I know this will prolly give me a lot of hate and I’m like, ready to deal with it but with all the fiction discourse I thought I might state my stances.
I am not pro or anti fiction.
I am anti-censorship.
I believe that we should be able to write abt generally taboo topics.
I do not believe that we SHOULD write abt child exploitation, sexual assault, pedophilia, or zoophilia in a good light, or romanticize it.
but I also acknowledge people are gonna do shit and there’s nothing we can do abt it.
I also cannot act like I have never interacted with problematic media, and enjoyed it.
and i respect people who interact with these sources as a trauma response.
once we educate one wave another is going to appear.
pedophiles and radqueers will always exist and that’s just human nature.
the best option is to just block people if you don’t agree.
I love you pwDID. I love you pwOSDD. I love you pwPDID. I love you pwCDDs.
I love you pwCDDs with personality disorders. I love you pwCDDs with physical disabilities. I love you pwCDDs with psychotic disorders. I love you pwCDDs with other mental disabilities.
I love you transgender pwCDDs. I love you lesbian pwCDDs. I love you intersex pwCDDs. I love you gay pwCDDs. I love you nonbinary pwCDDs. I love you bisexual pwCDDs. I love you multigender pwCDDs. I love you pwCDDs who use contradictory labels for any reason.
And I love you anyone else that I didn't list here.
Person says: gender is fake! People can identify however they want because gender is a social construct !
Online queer community: yayyy!! So true!! So based!!
Person says: sexuality is fake! People can identify however they want because sexuality is a social construct!
Online queer community: how dare you actually…? You’re actually invalidating every single queer identity ever in saying this. Actually no you’re making the queer community UNSAFE for women by saying this. How fucking dare you. Go die.
Forcing queer people into little boxes where they can only identify a certain way because it’s what’s “right” is anti-queer and heteronormative. The way anti-queer rhetoric is sneaking it’s way into the queer community by large right now needs to be talked about more.
The 4th of July brings sudden noises and flashing lights that can bring distress to people with disabilities and/or pets! These are my tips to you as someone with PTSD/autism and anxious pets.
The end part is seizure first aid and how to handle someone else having a seizure if you are nearby!
♿️ People with Disabilities ! (e.g; PTSD, anxiety, epilepsy)
- Try to pinpoint exactly when and where fireworks will occur in your area, this is to eliminate a "startle" factor. If your neighbors set off fireworks, prepare at least an hour before 8pm. People start setting fireworks off at around 9pm to 10pm ; probably longer because they don't necessarily consider us or pets nearby until an officer stops them.
- Sensory blocking is KEY!!!! Headphones, TV, shutting the blinds, or hiding out in the bathroom works too.
- Keep any medications nearby! Melatonin, panic attack medications, and so forth. They may be needed.
- Try to have doctors or trusted people on speed dial if possible. Seizures, panic attacks, and other conditions may require medical attention.
- Grounding techniques are your best friend. Try to engage your senses in the moment, whether it be taste, smell, touch, and so forth.
- Hydration and nutrition helps!!!! Even if you feel that sinking feeling or you're going out to a firework show; drink plenty of water and keep snacks on you!
If you're like me and have a particular dislike towards the taste of water, I suggest flavored electrolyte water like Propel or Powerade! This will combat the summer heat and lower seizure/panic attack thresholds.
💚 For Friends, Family, or Neighbors of Disabled folks.
- Ask in advance about what triggers them, what the coping plan is, and how to help if they get overwhelmed. Most people with disabilities know their disability best!
- If you choose to light fireworks near their home, do try to keep them away from their area. Warn them via text, call, or quickly checking on them in person before starting so they aren't too startled by the sudden noise or flash.
- If you attend a public show, try to park your car in an easy-to-reach place and stay nearby. Make sure you're both on the same page around leaving if things get stressful.
🤍 Strangers
- If you see someone who appears distressed or overstimulated, ask calmly if there is anything you can do to help them in the moment! Respect their answer if they say no.
- If someone is experiencing a panic attack, sensory meltdown, or a seizure, keep crowds back! Give the person physical space and privacy from onlookers.
🐾 Pets with Disabilities
- Ensure you secure your environment. Try to keep them indoors, in cages, and/or in a space where they can't escape.
- Drown out the noise for them! Playing the TV, turning on a fan, or any other white noise to muddle the sounds of fireworks.
- It's common for pets run away on the 4th of July. Please make sure your pet has identification tags or a microchip, even if they don't normally wear a collar or get out.
- Pets cannot have medication meant for humans. Please speak to a vet about anxiety medications or calming pheromone diffusers. Some pet stores carry calming treats. Administer such medications at least an hour or 30 minutes before fireworks! Some anxious pets won't take the medication or treat if they're already going off!
🍖 Loose or Panicked Pets
- Keep a spare leash on you or a treat pouch in your car! This may help to secure loose pets without cornering them.
- Please be careful and approach lose pets with caution. Frightened animals may bite or scratch out of fear. Crouch, avoid eye contact, and speak softly. Do not offer hands or fingers for them to smell, but I suggest throwing treats in their direction to secure them.
- Check for identification. Collars or taking them to a local vet/shelter to scan for microchips.
- Post them on local boards! Taking a clear picture of pets and sharing them to community boards to find the owner (whether public or shelters).
SEIZURE FIRST AID.
The most critical rule of seizure first aid is to keep the person safe until the seizure stops naturally. Most seizures end on their own within a few minutes.
Stay with the person until the seizure ends and they are fully awake.
Move away sharp objects, hard furniture, or tight hazards.
If they are unconscious, roll them onto their side to keep their airway clear.
Note the exact start and end time of the active shaking.
Place something soft like a jacket or cushion under their head.
Undo buttons or ties around the neck to aid breathing.
Never hold the person down or try to stop their movements.
Never put anything in their mouth; it is anatomically impossible for the person to "swallow their tongue".
Speak softly and reassuringly to them as they regain consciousness.
"When should I call 911???"
The active seizure lasts longer than 5 minutes.
A second seizure begins right after the first one ends.
The person is injured, pregnant, or has an underlying health condition like diabetes.
The person struggles to breathe or does not wake up after shaking stops.
If the seizure happens in water or another dangerous environment.
The person has never had a known seizure before.
How radqueers who have never contributed anything useful to the online ecosystem run to make their 27th blog where they display the exact same “puppyboy necro mutt who wants to be abused” personality as every other radqueer:
IMG ID: A gif of a horse galloping while pullimg a carriage, sped up /END IS
Oh and they’ll mention that they love to debate antis but you’ll never get anything but zoo/necrophilic based sexual harassment out of them as well as logical fallacies.
