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why does everyone make those relateable posts about depression meals and list stuff like, half a potato chip and forgetting eat but no one ever talks about the other half of people who overeat from depression? no one talks about gouging yourself with food the second you feel bad because somehow youre convinced food will make you feel better but it doesnt so you keep eating until it does? the weight gain? feeling sick from eating so much? eating an entire bag of chips and a whole carton of ice cream in one sitting without knowing it?? feeling even worse because youre making yourself so ill???

why does no one remember this symptom?

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Because of fatphobia. Plus it doesn’t fit the “cute sad waif” side of depression that everyone keeps romanticizing.

dykecosette

depression meal: 4 servings of chocolate cake and wild cherry pepsi

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“I’m caught between trying to live my life, and trying to run from it.”

— Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being A Wallflower

greelin

another day of being a bisexual disaster

tastefullyoffensive

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Puppy: ”See, I told you we’d both fit on here comfortably.” 🔊

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THE TAIL WAGGING

caringcoffeechats

i feel like there’s this concept constantly repeated about how women “grow up” and realize they don’t need a relationship to be whole, so they need to spend like a year alone max and “find themselves” before they enter a new relationship… and like i’m sure that is a very real problem for people, like i definitely know people like this… but i feel like there’s a number of us who that narrative does not relate to at all… like while some have had whatever number of partners, some of us have had none… so the problem is that what happens is you’ll have people who have had a significant number of relationships telling other people who have been #single forever, that these single people need to spend time finding themselves…. and, i’ve said this before, but you can only spend so much time finding yourself…. like for some of us that is just not our issue… and it does relate to the overarching problem of people not being able to successfully put theirselves in other people’s shoes

but i feel like we live in a society where a lot of emphasis is put on romantic relationships so then some people end up putting all of their energy into romantic relationships, leaving people who would prefer deeper friendships less space to find them. and then eventually friendship-oriented people are forced to try to find romantic interests too, because apparently that’s the only way to find some connection… but also because at some point most people are making a shift towards these relationships that focus on an individual family unit that revolves around itself…. so then you’re just like fuck people are having babies and im still #single… and it’s like this weird feeling of not fitting into society coupled with the weight/side effects of years of loneliness……

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This is exactly how I feel. I spend a lot of time alone. I’d rather have deep and meaningful friendships and I can’t seem to find a place in this world where I feel I fit in…. it’s like wanting a family with people who only see you as a back up when their romantic relationship is over or on the rocks.

captamysantiago

This cured my depression

ruthwilson

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Florence Welch for Vogue

scuttleboat

now fuck yeah that is a cool cover

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a person from 150 years ago would be terrified by modern stuff . however , a duck from 150 years ago would just be all like ,still got lakes? yes ? okay cool

elodieunderglass

“How fleeting are all human passions compared with the massive continuity of ducks.”

― Dorothy L. Sayers, Gaudy Night (1935)

chatdomestique

Reblogging again because I thought they changed the quote so I decided to look up the actual quote and it’s not fake that is very much the actual quote

obviousplant

I made some “Advice From Nature” bookmarks

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spicyh0tramen

I just read “Hufflepuff isn’t a house where you can stick people who don’t fit in the other houses”

But the thing is? It literally it is, Helga Hufflepuff said she would take the rest.

She preferred the loyal and hardworking for her house, but felt that everyone should have a chance. Not a Gryffindor, a Slytherin, or a Ravenclaw? Not a loyal, hardworking Hufflepuff either?

Well that’s okay. Helga Hufflepuff founded her house believing anyone should be given a chance at Hogwarts. Those four archetypes aren’t all that matter, and if you don’t fit any of them Hufflepuff will still welcome you.

Godric/Rowena/Salazar were perfectly happy to say “You don’t fit into our houses, you can’t come to Hogwarts” and it was only Helga who was willing to say “You might not fit my ideals of a student, but you can still be in my house”

Like. I think that’s super cool. I don’t like it when people shoehorn Hufflepuff into being one and the same like the rest of the houses, sure, loyalty, hardworking, kindness.. that’s the priority.. but it’s truly a place for everyone. And that’s where Hufflepuff’s kindness shines the most.

‘I’ll teach the lot And treat them just the same.’

‘Good Hufflepuff, she took the rest and taught them all she knew’

Hufflepuff’s pride as a house comes not only from loyalty, hardworking, toil, and kindness, but from diversity. Something the other founders did not realize the importance of.

societyofbadgers

I never really thought about this- but you are 100% right.

coffee-alien

“Imagine having a child that refuses to hug you or even look you in the eyes”

Imagine being shamed, as a child, for not showing affection in a way that is unnatural or even painful for you. Imagine being forced, as a child, to show affection in a way that is unnatural or even painful for you. Imagine being told, as a child, that your ways of expressing affection weren’t good enough. Imagine being taught, as a child, to associate physical affection with pain and coercion.

samayla

As a preschool special ed para, this is very important to me. All my kids have their own ways of showing affection that are just as meaningful to them as a hug or eye contact is to you or me.

One gently squeezes my hand between both of his palms as he says “squish.” I reciprocate. When he looks like he’s feeling sad or lost, I ask if I can squish him, and he will show me where I can squish him. Sometimes it’s almost like a hug, but most of the time, it’s just a hand or an arm I press between my palms. Then he squishes my hand in return, says “squish,” and moves on. He will come ask for squishes now, when he recognizes that he needs them.

Another boy smiles and sticks his chin out at me, and if he’s really excited, he’ll lean his whole body toward me. The first time he finally won a game at circle time, he got so excited he even ran over and bumped chins with me. He now does it when he sees me outside of school too. I stick out my chin to acknowledge him, and he grins and runs over and I lean down for a chin bump.

Yet another child swings my hand really fast. At a time when another child would be seeking a hug, she stands beside me and holds my hand, and swings it back and forth, with a smile if I’m lucky. The look on her face when I initiate the hand swinging is priceless.

Another one bumps his hip against mine when he walks by in the hallway or on the playground, or when he gets up after I’m done working with him. No eye contact, no words, but he goes out of his way to “crash” into me, and I tell him that it’s good to see him. He now loves to crash into me when I’m least expecting it. He doesn’t want anything, really. Just a bump to say “Hi, I appreciate you’re here.” And when he’s upset and we have to take a break, I’ll bump him, ask if he needs to take a walk, and we just go wander for a bit and discuss whatever’s wrong, and he’s practically glued to my side. Then one more bump before we go back into the room to face the problem.

Moral of the story is, alternative affection is just as valid and vitally important as traditional affection. Reciprocating alternative affection is just as valid and vitally important as returning a hug. That is how you build connections with these children.

tobiblack

I just . . this is amazing, and wonderful, and should be posted everywhere where there are people and shown to everyone who thinks there is one way to show affection - by eye contact or hug.