tired but hopeful

21+ | pronouns vary | DID | CPTSD | endos & minors dni

[chainlinksunset]

》 who:

——— DID system. dx'd. bodily 21+. have other disorders. withholding count for privacy; any of us may post here or not at their discretion.

》 what:

——— shitposts, aesthetics, banter, chatting, roleplaying, cats, ocs, games, music, whatever. interests vary by person. i don't know what everyone likes.

》 why:

——— getting to know each other. meeting and interacting with new people outside our household. having a semianonymous space to exist online without being expected to mask as an amalgamation.

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×× dni:

×× endos, pro-endo, endo-sympathetic. | minors. | general dni criteria incl various types of bigotry.

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~~ notes:

~~ if you need smth tagged we'll try. just let us know.

~~ this blog is for a did system. you becoming friends with one person does not mean you are friends with all of us. most likely the rest of us have no fucking clue who you are. don't be fucking weird about it; you wouldn't be shocked your new acquaintance's coworkers don't kiss you on the cheeks the moment you walk into their job.

~~ idrc if yr "endo-neutral" bc youve decided you dont give a shit abt whatever the hell theyre doing, but if youre "endo-neutral" bc you "don't wanna pick sides and everyone is valid" you can go to hell.

[discodeerdiary]

Dealing with auditory processing disorder

LAWFUL: take the parts you heard and turn it into a clarifying question, e. g. "you saw your cousin where?" or "she's writing a what?"

NEUTRAL: "what did you say?"

CHAOTIC: take a wild stab at what the person said, e. g. "you want to baptize a mackerel?"

[genderkoolaid]

how safe is it to miss t? /gen

i was just wondering since i havent heard anyone talk about it, all i know is youre meant to try to be regular

ty, i hope ur feeling ok!

It's obviously not ideal since hormone fluctuations can make your body go wacky, but it's not something to be overly concerned about. If you have health conditions that could be triggered or worsened by hormone fluctuations it might be more of a concern, but generaly it's not something you should freak out about if it happens. Missing one or two doses won't do anything serious to your transition, since HRT is about maintaining hormone levels over a long period of time; it took like 4 weeks for me to get cramps again, and you aren't gonna reverse any of the more major changes (the ones that ARE reversible, like weight redistribution) unless you miss a lot of doses

However something you absolutely should Not do is "make up" missed doses by taking twice as much T next time. That IS dangerous. If you miss a dose, either take it when you remember or wait until your next dose and take a normal amount. Also it's never a bad idea to check in with a doctor if you are worried about it or notice anything strange going on after missing one or more doses!

[atypi-cals]

question, then: if someone took their dose, say, weekly, every Saturday, missed their dose one week, and remembered it Tuesday and took it then. Should they switch to taking their weekly dose Tuesdays in thay scenario?

[chainlinksunset]

as someone whose missed T shots more than once***:

in the situation you described, what id do is either take it consistently on tuesdays from that point forward, or slowly meter things forward — take this shot tuesday, then wait 8 days instead of 7, so my next is on a wednesday. wait another 8 days, take it on thursday. continue that way until it lands on the day of the week that works best (saturday in your example), then keep it consistently on that day.

***not a doctor, not medical advice. just practical/prior-experience on the best way i found to deal with it then

[hollowboobtheory]

unironically people need to learn to say “they haven’t done anything wrong i just find them annoying”

[gummiebun-deactivated20230501]

I personally think people need to understand that if someone hasn’t wronged you or anyone else, you should NOT dislike them. You don’t have to like them; just remain neutral.

[hollowboobtheory]

nope! this is the kind of attitude the leads to you picking apart every little thing a person does digging through their past for dirt and problematizing everything about them, exaggerating harm, assuming the worst about them, putting words in their mouth, etc, to justify the fact that you simply don’t vibe with them when the truth is that you will not get along with everybody you meet in life and it’s extremely possible to be civil to someone you don’t like. you don’t have to be friends with everybody its fine. it’s certainly nicer than falsely accusing them of some heinous shit rather than admit that you’re not some Disney princess who’s never had an unfairly mean thought in her life and loves everybody and sings with little birdies and is never bitchy or irritable. sometimes you get annoyed for stupid reasons and understanding that your personal feelings about a person aren’t necessarily related to their morals or worthiness as a human being is the first step to being a civil adult.

[aarons-abditory]

[chainlinksunset]

man i really have no idea how to find people on this site anymore

it used to be super easy bc i was really into some fandoms but im not into anything except ocs and rp now and thats a lot harder to track down

[babydoll-deer]

// you look so cool //

[pirouetten]

we never go out of style

[orpheusilver]

peeling those sour rainbow gummy strips into long thin strings and putting them into cheap energy drink to create something im calling battery acid spaghetti will update once ive finished it

[orpheusilver]

dont do this

[babblingbranches]

[cryptcollector]

I really hope its not too bad bc i actually love both components.

[cryptcollector]

it forms a dry skin at the top made of the sour pellets. not a great start.

[cryptcollector]

tastes really good actually. i also feel like i am about to explode.

[cryptcollector]

do not do this.

[jenjensd]

Unanimous consensus: Do not do this

Other people: Hold on I’m about to do this

[jenjensd]

[beeceit-deactivatingsoon-deacti]

Rip to y'all, but I'm built different. Trying this tonight

[beeceit-deactivatingsoon-deacti]

Best I can do with what I have (I'm at work rn)

[beeceit-deactivatingsoon-deacti]

Oh that is a... fascinating smell

[beeceit-deactivatingsoon-deacti]

Don't do this

[nyancrimew]

i think i'll try this tomorrow actually, it can't be that bad, im sure ive made worse cursed foods before

[keendle]

*fucking towel burritos you*

get socialized idiot

[penrosesun]

[dsudis]

For the details with no paywall:

More gay and bisexual men will now be able to donate blood under finalized FDA rules

While the number of people eligible to donate blood has expanded, the agency says it will continue to monitor the safety of the blood supply

[chainlinksunset]

my tiny idiot son is crying to me because he cant eat the moths outside the door

[wingedprincessheart]

ok some days being visibly homo is the most wonderful thing in the world. an old woman walking her dog stopped to say hello to me and I asked if i could say hi to her dog. she seemed really excited and told me "his name is rupert brooke. i named him after a gay poet from the era of the first world war. he had red hair just like my dogs fur". then she leans in and whispers like she's divulging some great secret and says "i don't usually tell people about the gay part"

[chainlinksunset]

god i want to write ocs w someone. whos open. whos ready

[lifehacksthatwork]

Signs of a heart attack are different for each gender yet we only really teach the male warning signs. Make sure you’re aware of both and spread it to as many other women as possible!

[branwyn-says]

EVERY SINGLE TIME I HAVE TAKEN A CPR CLASS I have had to be that person who points out that the training videos ALWAYS frame the “male” symptoms as the default universal heart attack experience, while the “female” symptoms are framed as though they’re a deviation from the norm, rather than the primary symptom set that cis women experience. 

ALSO: I just showed this post to my roommate, who is an MD at a clinic that specializes in care for the LGBT community in the Baltimore area. I asked her  whether hormones were responsible for the difference in the “male/female” symptom arrays. I asked how that would apply to her trans patients (which, she treats a LOT of trans patients). She said, basically, that the longer you’ve taken testosterone the more likely you are to get the intense chest pressure and the arm pain, versus the upper back pressure and shortness of breath.

Obviously I am not a doctor myself, consult your own health care provider, etc.

[sanscarte]

Reblogging this comment because this is the FIRST TIME I’ve ever seen someone address what XYZ medical condition would look like in trans patients. Also this is partly why my great-grandma died: the (male) doctor dismissed her heart attack as basically indigestion, because she didn’t have the typical male symptoms.

[solarpunkarchivist-deactivated2]

Oh my God someone was able to answer the trans patient question!

[kasperand]

We just moved into a new house that has zero mirrors in it due to having needed to work on the bathrooms before the place was livable reasons, and not seeing my reflection for a week has made me reprioritize 'vampires don't show in mirrors' on my list of correct and good vampire traits.

I've always like vampires not showing in stuff, but it now feels necessary to the monster.

-Not seeing yourself has a depersonalizing effect that belongs in narratives concerned with othering.

-If i want to look nice at the moment, I have to trust my partner to make me up. Finding a second vampire is both threat and boon at every level.

-clinging to a selfie or portrait painting from when you were alive as a way to recognize and remember who you are, and slowly coming to recognize the image as a fully different being, someone who's dead.

It's not like people concerned with vampires don't play in this space, but, alongside sunlight, this often feels like one of the things jettisoned early. Especially in today's surveillance state, where it's Easy to lose control of one's image, that feels like a misstep.

[kasperand]

@ploncc i hope you don't mind me adding your tags.

People keep saying things like "mirrors are backed with silver!" We know. That isn't the space where this post lives. This is:

[feminist-space]

[feminist-space]

[ruimtetijd]

same energy:

[theitalianscrub]

That last one is just so... dude.