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[genderoutlaws]

Angie Stardust behind the scenes of City of Lost Souls (1983) dir. Rosa Von Praunheim

Fraulein Stardust was a Black transsexual lesbian who began her career as a drag queen and singer around the age of 14, performing with the Jewel Box Revue and frequenting Club 82 in New York City. She was rejected when she began taking estrogen, and in the early 1970s she relocated to Hamburg and became a citizen of Germany. There she would go on to star in several films and open her own establishment, Angie’s Nightclub, where she performed nightly and earned her moniker as the Big Mama of Soul. She would also find companionship in a number of butch lovers over the years. Though she passed in 2007, her club is still going and well loved by the nightlife scene in Hamburg.

[averykedavra]

[ID: Fifteen edits of the Bugs bunny “I wish all a very pleasant day” meme. They are edited to include the trans flag on his left side. They read:

“I wish all trans men, trans women, nonbinaries, genderfluids, demiboys and demigirls, agenders, and more a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the flags for the identities listed.

“I wish all straight, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, ace, aro, omni, polyamorous, etc. trans people a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the flags for the identities listed.

“I wish all intersex people who identify with the trans label a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the intersex flag.

“I wish all autistic, ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent trans people a very pleasant trans visibilitiy day.” This edit includes the red words “(happy autism acceptance month! light it up red)”

“I wish all Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Hindu, and other religious trans people a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all trans POC, especially Black and indigenous trans people, a very pleasant trans visibility day.” This edit includes the inclusive LGBT poc flag, as well as a trans flag with a brown and black fist.

“I wish all disabled or chronically ill trans people a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all fat trans people, hairy trans people, and trans people who don’t “pass” a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all it/its pronoun users, neopronouns users, and people who use pronouns that don’t “match” their gender a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all trans people with little or no gender dysphoria a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all trans people who are in the closet a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all trans people who haven’t transitioned and/or don’t plan to a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all questioning trans people/people who aren’t sure if they’re trans a very pleasant trans visibility day.”

“I wish all people who don’t use labels for themselves a very pleasant whatever you’re comfy with.”

“I wish all trans people a very pleasant you are wonderful, valid, and loved <3” /End ID]

heard it was trans day of visibility

[arcanecadenza-deactivated202209]

Hey, just a heads up to everyone who follows my blog: if you see anybody with an orange and black square in their bio, they’re a transphobe.

Idiots on TikTok have been coming out in droves in support of some bullshit identity called “super straight” which basically means that they’re only attracted to cis people 🙄 They’re trying to wedge themselves into the LGBTQ+ community and their claim is that it’s phobic toward them to say that they’re transphobic… it’s just a gargantuan cishet headache.

So, to reiterate: orange and black squares = the “super straight” flag = transphobic dogwhistle. Stay safe everyone!

[arcanecadenza-deactivated202209]

People have been pointing out additional things in the replies of this post and I’ll summarize them here because it’s important!

This isn’t something that only cishet people are doing, there are cis lesbians, cis gay men, and cis bi people who have been labelling themselves “super (insert sexual orientation)” and I’ve seen a couple of them on Tumblr already when I went digging in the tags for more information. Please, for your own safety and mental wellbeing, just block them immediately.

Although it is now rampant on TikTok and Twitter (I believe), “super straight” originated on 4chan and it is a gigantic Nazi dogwhistle in addition to being transphobic as fuck. Basically, the term can be abbreviated to “SS” which is also short for Schutzstaffel (a paramilitary organization under Hitler in Nazi Germany). The colours of the “super straight” flag are also the colours of a specific Nazi flag.

These people are extremely bad news. Please block them if you see them.

[vampiresuns]

I want to make an addition! 

If you’re reading this post, or about the subject another thing you can do aside from spreading, blocking, educating yourself and deconstructing biases, etc., etc., is donate to Trans people or Trans mutual aid funds if you’re able.

Examples like The Okra Project, the Trans Women of Colour Collective, the BlkTransFutures collective, Black and Pink, the FTEF, the Black Trans Travel Fund, the BFTA collective, the LGBTQ Freedom Fund,  or the Marsha P. Johnson Institute.

These are literally only some of the available options out there. There’s also different transition funds and donation lists around Tumblr that are organised by trans people (tpoc specially) to help each other and that you can donate, too.

Transphobia isn’t just TERFs outing themselves as Nazis once again, transphobia is also the unsustantiability of trans life by altering the conditions which would otherwise allow us to live — specially of trans people of colour.

Here is another post with many other alternatives.

This is also a time for standing with Jewish trans people, listening to them, and learning from them and standing by them. I, personally, don’t know specific coalitions or groups where you can donate or find other ways to support them. Of course, I’ll personally keep looking, but if you have some, make them circulate.

Fuck TERFs, fuck Nazis, block them and ridicule them but most importantly stand in solidarity with the groups which are the most affected by transphobia and Nazism.

[annabelle--cane]

pan people are good and I like them. if ur pan I’m mentally shaking ur hand and “nice.”

[annabelle--cane]

bi/pan solidarity is really good and easy actually. I walk up to my pan friend and ask “hey why do you id as pan?” and they say “because I feel it matches my internal perception of my orietation. why do you id as bi?” and I say “because I feel it matches my internal perception of my orietation. yknow, our lived experience of being attracted to multiple genders is almost identical, it would be really stupid if I were to treat you badly and spend large amounts of my time insulting you because of some weird idea that your identity means you inherently think you’re better than me and wish I’d stop existing, right? that would be fucked up and mind numbingly pointless, right?” and they say “yeah man, it would be” and then we make a cake :)

[softheartedbutch]

it worries me so much that there’s been this (mostly unintentional) culture built up around coming out, to where young lgbt kids are putting themselves in danger at school and at home because they don’t want to “live a lie.” i just want to say, i came out when i was 15 and it created a lot of difficulties in my life that i could have avoided by waiting until i was older. it isolated me socially, it exposed me to homophobia from my parents, my family, my teachers, and my classmates at the most important developmental stages of my own confidence and sense of self… closeted people are not living a lie. closeted people are surviving. don’t let anyone pressure you to come out before you’re ready. don’t put yourself at risk when you don’t have to.

[lumberjackloverboy-moved]

this blog is a safe place for mlm who are also women, mlm who are also wlw, and nblm who are also nblw. the mlm community is open for all men, all mlm, and all nblm, regardless of other identities 

[kamlo]

nonbinary people can be mlm or wlw or even both💖 die mad about it💖

[horngryeyes]

[official-lucifers-child]

shoutout to the 20 different people who sent this to me when i realised i was a trans guy

[transfeminines]

the way every nonbinary community i’ve ever seen online is either outright unwelcome to transfems, or calls nonbinary transfems trans women or eccentric gay men instead of nonbinary, and even if they pass the first two, every use of “nonbinary language” is strictly “transmasc*** language” and their examples of nonbinary experiences and discussions are about, again, largely things only transmascs experience (ie. the number of posts for nb people that mention binding but not tucking). the oversaturation of tme nonbinary people and how that reflects in these circles has alienated transfem nbs, but most transmasc nb people would never consider themselves capable of transmisogyny, would they? 

[rottendyke]

What if we both hated the government,,,, and caused problems on purpose,,, and were just overall nuisances for law enforcement and the alt right,,,,,, and we chilled out and did graffiti and art in some abandoned building we turned into our own little hideout,,,, and we were both boys?

[moonymlm]

kiss me KISS ME RIGHT NOW i dare you I FUCKING DARE YOU im challenging you to kiss me if you kiss me you win

[kristina100000]

trans death will always feel different. when you are a trans creator it's very hard to find what you see in your reflection in the every day world you live in, you even get to a point where you think if you try to catch your breath and take a break people will immediately lose respect for you and come for what makes you vulnerable in the eyes of the majority because you are not doing what you're expected to do (to entertain, to be a literal clown) but you will always have other trans creators and non creators to fall on. even when you are not creating you are enough in my eyes, just existing will be enough for people to love you and care about you, i know i will. it's a different kind of bond based on very personal experiences that are anything but universal. once you lose someone like that it's gut wrenching, you feel like someone took a big bite of your heart. bless each one of you, everything has been said.

[janeplease]

My lipgloss is poggers my lipgloss is cool all the boys be simpin i peg them after school

[daxxglax]

[mrspider-deactivated20221213]

i think a little tasteful male boobies is healthy.

[quezify]

[ryegarden]

happy pride month! being queer does not absolve you of your white privilege and now is not the time to be centering yourself! ACAB!

[zombiemaids]

like it’s hard to overstate how much sophie’s passing means. she was a literal musical genius and an icon for trans and queer people. imagine being just 34 and you’ve released one critically acclaimed album, sixteen singles, and produced for madonna, kanye west, charli xcx, lady gaga, and a host of other stars - and you’re still underground. that’s incredible. imagine “bending music production so far that things stop sound like synths and start sounding like physical materials”. she was a visionary and laid the foundation of hyperpop and pc music, and the pop/musical landscape of the decade would honestly not have sounded the same without her. she was the blueprint! she inspired so many lgbtq+ people to become comfortable with themselves and to come out and live unapologetically. it’s so upsetting and such a loss.