in order to not succumb to sex negative conservatism you have to accept that people will get off to things that are upsetting to you. and you cannot assume anything about what they have or have not experienced, what they do or do not believe, and how they act based solely on what gets them off. even if it’s extremely confusing and disturbing to you. there are people who have only ever had heterosexual vanilla sex in missionary with the lights off, who actively contribute to more real world harm than your average fetish artist. kink is not a reliable source of information on someone’s moral standing. it just feels good to think that way.
you know i’ve thought a lot about over how the use of evil races/beings reflects + encourages a worldview of Inherently Good beings who are never on the wrong side of history in an endless battle against Inherently Bad people who have no rights or moral complexity. but i didn’t think people were like. using lich kings as the basis of how they view other living human beings dealing with things they never asked for. or framing themselves (?) as king fucking arthur. and then going on to talk about “moral thoughts” like that’s a healthy moral framework. B+ in dehumanization, points for creativity
anyways. in this house we believe that only actions are morally judgeable (being things we choose and can choose to stop) and thus simply having a paraphilia is not something we can make moral judgements about. additionally, while thoughts and feelings can influence our actions, our minds give us the ability to understand this influence and thus react to it. morally judging thoughts and feelings is harmful to people’s mental health and actively makes it harder to practice honest self-reflection, which is crucial to making good choices and growing as a person without the negative consequences of shame and self-hatred. booooo tomato tomato
