Happy Pride Month! Just So You Know; If You’re Not Talking About Transandrophobia, You’re Not Talking About Racism.
Let’s talk about transandrophobia. Especially as it shows up against Native trans men and transmasculine people.
I’m saying this flatly and upfront: if you deny that transandrophobia exists, you are not just being transphobic, you are participating in an active form of anti-Indigenous racism. That’s not poetic, that’s not theoretical. That is what it is. If that makes you uncomfortable, you should be uncomfortable and I am glad you are uncomfortable and if you try to reply and argue with this I deadass will not even respond directly to you, I will just screenshot your reply, block you, and post it on my blog for me and my friends to laugh at, so make good choices.
When you erase transmasc pain, when you laugh off the reality of our oppression, especially the kind Native men face, you’re not just being a dick, you’re parroting colonial violence. You’re continuing the same patterns of cultural erasure and gender policing that white supremacy used to dismantle Indigenous masculinity in the first place.
You think it's all just TERFs and Reddit boys? It’s not. It’s your favorite leftist creators. It’s that non trans man who claims being mistaken for a man is the worst oppression possible but scoffs when a trans man talks about surviving sexual violence or being kicked out of a doctor’s office. It’s queer people who act like all trans men are secretly just Theyfabs playing dress-up, because that is what they were taught about us.
Traditional Native masculinity was never just about brute strength or cold stoicism. It was about community, balance, presence. It was spiritual. It had responsibilities. You were a man if you took care of your people, if you contributed, if you honored what you were part of. There was room for softness. Room for duality. Room for multiple genders. That is what settler colonialism came here to destroy.
Colonial masculinity, white masculinity in particular, is defined by dominance. Power over. Extraction. Individualism. “Man” as an identity became a status you could lose the second you failed to fit its violent shape. It is fragile. It is poisonous. And it has no resemblance to the masculinity of my people.
So when people say trans men are “just women trying to be men,” or "Fucking Theyfabs trying to gain male privilege" what they really mean is: “You’re trying to be the white version of manhood, and you’re failing.” they actively erase indigenous transmasculine people, because no, we’re not trying to be that kind of man at all.
We often wear our hair long, because for many of us, long hair is sacred. It’s strength. It’s love. It’s what our ancestors did to show pride, family, honor, and connection to the land. But to white society, a man with long hair is suspect. Too feminine. Too queer. “Unprofessional.” Wrong.
A native trans man will never have male privilege because even cis native men don't really have male privilege under systemic racism. Not unless they conform to white masculinity.
White masculinity demands sharpness. Coldness. Silence. It tells you to cut your hair, speak deep and slow, take up space like a weapon.
But Native masculinity? It has room for caretakers, for brothers who cry openly. It has room for the man who farms, who feeds, who loves openly.
TRFs and others like them have made it their mission to flatten transmasculine people into a single narrative white, easily passing, cringe. That’s intentional. It’s erasure. It’s easier to dehumanize us if we’re just memes and anime boys and bad takes.
We're Native. We're brown. We're Black. We're deeply scarred, and deeply aware of what it means to walk through the world as someone who has always been told their manhood is a mistake. You cannot claim to be anti-racist while mocking transmascs for “thinking they’re oppressed.” You cannot separate this from race.
That’s the bind: They say we’re trying to be white cis men. When most of us wouldn't even be white cis men if we were born cis.
We are Indigenous. Our genders are Indigenous. And every time we’re misread, mocked, or discarded, it’s not just generic transphobia it’s a continuation of colonial violence.
If you’re committed to anti-racism, but still believe trans men are just women trying to escape misogyny, or that trans men automatically gain privilege, you’ve already lost the plot. You’re still thinking through a colonial lens, the very one that made sure most Indigenous languages no longer have functioning words for the gender roles we used to fill.
So this Pride, start asking who you’ve excluded from your idea of oppression. Ask who’s been forced to make themselves smaller, quieter, less “problematic” to survive in these supposedly inclusive spaces.
Because transandrophobia is real. It is systemic. And it is killing us slowly.
And if you disagree, you're fucking racist and not worth my time or energy.
