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thelongestway

#if I saw a Sturgeon I'd call it Theodore

every sturgeon petting tank must have an honorary theodore!

rainydaydecaf

I never saw people say stuff like this enough when I was a teenager, so I’m saying it now.

I’m in my mid-thirties and I have never had sex. I’ve thought about it and could have had one or two opportunities if I put in more effort, but I always decided against it because I just wasn’t into it at the time.

I can safely say that I do not feel I have missed out on anything. I was perfectly capable, by myself, of learning about my own body and boundaries without anyone else there to muddy the waters. The immense pressure that was there in my teens/twenties to Have Sex Just Do It is basically gone. I’m vibing. I’ve got my routine by myself in bed that I enjoy, and that’s enough for me.

And in the unlikely event that I ever decide to have sex with someone in the future, I don’t feel at all like I’m lacking some essential Knowledge or Skill that would “make it good” for someone else. I fully expect to ask my partner out loud what they like and to receive an answer clearly communicated and to relax and have fun. And if it’s a disappointing experience, I’m fine with that too. It is what it is.

Sex is just not that big of a deal. I suspected it as a teen, and I’m more sure of it now. It’s fine to have it or not have it. It’s whatever.

hotvampireadjacent

Um

dogpuppy

illness-deactivated20180325

my entire life changed when my dentist told me that the only time my teeth should be touching is when i’m chewing. every single time my teeth are touching i have to separate them. and i noticed that i clench my teeth a LOT.

illness-deactivated20180325

when your mouth is closed and your teeth are touching or held tightly together, you are unnecessarily straining muscles out of stress. the healthiest way to hold your jaw is slightly apart, where it is relaxed. THIS HELPS WITH HEADACHES

tribyen-deactivated20250925

I unclenched my jaw upon reading this.

skybloodfox

Oh god, i just unclenched my jaw @_@

lesslaivyy

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oflambandmoss

being weird and full of love can save you

and it might save those around you, too

wooteena

crazy how there are only 2 hours of doing things every day before you keel over and die. if this werent normal id be worried

handpaintedconch

Wanted to make this post into a png !

foxglovedforest

The kids are aight

bluering8

listen to me, this is so so important: you've gotta get used to really giving it your 60% as a default. like don't half-ass it necessarily but try not to go over 70% or so of an ass. you'll feel better and live a happier more fulfilled life, and on the rare occasions where you do need to lock the fuck in you'll be able to pull off bullshit that the sad miserable wretches giving it their 100% can never dream off, because they're busy draining themselves dry and you have energy reserves to spare.

smokingchagga

This is actually what I was adviced to do at the work rehabilitation program I went to. Hasn't left my mind since. 10/10 solid advice

whimsical-catacombs

literally every problem i've had in my adult life has been solved by open and honest communication. which is fucking stupid, first of all

whimsical-catacombs

like i can't even just a little bit solve my problems with wanton violence? for real??

whimsical-catacombs

i'm like a caricature in a children's show. "and then Whimsy took a deep breath, made a few polite phonecalls, and everything resolved itself 🥰" fucking hell man when do i get to punch someone hard as fuck in the jaw