#p did system

[stu-macher-hates-ableism]

reminder that being p-did / osdd does NOT make you any less of a system ever and no way your system works will make you or your trauma less valid. okay? okay. Buh Bye.

[anti-willo-cosmo]

♡ ~ A safe space for racists is not a safe space for people of color. A safe space for nazis is not a safe space for jewish people. A safe space for MAPs is not a safe space for children and a safe space for ableists is not a safe space for disabled people. You cannot be a safe space for everyone, and if you choose the harmful people over the non-harmful people you are not a safe space for minorities no matter how "inclusive" you advertise yourself.

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[drv3ch5]

Tosya from ZATO really means a lot to us in general as a system...

The protectiveness over your alters, sometimes acting as a sort of savior like in Jammed Signal C hits close to home. We're always having to clean up after the host and each other, help ourselves when others can't/don't want to and when we have the strength to do so. We have to support each other, because if we can't, who will? This also stems from being deeply lonely growing up too.

And especially cause we're endogenic, we can really understand why Asya formed Tosya in the first place. Asya was also always a very isolated child, so we imagine that she probably formed Tosya as a sort of imaginary friend that then spiraled out of her control. We haven't had any imaginary friends growing up, but we always entertained ourselves with voices in our head instead, albeit not to as much of an extent as someone who isn't specifically a median system.

We believe that Jammed Signal C was just the incident where Tosya went dormant after using up too much energy to get Asya out, and also because Tosya and Asya seem to have a history with each other beyond that incident. What sort of pain do you think Asya felt, losing her other half? Losing her best friend, losing many of her own memories, losing herself? No wonder she is how she is in canon.

We see ourselves a lot in Tosya specifically, which is why I'm here, I guess lol. The whole 'born from a wish made in earnest' thing. But even despite the entire system thing, Asya and Tosya are just really relatable. Asya is a sort of comfort character for us, and explorations of her mindset feel comfortable to understand. The real world can be quite unforgiving, but by applying an arbitrary set of rules and pretending we control the variables, it can be less scary, even if it comes with being terrified of things not lining up.

In general ZATO is one of the best games for systems in our opinion lmao. Short & sweet with interesting characters that all have a lot of depth to them. Highly recommend

[strayk9s]

I have a hot take and opinion. I find it so strange when other systems say they support all systems (those with DID/OSDD), but the moment they have differences within their system, suddenly some of you become cold.

A common one is how people feel when a person talks about their inner world as a real place. Why does that bother you so much? I’m genuinely wondering. And don’t hit me with the “it’s weird, it’s not okay, that’s not how systems work” or something else that is absolutely ridiculous. I want to know a full-depth answer on why someone with DID or OSDD (a fellow system) talking about their inner headspace causes such distress for you?

In my opinion, who really cares lol? Why are we policing how people interact with their system if they are a legitimate traumagenic system that is not spreading misinformation about systems? It’s like when people say they have a front room, cool! If someone talks about how it’s like an empty void, also cool! A person mapping out their inner world or drawing it? Lovely! But then god forbid someone talks about the inner world like a real place (which usually they know it’s not real as far as IRL goes).

It’s always systems support systems until they’re a little different from you (and no I do NOT include endo’s/nontraumagenic people, they are NOT systems). A professional wouldn’t put down someone for talking about their inner world so why should you?

-K9

[pride-stars]

P-DID : a dissociative disorder described in the ICD that is similar to Dissociative Identity Disorder, but rarely exhibits full switches. It is defined as having one dominant headmate with one or more non-dominant headmate(s), that primarily influence the dominant headmate or go co-conscious with them.

[hypersexual-alter-culture]

Consent, and How it may work for Systems

Recently, an anon reached out to us asking about consent, which made us realize that we should make a separate post on how consent can work for systems as this is a very important topic that must be discussed within system spaces.

What is consent?

Consent, in this case, is the act of giving a verbal or gesture cue that signifies that you want to engage in different activities related to sex and physical contact and are okay with it. It is a mandatory step that must be taken before any sort of activity, which can include kissing, touching, giving or receiving head, penetration, BDSM, etc. While the act of consent can apply to any situation (for example, asking for someone’s consent to take a photo, asking someone if they are okay with answering a survey, etc), this specific post will cover consent in relationships and with the different activities that need that consent.

What difference exists on consent from a singlet vs a system?

Singlets are able to give consent without having to worry about their ability to consent. Systems however, may have to consider the symptoms of their disorder (alters, memory loss, possible trauma responses that may arise during activity, etc) before consenting to anything. This may not always be the case, and is often dependent on how the person with DID/OSDD may want to consent.

Some systems may be okay with letting the alter in front consent on behalf of everyone else (like a host consenting to sex on behalf of everybody without gathering consensus). Other systems may wish to only give consent if everyone in their system consents. What is important is to respect and abide by what the person wants to do when it comes to giving consent.

Why does this matter?

DID/OSDD systems are much more vulnerable than the average person due to the disorder impacting their memory, their identity, and how their trauma responses may affect aspects of their life. Consent may work very differently for them, and not having their partners understand that could result in them going through more traumatic experiences like SA. If your partner is a DID/OSDD system, communicate with them on how consent will work. Make sure to understand and respect what your partner may want to do in order to consent, even if it may cause you any inconvenience. No inconvenience is more important than your partner’s safety. If you need to ask every single alter, then you will do that. If you need to accommodate for an alter, you will do that. Communicate with your partner(s) about what can be done to ensure that the everyone is able to enjoy whatever activities you choose to indulge in.

Consent is voluntary, informed, specific, ongoing, and enthusiastic:

Voluntary: Consent must be given freely and not from pressure, threats, or coercion

Informed: All parties involved are fully aware of what they are getting themselves into

Specific: Consent for one act does not imply consent for other acts

Ongoing: Consent must be given continuously, it can be given or taken away at any time, even during the activity

Enthusiastic: Consent must be positive and direct. Silence, hesitation, or an ambiguous answer does not count. If its not a yes, its not a yes.

Following these key elements to consent can ensure a safe and pleasurable experience. Please be sure to abide by these universal guidelines whenever asking for consent from someone with DID/OSDD. Regardless of how they may choose to consent, these key principles must be applied.

If any one of these key principles was not met for any reason, then it is not consent.

We hope that this post helps you better understand consent more, especially in the case of systemhood. If for any reason you feel unsafe, reach out to someone if possible. If you are in an unsafe situation, please contact local authorities and/or helplines that can aid you with your situation. We hope that everyone stays safe! Our blog is a safe space for anyone who may need a place to vent or talk about their experiences.

[otherworldliy]

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[burningsolarsystem]

We need to "normalize" folks who don't avoid their triggers. By normalize I mean people need to be nicer and also just more willing to admit they exist.

Everywhere emphasizes avoiding triggers as a trauma response, but that isn't always a guarantee. Hell, trauma disorders diagnostic criteria always seem to focus so heavily on "do you avoid things that remind you of your trauma? Do you avoid reminders of the incident? Do you avoid things that trigger you?"

But what about people who don't? People who can't?

What about those whose triggers are everyday things they physically can't avoid? Things they live with?

What about those who have become dissensitized to their triggers from forced exposure? Those who have disassociated from the trauma and are now numb to it? Or are too disassociated to be aware if their triggers?

Those who have so many triggers they can't tell what's triggering them?

Those who can't place what they are feeling? Who have general anxiety and can't always tell if it's a trauma response or just anxiety? Those who struggle with reading their own emotions? Those who got used to feeling uncomfortable/on edge/ anxious and got used to it or can't tell when something is actively triggering them?

Hell, what about those whose (unhealthy) coping mechanism is purposefully seeking out their triggers? Whether they are doing it to be self destructive, dont believe they are traumatized, are trying to "get over it", etc. They deserve support too.

Sorry for a bit of a rant, it just gets annoying seeing the emphasis on "if it traumatized you, you'd avoid things that remind you of it" everywhere including in medical environments.

As someone who has a bad habit of seeking out my triggers, for the longest time I used that as "proof" that I hadn't experienced trauma. Because everything was telling me that if I was traumatized, I'd avoid it. So I sought it out to prove I wasn't and to "get over it" since it wasn't "a big deal" since I was willing to expose myself to it. Even now, sometimes I still do this or do it to purposefully trigger myself. But it feels so isolating when even medical environments emphasize avoidance so much. It makes denial pretty easy and sometimes makes me feel "broken", you know?

Anyways...this rant got away from me and turned a bit more personal than intended.