassionate due to years of having to be that way to survive, it doesn't make you an evil person. Your brain is just trying to protect you. You can take its advice or leave it. Relearning trust and compassion takes time, and old habits die hard. And as you're relearning these things, practice kindness even to those who set off alarm bells in your brain. Awareness and kindness are not mutually exclusive

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

Yo, people with acne

These are hydrocolloid bandages. They work wonders at pulling fluid through skin and absorbing all that gunk. 

You can cut them down to size, wear them on your face at night, and in the morning you’ll see a noticeable difference plus the bandage visibly absorbs the goo and it’s gross but weirdly satisfying.

They’re cheaper than most acne products, they work, and 1 pack lasts for ages. They’re sold in the band-aid section of most pharmacies; try them if you can.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

it’s the same stuff they use to make those new acne spot patches, but

medical grade material, absorbs more fluid

much cheaper 

comes in a large size you can trim down. some people use hole punchers to cut out circles to wear during the day. i trim large rectangles to use on problem spots at night

[awheckery]

These are also absolutely game-changing for anybody with a skin-picking problem. This is a judgment-free zone, I’ve Been There, and there are plenty of times I still find myself unable to leave something alone, whether it be a bug bite or a pimple or whathaveyou, because it’s There and I can’t ignore it long enough for it to properly heal.

Hydrocolloids basically act as a scab over the thing you can’t stop bothering, and as Gaud mentions above, they absorb gunk, which makes them bubble up like a little artificial blister. It’s so satisfying, you have something to pokepokepoke at, without actually hecking up the thing healing under the bubble.

These are, hands down, the fastest way to get problem spots under control; you can leave them on for multiple days at a time (up to a week, actually), based on the size, location and severity of your picky spot, so you can slap a hydrocolloid on something minor before it becomes a problem, and four days later or so you peel it off and there is no more problem, just smooth new skin. (They minimize scarring too, in case that’s something anybody else has psychological issues with.)

Basically, these are magical and they’re worth every. single. cent.

[awisekrakens]

well hot damn

have you noticed if they help with old scarring? my picky areas are kind of my entire upper arms, back of neck, and various shoulder regions.

[awheckery]

Yannow what? I have no idea? My instincts say probably not, hydrocolloids help speed up a natural bodily healing process called debridement (DON’T LOOK UP PHOTOS THEY’RE HORRIFYING), so once your body’s finished bombing an area with white blood cells and scar tissue’s formed, I want to say a hydrocolloid won’t do anything.

That being said, there’s another option in the ‘stick a gooey bandage on it and ignore it for a while’ field of treatment, and they’re called “silicone scar sheets.” They’ve been used as a treatment for scarring, both new and old, since the 90’s, and while I can’t personally vouch for their efficacy, apparently they do actually work?

I see ‘em at the pharmacy all the time, and I’ve been too put off by the price to have actually noticed that apparently they’re reusable???

I just learned this in the last thirty minutes, so I’m here like “?????” but more critically, scientists are also like “?????” because despite having been in effective use for thirty-some years, they don’t know how or why silicone gel treatments work. This is honestly hilarious to me and has piqued my contrarian nature, so TELL YA WHAT:

I will run a field test for you! If one box of silicone gel sheets actually is the two-month supply it advertises itself to be, they’re cheaper than an equal volume of hydrocolloids, especially if there’s an equivalent store brand. I’ve got a couple largeish, unlovely surgical scars I wouldn’t mind being rid of, so. Yeah.

I’ll pick up some scar sheets this week and try ‘em out, then update you on how that goes. Call me weird, but I won’t recommend something to somebody else unless I have firsthand experience with something, and I have intense opinions about bandaid-type products.

LET’S SEE HOW IT GOES

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

in my experience, silicone sheets are quite helpful for scars!

i’ve seen studies mention that they probably work by keeping the area continually moist (love that awful word. MOIST.) but no one’s really sure

i’ve noticed the most improvement when using them on new scars for 2 or 3 weeks, but you can still get long-term improvement for months afterwards

the one annoyance i’ve had is some brands don’t stick very well, so you may have to tape over them or try another brand. they also make silicone gel, which is applied like a liquid bandage. there’s less research on the effectiveness of gel, so if you use it, i recommend applying a normal silicone sheet over it (buy the sheet + gel pack if you can).

but yeah, silicone will be especially helpful for newer scars, so apply it sooner rather than later. that said, it should improve the appearance of old scar if worn long enough.

note: silicone sheets are more expensive but can be worn for much longer than hydrocolloid bandages. they don’t absorb gunk and can be wiped off, so there’s nothing preventing you from wearing them for weeks at a time. like hydrocolloid bandages, there are plenty of generic options.

[catladyterf]

Silicone scar sheets are great! My only issue with them is that they’re quite small (like 3 or 4 cm by 7 or 8 cm) and most of my scars needed more than one, but it also comes in a roll-on that works really well for bigger scars, so I ended up mostly using that. I used to have about 900 visible scars, now I have less than 200 (unless I get really dark, then I have about 300-350). They also get a lot less puffy!

[homiedepot]

[homiedepot]

[catladyterf]

Especially if she buys me coffee to put it in 😍

[miss-radical]

There are bi people that don’t want to have sex with post transition trans people despite being attracted to both sexes. Some of us just don’t enjoy having sex with surgically altered genitals. We don’t want to have sex with a replication of a penis/vagina that’s actually very unlike a penis/vagina. And that’s ok. You don’t have to sleep with someone you don’t want to just to not be transphobic. Just because we don’t want to sleep with them doesn’t mean we hate them or want them to die.

[mymatblue]

A real pity that last line has to be said but here we are.

[transmisandry]

Correlating a lack of desire for sex and attraction to hatred is such a male concept.

[its-turning-all-the-frogs-gay]

^^

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[ivp]

this is dehumanizing and not funny in any shape or form

[catladyterf]

Heinous. How bout we don’t dehumanize people. Even if “itz 4 the lolz” it’s neither Cool nor Funny.