old memories

maybe you want to feel something other than nothing maybe the trauma and pain over things you thought you were over are the only ways to feel anymore

[loveridden1999]

top 3 hobbies for young adults:

1. borrowing misery from future

2. carrying grief of the past

3. agonizing over the present

[antonskey]

Donna Tartt novels, a summary

[heartattackinblackdye]

connection is experienced differently for every single person and every relationship functions differently. all forms of connection, be it love or what have you, are beautiful and worth having. there is no wrong way to love

[renzilla-exists]

in the most aromantic way possible I want a relationship

[frogsmushroomsbutterflies]

I want to be someone’s person but not Like That

[arowitharrows]

I fully support Pluto as an aro symbol (x) but as a space scientist I cannot support any arguments that claim it's because Pluto should be a planet. The true reason Pluto is an aro symbol is precisely because people tie the amount of love and care this wonderful celestial body receives to which label it has. Just because a relationship with someone is not labeled as romantic should not mean that this relationship has to be treated as less worthy of time and care and effort. Just because Pluto is not labeled as a planet does not mean it is less worthy of our time and care and effort.

Here is another reason Pluto is aro: Pluto has a heart shaped region called the Tombaugh region:

[ID: an image of Pluto and it's heart shaped Tombaugh region, with the moon Charon in the background. End ID]

Now, Pluto and it's moon Charon are tidally locked, meaning they always face each other with the same hemisphere. Pluto's heart is always facing away from Charon. Some articles have phrased this as being tragically romantic, but I disagree! Here are two celestial objects orbiting each other for billions of years, and they are doing this while Pluto keeps it's heart hidden. Because in this case, love is not part of the equation that makes up their bond, romance does not play a part in their gravitational pull towards each other. That's aro as fuck, in my humble opinion.

[arowitharrows]

In conclusion:

[ID: the dwarf planet Pluto in front of the aromantic flag. End ID]

[lobotomizedbutfree]

short poem about being aroace and loving your friends like so so much

the english language is staunch with its limitations on love

i will always say I love you. with the rough lines and bumps of the words i use

the rigid meaning in what i choose

but,

i cherish you in the way the sun knows the moons needs it to shine

I love you in the way that i need you in my life before i find peace when i die

i look at you in the way the ocean sees the sand

knowing you know me enough to obey to my light swaying command 

i will never love you in a way that makes sparks fly

that makes those butterflies float into your stomach from the sky

i will never realize what it means to love you for the shape of your hands

but I will always know you love me

enough to understand 

[zelldas]

no other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. love is all about choices. no one is going to be perfect for you, and i think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was “made for you” because it isn’t true. no one is made for you, besides you. other people belong to themselves. if you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice

[wingedgambitpilgrim]

Songs explicitly about or relatable to being aromantic

"Never Been In Love" by Will Jay

"Aromantic Moodboard" by Max Lizanich

"Crush Culture" by Conan Gray

"i think i wanna be alone" by mazie

"Zero Feelings" by Zoe Clark

"Turning Out" by AJR

"Please Don't Say You Love Me" by Gabrielle Aplin

"Not A Love Song" by bülow

"I Am Not a Robot" by MARINA

Other songs with aro-positive vibes

"Sports" by Beach Bunny

"Driving Myself Home" by Rose Betts

"despair" by leo

"my ted talk" by mxmtoon

"Kissaphobic" by Make Out Monday

"Rose" by The Weeknd (can be interpreted as platonic)

"FRIENDS" by Marshmello and Anne-Marie

"Dance Floor Anthem (I Don't Wanna Be In Love)" by Good Charlotte

"I'll Be There" by Walk Off The Earth

"You're My Best Friend" by Queen

For my aro community 🖤🩶🤍💚

[sweetpea67]

Aspec Playlist

(All of these songs can be found on Spotify, by the way. I listen to every song mentioned in the reblogs and if I think it fits I will add it to the end of the list, with credit to the user who suggested it, of course.)

“Here” by Alessia Cara (aromantic)

“I Do Not Hook Up” by Kelly Clarkson (some flavor of acespec)

“We’ll Never Have Sex” by Leith Ross (the sex-repulsed alloace anthem)

“Asexual Love” by Lily Summer (alloace, I think, or aroace with a QPR)

“ace song” by Izzie Burton (sex-repulsed alloace)

“Never Been In Love” by Will Jay (aroace)

“Turning Out” by AJR (quoiromantic, arospec in general)

“People Watching” by Conan Gray (cupioromantic and aromantic)

“Turning Out Pt. II” by AJR (aromantic, probably aroace)

“Turning Out Pt. III” by AJR (asexual, either grayromantic or romance-favorable aromantic)

“We Don’t Have to Take Our Clothes Off” by Ella Eyre (demisexual)

“Crash Culture” by Conan Gray (sex-repulsed and romance-repulsed aroace)

“I’d Do Anything for Love (But I Won’t Do That)” by Meatloaf (sex-repulsed alloace)

“Love Song” by Sara Bareilles (against amatonormativity)

“Zero Feelings” by Zoe Clark (aroace, possibly loveless aro)

“Like All My Friends” by Francis Karel (aromantic, cupioromantic)

“Don’t Tell Me” by Avril Lavigne (sex-averse alloace)

“Soulmate” by Lizzo (aroallo)

“Sit Still, Look Pretty” by Daya (aromantic, likely aroallo)

“Sex Yeah” by MARINA (against allonormativity)

“Oh No!” by MARINA (loveless aro, or else just aromantic and aplatonic)

“Something That We’re Not” by Demi Lovato (aroallo)

“No Friends” by CADMIUM (aplatonic)

“i think i wanna be alone” by mazie (loveless aro)

“Lemon Boy” by Cavetown (QPR love song)

“You’re My Best Friend” by Queen (QPR love song)

“Shape of You” by Ed Sheeran (aroallo, likely romance favorable or neutral)

“Fictional Men” by PEGGY (fictoromantic)

“This Is Home” by Cavetown (aromantic)

“It’s Only Sex” by Car Seat Headrest (sex-repulsed ace), suggested by @taffylaffy

“Flowers” by Miley Cyrus (can be interpreted as aroacespec or just arospec or acespec), suggested by @cl0udypaws.

“Love Love Love” by Of Monster and Men (loveless aro; seems romance favorable to me) suggested by @a-genderless-frog

“Bite the Hand” by boygenius (the user suggested this was aromantic but I feel like it can be interpreted as any variety of aspec since the main thing that unites us is not feeling “love” the same way as other people; I think it’s most relevant for aro- and apl- spec folks though), again suggested by @a-genderless-frog.

“Squaring Up” by Sir Chloe (romance-repulsed aro, against amatonormativity), suggested by @a-genderless-frog.

“Sports” by Beach Bunny (romance-averse aromantic), suggested by @a-genderless-frog

”Don’t Fall In Love” by Danko Jones (romance-averse aromantic), suggested by @voidscape-the-oblivion.

“Romance Is Boring” by Los Campesinos! (definitely gives me an aroallo or sex-favorable aroace vibe personally), suggested by @voidscape-the-oblivion.

“Heart Heavy” by Mother Mother (romance-repulsed aro, against amatonormativity), suggested by @voidscape-the-oblivion

“Aromantic Moodboard” by Maxwell Anthony (aromantic), suggested by @chelowl

“Are They Actually Attractive?” by Boy Jr. (quoiromantic, quoisexual, etc.), suggested by @chelowl

“It’s Okay To Be Lonely” by Mothé (aromantic), suggested by @chelowl

“Only Over You” by Fleetwood Mac (grayromantic), suggested by @brain-salad-sovereign

“death wish” by Lyn Lapid (aromantic), suggested by @wishgirl101

“I’m Happy Just To Dance With You” by the Beatles (demiromantic), suggested by @wishgirl101

“Land Called Far Away” by Colbie Caillat (demiromantic), suggested by @oldmanontumblr

[scrimbloo]

I think perhaps instead of romantic or platonic or whatever the fuck, as I grow closer to someone, I weave a love for them all its own, defying all categorization

[elfincreature]

one danger of going to therapy is you find out you have so many more issues than you originally thought

[meowuuusblog]

it annoys me that I love more than I am loved

[scoutology]

#crysobbing

[baddogmari]

when you feel like you’re starting to get better and suddenly the impending doom sets in again and you know the cycle is about to repeat

[thewaitingluna]

I’d like to disappear for a while. I don’t want to talk to anyone. I don’t want to know anything.

[glowcowboy]

we’re gonna be ok btw

[glowcowboy]

it’s ok if you’re scared. or tired. or unsure. or one million billion other complicated emotions at once. but i’ve decided things are going to be ok anyway. and i will hold that belief close to my heart no matter how scared or tired or lonely or depressed or one million billion other things i am. i will hold onto that. and if you’re scared, you can hold onto me. we can carry each other through

[sortapoetic]

being aroace is so terrifying bc what do you mean the person i love more than anyone else in the world will never love me the same way i love them. what do you mean they're gonna leave someday to get married and have kids and i might be at their side as their kids aunt or as their maid of honour but ill never be the most important person in their life. i can already feel the heartbreak of the night i lie horribly alone and realize i lost the other half of my soul. i can feel the grief in my bones. it is a tragedy because it was always going to end this way