AND ANOTHER THING ABOUT AMATONORMATIVITY. even if you’re an allo person who has a romantic relationship that you center a lot of your life around, even if being romantically fulfilled is one of your biggest goals in life, amatonormativity cheapens that decision! if these things are deeply important to you, don’t you want to have the opportunity to fully choose them for yourself instead of having them just be assumed parts of your life? even if you choose the path amatonormativity pushes onto everyone, the ability to CHOOSE it is important, and if you ask me, makes it more meaningful.
you know how some cis people question their gender, really explore it, and then come to the conclusion that they really are cis and unlock cis+? you can do this as an alloromantic person too! i encourage people who aren't aro to really think about what kinds of relationships they want to center in their lives and what they want out of those relationships.
maybe you do this exploration and come to the conclusion that you really do personally see being in a romantic relationship as your highest priority. if that's the case, congratulations! you have unlocked alloro+ and you have my respect for that 👍
Literally me rn, third sexuality switch-up so far 🥲 but that's okay, I knew even when I thought I was aroace that I would appreciate that time of my life so much cus I learnt so much and it transformed my perspective of everything - I really value the peace and independence I felt in that time of my life and I will carry that part of my life and identity with me forever
