Just a hint of sass

Foolishness, Passion, Shenanigans, and Fierce Love.

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"When I ask her what it's like..."

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No TV for Tots Past Ten

channel flipping with mom:  "what is this, children’s programming? children shouldn’t be up at this hour. this channel should be off. this is for ghetto children and children with no boundaries. mkay, there wasn’t nothing on for you after 9pm. if you’re 12 and under, no tv after 9." — we flipped past nickelodeon, or sprout or whatever shit for tots at ten

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Moms Keeps It Real

my mom's reading profiles from okcupid:  "mkay, he says he's good at most things, no he's not." -- mom "what? that's fair, i think i'm good at most things." -- me "no you're not. you're not good at most things, linda, you're good at *some* things. and the things you're good at matter a great deal. but you are not good at most things. that's the problem with folks today telling babies they're special at everything they do. thats a lie. you're special because there is no other *you.*" -- mom

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Bah the fuck humbug, indeed

An honest story about having Multiple Sclerosis during the Holiday Season.

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Virgin births: not just for teen Jewish girls hanging out in Bethlehem barns anymore. According to research, almost 1% of American women claim that they, too were unpenetrated by the peen of a man when they became pregnant.

--- OR maybe they were raped?

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YAAAASSSSSS!!

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Flippin

here we have beyonce dropping a napkin on purpose and making a white woman pick it up 

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Beyonce Broke the Interwebs and

LADY GAGA IS SITTING IN HER CAR WIGLESS ON THE PHONE WITH HER MANAGER CRYING 

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Can She Come Out to Play?

When I was 4 or 5 and she was 29 or 30 my mother had a very serious bout with depression. Was hospitalized and such. When she was back home and needed to be alone she'd say to me "Mommys feelings are sick so I'm going to take care of them." That way I wouldn't be upset if she shut her door. Still, sometimes, she'd awake to hear me knocking asking, "Are your feelings still sick? Can you come out to play?" Which would make her laugh, and open the door.  This may seem like a sad memory to others. But it's one of my favorite mommy-daughter moments. 

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Her first love.

When my mother was twelve or so she walked past the National Cathedral School and promised herself that if she had a little girl one day that she would go there and become a worldly woman. Recently, I asked my mother how it felt to see it all happen, from NCS to PhD:  "It feels like my feet have not touched the ground. It feels like I'm part of MLk legacy. It's my testimony. I was a depressed girl at my school and look who god gave me. I knew I would not get to cathedral but I dreamt about having a little girl who would. You are every love song."

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I'm a woman and I say unkind shit.

Aight, ima just say this once, fellas: you do not need to tell me about the recent polemic of some such black scholar as a conversation starter. It's eyerolling, transparent, and annoying. I know where to go for those conversations and it's not in dating spheres. Check it out, I wrote the dissertation, I defended it, I got the PhD and I do this all day errrryday. I'm good on your discovered intelligence.  As a friend recently observed, I'm "intelligent, sexual and self-possessed with a Ph.D." Don't tell me about people and books, tell me about you and listen to me.  Nor do I care if this is unfair or mean. I'm a woman and I say unkind shit. Deal with it, get over it, then come play.

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White Sensitives, Black Culpability

I read her story last night and had to take multiple deep breaths. THIS...is exactly, and I mean EXACTLY what led to my ultimate departure from Harvard University's Pforzheimer House as a resident tutor. I informed a student that her flippant use of "ghetto" (on a very public, very broad university house listserv) could potentially offend others on the list. The next day I was called into a meeting after she'd gone to the resident director "in tears" with her friends upset that i'd "publicly humiliated" her. 

Oh, I was also the "race tutor." 

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The Tooth Fairy is a Gay White Man

Following today's FOX News, I'd like to add that the tooth fairy is also a white man. ...and totally gay because, you know.

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Shonda Rhimes is a Faulknerian

White man tells black man about his cunnilingus on his daughter.  Black man reads him awesomely, repeatedly calling him "boy" telling him he's above white mans pay grade and orders him not to use black woman as his ticket out of white manboyhood.  ..and then the closing scene with the other white "boy" taking black mans job and the two white men say "we make a great team" and knowing they've both fucked the black daughter. I'm calling it, Shonda Rhimes is a Faulknerian.