Please I’m begging, get them therapy

Main: @ratherbefalling Bnha side blog, mostly theories and memes! She/they/he, 20, call me Bells Ask box is always open! Spoilers are tagged under bnha spoilers Check me out on ao3

[class1aneedstherapy]

do you have a discord server or something to talk about theories and stuff you might have

Ah! I don’t have a personal server 😅 I’m not a popular enough creator for that lol, maybe if one of my fics take off or my following on Twit grows.

But I can give you a link to a server I’m most active in right now.

https://discord.gg/yfNxQDXC

Join the Fuck Endeavour Squad Discord Server!

Check out the Fuck Endeavour Squad community on Discord - hang out with 77 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

It’s honestly a really chill server, hope to see you there.

[abessinier]

Stuff kids on tumblr better relearn

1. You are responsible for your own media experience. 

2. There is such a thing as a healthy level of avoidance towards topics that make you feel unwell or even (in a real-life clinical definition of the term) trigger you - but you are the one to actively take care of what you view.

3. Avoiding does not mean policing others.

4. You have no right to tell artists to censor themselves - you may criticize what others do, you may dislike it, that’s fine - but actively asking for censorship when you could easily unfollow or block a person just makes you look incompetent in your use of the internet.

5. Do not give people on tumblr or /any/ website the responsibility for your emotional well-being. Because these people do not even know you so no, you have no right to ask them to take care of you.

[vesperlionheart]

6. Content creators are not your parents and owe you nothing, not even a breakdown on why their content isn’t problematic. You don’t get to demand a dissertation denouncing any and everything unhealthy in a piece you don’t like. Move on.

[summerpipedream]

7. Tagging is a nicety but not an obligation. You can message people, politely, and ask them to tag things, and many people will, but understand that it’s their blog and they aren’t obliged to say yes. Unfollow and block when you need to. Circling back to number 1, you are responsible for curating your own experience.

8. Don’t be a jerk. Remember at the end of the day, there are actual living, breathing people behind each screen name. Don’t say anything you wouldn’t say to someone’s face in real life. 

[pixie-mage]

I cannot stress enough how important it is to remember this.

[jenroses]

I have a bunch of mental tripwires for social media. When they’re tripped, I close the tab and do something else.

Basic tripwires include: 

feeling physical symptoms of anxiety such as tightness in my chest, headache, etc.

noticing that I’m getting grumpier as I read

I notice that I’m doomscrolling

I’ve gone on more than one rant.

An urge to pick a fight with a Republican. (Don’t do this very often, they like it too much.)

general feelings of irritation at people I care about.

flashbacks

Basically, if social media is making me feel bad or unhappy or physically distressed, I need to do something else. So I do. If something coming up on tumblr is catching me off guard a lot, I keyword block it. If someone is posting a lot of stuff that distresses me, I unfollow them. (sometimes I do this with people I love, it’s not personal, I just am not always in the same place as they are.) On Twitter, I block/mute/unfollow anyone who trolls or demonstrates a fundamental lack of human compassion, especially obvious republicans who post in support of you know who. On Facebook, mute for 30 days is super useful, if I have to do it more than twice, I unfollow or block. On Facebook, groups with a high percentage of people posting shit that makes me angry get unfollowed. 

I survived decades without social media, none of this is essential unless you’re for some reason professionally obligated to pay attention, and I’m NOT. 

Likewise, learn to stop reading fics that aren’t enhancing your existence, just pretend they’re WIPs that will never be finished and let it go.

Pick. Your. Battles. 

[enigmasandepiphanies]

This makes me feel so much better.

[dabidabidahh]

Me heading over to the hospital to give y'all an update because I'm tired of this.

[class1aneedstherapy]

every week horikoshi is like

[class1aneedstherapy]

Todoroki Family Hell Part 2: Electric Boogaloo

[ao3commentoftheday]

Who Actually Gets to “Escape” Into Fandom?

All experiences of escapism are not created equally.

But all experiences of escapism are not created equally. Escapism isn’t actually possible for everyone because of the nature of both fandom and the world around us. The best-worst example of the limits of fandom escapism? Racism.

Fans of color can’t escape into fandom when fandom is full of the same racism that floods the offline world and the rest of the internet. Black fans and other fans of color can’t escape into fandom when fellow fans on social media complain because they’re being “forced” to think about what’s going on in the U.S. instead of their favorite idol or the Switch game they’re writing fic about. They can’t escape into fandom when international fans think of Black Lives Matter as an American issue, as if Black people aren’t dealing with systemic antiblackness worldwide.

When it comes to making fandom a better and safer place so that fans of color can escape, too, you have options. Start with the University of Washington’s “Culture of Care” page and its anti-racism resources that can be turned towards fandom with some effort. Look at how author Talia Lavin talked about racism in online communities and apply that to fandom. Reach out to people in your social circle who are struggling to find a safe space in fandom because of racism and support them. Report racism and other forms of bigotry you witness in your fandom spaces to moderators, via social media report forms, or to the Abuse/Harassment team on a fandom-focused site you’re using. Here, the little things can go a long way to making your fellow fans feel like they’re welcome!

[class1aneedstherapy]

TAKAMI IS OK??!?!! HES OK BUT HURT??? THANK GOD

[class1aneedstherapy]

i’ve been lied to 😭😭😭

[dabidabidahh]

WAIT I FORGOT ABOUT THEM

[class1aneedstherapy]

what are your thoughts on curious? bc mine are,,,, pretty

you know exactly how gay I am by now, mine are also,,, pretty

also i’m shipping hot prison wife with miss curious and i want them both to kiss me

[ororomunroedontpullout]

Y’all already know it’s 4 pm time for your daily dose of giving me serotonin through tiktok engagement

[to-transcribe]

[Video Description: A TikTok by user RatchetIntellectual showing a Black person addressing the camera. Above them are subtitles of what they are saying. End Video Description]

[Audio Transcript: 

{Lofi by Domknowz plays quietly in the background}

So, on Tumblr, I made this post about how white nerds can only relate to the experiences of people of color through a fandom lens. Harry Potter and Steven Universe make more sense to them than the lived experiences of people of color.

And then I heard argument that, like, “oh well it’s fiction, it’s supposed to help people relate to other people”

This is true in some regards. It’s great for children, and creators of color have used fiction in their work to talk about their experiences and demonstrate oppression. But constantly relating the experiences of people of color to elves and witches and aliens allows you to continue to dehumanize people of color.

It allows you to ignore us when we speak out about racism in fandom and to never learn to empathize with us as whole, full human beings. End Audio Transcript]

[ororomunroedontpullout]

Go follow me on tiktok

[its-a-gemfact]

This is very important. Allegories work because they cut out context. The world is so complex and confusing. Sometimes it's hard to indentify the root causes of issues. But if we look at things from a different angle, said causes often become apparent, because they stay the same while context changes.

Our brains are just captcha AIs, analysing different crossroad photos in the hopes that one day we will recognise a traffic light. Except the photos are your favorite books/films and the traffic lights are racism. (See i just allegoried to help you understand a thing).

It is extremely important that you are able to recognise things like racism, but that is half the battle. If you actively want to fight racism in the real world, you have to fully understand the surrounding context. It's not fun like watching steven universe. It's tediously hard work because there are so many influencing factors, and you have to account for all of them.

This time I'll use a real life example: The unequal distribution wealth and power creates discrimination no matter the context. It is the root cause. But fixing class issues won't magically disappear racism in America. American racism is its own unique beast and must be handled as such. This is why its so important that we listen to black voices.

Basically life is complicated, but we're big boys/girls/nbs and we can do this.

[class1aneedstherapy]

Ok I get ppl hate hawks yada yada but blaming him for the prison break and saying it's his narrative punishment is such a pathetically desperate reach...

????!!????! They’re doing what??????!!?

Oof.

I think that’s so ridiculous considering he’s already got a pretty fair narrative punishment. He took the life of a friend so Dabi took his entire reason for life. An eye for an eye type deal. The Hero Commission is absolutely going to throw him away now that he’s no longer useful and (hopefully) we can get a satisfying character arc after he’s out of their clutches. Honestly I thought Hawks haters would be sated considering the only times we’ve seen him lately are when he’s inches from death but ok.

I don’t think we need to blame the prison break thing on him when that was something always bound to happen for narrative reasons. (We were always gonna get another AFO showdown) I didn’t expect it so soon but 🤷, its alright. I’m not gonna get into how weird this arc is feeling for me.

[redzombie]

don’t do this kids

[class1aneedstherapy]

who do you think is the strongest in 1a/the person with the most potential?

I feel like if you’ve been following me for any amount of time i’m pretty clear on my biases 😅

but besides Kaminari, Momo fr has the most potential it’s ridiculous how underused she is, you have a character who can create anything and yet she’s not??? considered one of the most powerful in the class?? an absolute tragedy

Hopefully in these next couple arcs she takes more of that leadership role she was hinted at to be having soon! yes

[class1aneedstherapy]

if you don’t think magne is wife material you’re wrong. she would hold you close at night

oh magne is absolutely wife material, just not mine

she reminds me too much of my mum to simp over her but pls ma’am tell me you’re proud of me and make me some good foods, I miss her a lot

[class1aneedstherapy]

This ain’t about them

[class1aneedstherapy]

what if you add mount lady and midnight on? i’m trying to make life hard for you lol

Hmmmm mount lady ive never really simped for, she’s cute but honestly not my type, kin tho

Midnight (may she rest in peace) is the only lady I would willingly call mommy so take that what you will 😌

[class1aneedstherapy]

hot prison lady or miruko?

I have two hands 😌