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Ryan | she/her | 22 | ttte sideblog: @ryan1014n2 |

[peach-pot]

maybe I like talking about the weather okay…… it’s not awkward to me. we’ve both been outside today and the sun and clouds were there too, let’s discuss.

[horse-time-babey]

kinda puts salt in the wound to abandon two of your friends and then call your new gen “Forever Friendship”

[hellspawnsparks]

welcome back, twilight sparkle!

[avpdvoidspace]

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

[savouryduck]

when I was in high school, I overheard two older students talking about a friend of theirs.

One of them said something like, "it doesn't bother me that [Friend] was in residential mental health treatment, I just wish they wouldn't talk about it ALL the time".

The other replied, "Well, that was all of last year for them. So when they say 'when I was in treatment,' it's like when you say 'last year'."

I try to remember that any time someone says something that sounds Shocking to me. sometimes one person's scary special crisis is another person's last year.

[wherethewildcatsare]

If you want to be accepting of mental illness, you need to accept the fact that some people's everyday lives are going to be terrifying to you. That doesn't mean they don't get to talk about it. Stop forcing hurt, isolated people to become even MORE hurt and isolated because you can't fathom toughening up a bit.

[dogpuppy]

[artofmaquenda]

New fun project! I enhanced a cheap thriftstore sculpture :3

When I see these things I always think they look better with an animal head haha! I can't wait to paint it! 😄

[artofmaquenda]

Gessoed her :>

[artofmaquenda]

Enough for today :)

[datadegroove-deactivated2026042]

[desk-drawerr]

By popular demand: He eat a Wawamelon

[detergent3000]

JAX LOCK IN! LOCK IN JAX!! JAX!!!!

[rattanwhip]

Beach day

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[thelongestway]

#if I saw a Sturgeon I'd call it Theodore

every sturgeon petting tank must have an honorary theodore!

[rainydaydecaf]

I never saw people say stuff like this enough when I was a teenager, so I’m saying it now.

I’m in my mid-thirties and I have never had sex. I’ve thought about it and could have had one or two opportunities if I put in more effort, but I always decided against it because I just wasn’t into it at the time.

I can safely say that I do not feel I have missed out on anything. I was perfectly capable, by myself, of learning about my own body and boundaries without anyone else there to muddy the waters. The immense pressure that was there in my teens/twenties to Have Sex Just Do It is basically gone. I’m vibing. I’ve got my routine by myself in bed that I enjoy, and that’s enough for me.

And in the unlikely event that I ever decide to have sex with someone in the future, I don’t feel at all like I’m lacking some essential Knowledge or Skill that would “make it good” for someone else. I fully expect to ask my partner out loud what they like and to receive an answer clearly communicated and to relax and have fun. And if it’s a disappointing experience, I’m fine with that too. It is what it is.

Sex is just not that big of a deal. I suspected it as a teen, and I’m more sure of it now. It’s fine to have it or not have it. It’s whatever.

[hotvampireadjacent]

Um

[dogpuppy]

[illness-deactivated20180325]

my entire life changed when my dentist told me that the only time my teeth should be touching is when i’m chewing. every single time my teeth are touching i have to separate them. and i noticed that i clench my teeth a LOT.

[illness-deactivated20180325]

when your mouth is closed and your teeth are touching or held tightly together, you are unnecessarily straining muscles out of stress. the healthiest way to hold your jaw is slightly apart, where it is relaxed. THIS HELPS WITH HEADACHES

[tribyen-deactivated20250925]

I unclenched my jaw upon reading this.

[skybloodfox]

Oh god, i just unclenched my jaw @_@

[lesslaivyy]

[vitchuatlocalhost-deactivated20]

[oflambandmoss]

being weird and full of love can save you

and it might save those around you, too