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welcome to where the fun is at...

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Like, anyone else? lol

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#Repost @nathan_st_music with @use.repost ・・・ Everything Must Go!!!! Just Kidding. Only selling a few Items. UREI Model 546 EQ. Duell 4 band parametric with Hi and Low Pass filters as well as input trim. $2500 2x DBX 160X - Great compressors. Excellent for Kick, Snare, Bass. $400 each. TC M-One Multi FX. This is a excellent dual engine multi-fx. $400 Daddy needs a new computer so no low ballers or trades. 🙃 #audioengineer #audioproduction #audioequipment #producers #mixers (at South Lismore) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpkKz7VBnxR/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Repost @nathan_st_music with @use.repost ・・・ Mackie 16.8 console. $600. #recording #recordingstudio #recordingengineer #audioengineer #audioproduction #audioproducer #mackie #consoles #musicproducer (at South Lismore) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpkIZoJBxVZ/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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at Southern Cross University Lismore https://www.instagram.com/p/CpMAWKHBAJj/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Spent the day cleaning th e garden was bigger job than I thought (at South Lismore) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpG_RBShNJj/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Repost @bpdbryan with @use.repost ・・・ needs a repost 👏 👏 👏 #bpdawareness #suicideprevention #bpdthings #mentalhealthawareness (at Lismore, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/ColuAjuBFob/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Repost @scu.judo with @use.repost ・・・ Anything can be an album cover 😂🥋 Yesterdays JUDO Session was lit 🔥 #scujudo #southerncrossuniversitylismore #southerncrossuniversity #judo #albumcover (at Lismore, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CobCLeaBOKx/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Haven’t seen this movie in a while loved this movie !!! #robinhoodmenintights #funny #melbrooks #melbrooksmovies (at Lismore, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoWv5_ehTw6/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Just feeling very lonely. Love my husband and kids but need friends who can visit (love ya @mossie2617, ya a bit far away and been a busy lady 🌸). I’m feeling lost and alone…. https://www.instagram.com/p/CmyhazChUyh/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Repost @psychologiststephanie with @use.repost ・・・ Yesterday's post on the 'Good Guy Abuser' stirred up a lot for many. Also it raised the question: 'how about female abuse?' So I decided to post on what common female abuse looks like. I’m posting on both genders separately because they look a bit different. The signs are only abuse when the underlying intention is to control, demean or punish. People will abuse often to regain an inner sense of control when lacking Inner Security and emotional empathy and when they may feel entitled. It's important to identify the signs, especially for men who might tend to deny the abuse more than women due to taboo/ shame/ .. It's important to identify when it might be happening in order to Self- protect (self-esteem, self- trust, freedom, etc). An abused man can be: · Afraid to tell anyone · Depressed or humiliated · Afraid he has failed as a lover and partner · Guilty about leaving her or scared of coping alone · Furious she could do or say the things she did · Confused because sometimes she acts loving & kind · Frustrated and sad because he has tried everything · Afraid of continued abuse if he leaves · Panicked he may lose his male identity if people know what has been going on · Worried about his financial security · Believes he deserved it When a (fe)male abuser: it’s good to remember that by abusing someone we actually are abusing ourselves. It ‘kills’ our spirit since it’s unnatural to hurt others. We’re worth finding out when our need for control developed, since this kills the possibility for us to (receive) love (= vulnerability). We heal by going to that inner wounded space (within a safe attachment) and process, re-evaluate our sense of entitlement (we’re often not aware of), learn to regulate our emotions and how to get our needs met in a way that will leave us fulfilled + connected (control =) #selfhealers#lifecoachingforwomen#manipulation#narcissisticabusesurvivor#narcissisticabuserecovery#narcissisticabuse#codependencyrecovery#codependentnomore#codependency#gaslighting#emotionalabuse (at Lismore, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmACobzBZg7/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Someone likes boxes!!! Or maybe she is just a cat from a past life !!! #cats #boxes #children (at Lismore, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CjXKQeNBu8h/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Road trip !!!! We are off to Sydney and then off to the snow!! We wouldn’t have been able to do this with out @makeawishaust and @jordanstanborough02. Thank you again #makeawishaustralia #makeawish #grantedawish #snow #perisher https://www.instagram.com/p/CiTiowEhK7u/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Hahahaha very true #Repost @the.language.nerds with @use.repost ・・・ #language #english (at Goonellabah, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CiErnAMB76b/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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These are so yummy #peanutbutter #peanutbutterbusicuits #yummy #preppykitchen @preppykitchen (at Lismore, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/CiEpu2eh0eu/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Happy Father’s Day to this bloke right here!!! I thank you for being here for all of us and what you do for everyone #fathersday #fathersdaygifts #fathersdaybreakfast #dad #dadlife #daddy https://www.instagram.com/p/CiEKeidBxEY/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Repost @understandingbpd with @use.repost ・・・ If you have BP.D, do you have experiences of creating fantasies of people you barely know to help you through difficult and distressing periods in your life? If you feel comfortable sharing, how has this coping technique helped you? How has it hurt you? Is there anything that has helped you through it? 🌿 [leaf emoji] Edit: I've been thinking about some of the comments left over whether or not this is a 'normal' thing or a BP.D thing, and I've been contemplating how we've created this distinction between 'normal' and 'BP.D'. I'm wondering if we've pathologised our behaviours so much that we tend to consider everything that's related to BP.D as 'disordered' or the opposite of 'normal'. While I respect everyone's right to self-identify in ways that feel right for them, I personally don't think we're disordered at all, which means I don't think that considering something as a common aspect of people with this diagnosis means that it's 'disordered'. When we start framing these behaviours in context of unmet needs, doesn't that just make them normal? Can we reconsider this distinction that we've created between 'BP.D' and 'normal' and how it implies that our behaviours aren't normal? 🌿 [leaf emoji] ~~ IG is super unreliable and is constantly cen$oring discussions of this diagnosis, so please sign up to my mailing list to keep in touch off of this platform, so that we don't have to rely on it! It only takes a few seconds. ✉️ [mail emoji] If you have BP.D and you'd like to work with me 1:1 for peer support sessions, please click the link in my bio or feel free to email me with any questions you have. 🌻 [sunflower emoji] Image description in comments. #BPDSupport #BPDThings #EUPD #EUPDRecovery #BPDAwareness #CPTSD #ComplexTrauma #BPDStruggles #ClusterB (at Goonellabah, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/ChmhH4QhVzl/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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#Repost @housekeeping_101 with @use.repost ・・・ #cleaning #nohelp #arrrrgggghhhh #nobastardwantstohelp #cries #ownworstenemy (at Goonellabah, New South Wales) https://www.instagram.com/p/ChmgsPaBrTg/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=