Like honestly, why is it such a big deal that Ron struggles and complains about his problems once in a while when all other times he is always does his best to be there for his friends with their problems? People who complain about him act like heâs super unsympathetic and never helps Harry when like, off the top of my head, things Ron has done:
-Would always either stay at Hogwarts so Harry wouldnât be alone on Christmas, or would invite Harry to his familyâs for Christmas. Was also super casual about it and would come up with excuses why he was doing this so Harry wouldnât feel awkward.
-when Harry didnât write back to him, he quickly became worried the Dursleys were doing something bad to him, told his family about it (SEVERAL TIMES, apparently) Â (like as far as I can tell every single day Harry didnât write back Ron was panicking about it to his parents and siblings and wondering what the hell was going on) and then he hatched a plan with his brothers to steal a car, break the law, fly all the way to Harryâs house, forcibly grabbed him from his screaming relatives and then took him to his house.Â
-Generally acts super chill about his mum blatantly giving Harry more attention than him, because he knows Harry needs it. Like, aside from a few jokes about it, he never acted overtly resentful about that. I think the Horcrux revealed that it made him insecure about whether his mum liked Harry more deep down (Iâd have to reread the seventh book itâs been a while) yet he never once mentioned this. The fact he never let that show out of empathy for Harry is pretty impressive.
-tried to call Harry on the telephone despite not knowing how to use it and was then worried that he got Harry in trouble.
-when Harry wrote that he needed food, Ron once again informed his entire family and got an entire truckload sent to him.
-He informed Harry that even if he had to kidnap him from the Dursleyâs home again, he was going to get Harry to spend the summer with them his family and see the Quidditch World Cup. He worked with his family to get an invitation sent to the Dursleys, then immediately wrote Harry a personal note saying âbtw if they say no weâre coming anyway I will beat them all up if i have toâ)
-if anyone badmouths Harry or Hermione in front of him, even someone he likes (like Seamus), he will rabidly defend them and basically prepare to fight that person.
-if someone calls Hermione (or anyone) a slur he will have to be physically restrained from attacking that person.
-when McG wouldnât let Harry go to Hogsmeade Ron was in deep despair over the unfairness of it all, got personally angry and called McG several curse words. He and Hermione got Harry ton of sweets while they were there and tried to downplay how fun it was.
-When Percy wrote him a letter telling him to drop Harry as a friend, Ron made a giant show of ripping the letter into pieces and throwing it dramatically into a fire (what a nerd, honestly)
-generally did his best to be patient and understanding with Harryâs depression and anger issues in fifth year, but would firmly point out to him when he was crossing a line without getting mad.
-when he found out about Umbridgeâs abuse, he was visibly sickened, argued with Harry for a long time than he needed to tell an adult, was upset Harry hadnât mentioned it and when he couldnât convince Harry, apparently told Hermione so she could help out and give him healing stuff.Â
-also just the general fact he gladly went along with all of Harryâs super dangerous adventures and literally said he would die for him and never acted resentful of nearly getting murdered on a regular basis due to association with Harry
-guys Ron even told Voldermort to shut up when he said something mean about Harry i mean. letâs just consider that. He yelled at Voldemort. Iâm pretty sure he was the first one who started yelling too.
So I really donât get why people focus on the few times Ron complained and the whole two times in their seven year friendship when he got so fucked up about his own issues that he fought with Harry and didnât support him (and the second time probably would not have happened if it werenât EVIL SOUL SHARD THAT AMPLIFIED NEGATIVE FEELINGS) when the entire rest of their friendship is unwavering support. Itâs so weird to me. You donât have to like Ron, but acknowledge characters can be flawed and human and donât hold him to ridiculous standards.