Recovery is not linear

Trans guy; 23 yrs old; Future pediatric surgeon

[hjarta-deactivated20260124]

omg!!!

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

"Kids these days are always on their phones" As opposed to literally what else? Reading a magazine? Staring blankly at my surroundings? Arguing with my parents? Why does your generation cling to this rabid shaming of people for using interpersonal communication devices to stay in touch with the world? What do you want from me

[100493503004422]

I'm unbelievably bored w my own emotions.....like I've heard this one before. got anything new

[milfholder]

idk which transgender bitch needs to hear this but u are better than everyone else

[dutchster]

when it’s november 1st

[crazyaboutlefandoms]

Songs with the same bpm but played over different than original video tracks give me life

[angryschnauzer]

This really has the 2020 vibe huh

[knifefightscene]

Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞

[nerdymouse]

Jesus, leave his ass.

[iammyfather]

We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.

[pbrim]

My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning.  They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.

[yekkes]

This is so sad

[w0rldweaver]

This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user

[jennikeatts]

Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.

[aria-jane-cherry]

Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”

My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time

It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother

[lettersfromeleanorrigby]

Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.

After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:

The online banking password (dude, I left you, you should really change that)

Where I ordered his special-wecial organic underwear

Where the good cutting board was (my dad gave it to us at our wedding, genius, I took it with me along with the rest of the stuff from my family)

What brand butter we bought

What brand of local kielbasa we bought

Who his doctor was

What RMV office had the shortest lines

Where the old tax returns were (in the fucking box labeled tax returns)

The phone number for his best friend

I shit you not.

Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.

Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.

[tarot-sybarite]

Millennial women of Tumblr, please read this post.

And then please: make the decision for yourself to never stay with a man who expects you to be his mother and servant.

[elzariel]

This is my grandma to a T. She has lived with the same man for a good 60+ years now and her literal words quoted: “When I’m not home for an extended period of time (week or more) I worry about him eating and then when I get home he’s been eating fish and potatoes for the whole time, even though I left heatable meals in the fridge for him” My grandma pays ALL THE BILLS. Yes ALL OF THEM. The only bills my grandpa puts any money into is car payements and some land-deed tax stuff. He refuses to cook, clean, wash his clothes, any of it.

The whole family is currently waiting for my grandpa to die so my grandma can finally go free, because she’s so stuck into her role as a caretaker that’s the only way to force her to let this shitbag go.

Tumblr, keep circulating this. This is not the 1960s, a dude’s gotta wash his own fucking clothes in our lord’s year of 2018.

[somewhatstacey]

Two weeks into my first boyfriend and I moving in together he enquired about his clean washing and was genuinely, horrifyingly confused when I replied, “Well, did you clean it?” He eventually figured out how to look after himself when it became apparent I wasn’t going to do it for him but even then it involved him taking his fucking dirty washing back to his mother a few times.

Women, this behaviour is super normalised but that doesn’t mean it’s right or fair. You don’t owe men shit, don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

[ishimarukiyotaka]

literally the worst way of ending a series is “all the survivors are happily straight married with tons and tons of babies!” 

[thatfriendyoualreadyhave]

“The wife has taken up domestic living! Despite her previously active role in the community and world affairs + protecting the public!”

[utena-gay]

you can say harry potter and naruto, it’s okay

[fairycosmos]

i hate applying for jobs because the employers are always like: do you enjoy working in a stressful environment???? do you strive for unobtainable standards of perfection???? are you good at dealing with people that make you feel extremely uncomfortable??? do you mind losing real hours of your life in order to make minimum wage?? are you a fan of capitalism??? do you love selling your soul just so you can afford to live???

[mullberry]

[laurelhach]

using microsoft word

*moves an image a mm to the left*

all text and images shift. four new pages appear. paragraph breaks form a union. a swarm of commas buzzes at the window. in the distance, sirens.

[freshofftheboatdaily]

[everythingfox]

Owner asks dogs to hide because customer is scared of dogs

(via)

[breezydreamydreamer]

Translation

[Three dogs are sleeping on a welcome mat of a shop of some kind. A cat is nestled in between them.]

Owner: Customers are coming. They’re scared of dogs. Hurry up. Customers are coming.

[Dogs slowly get up and walk off to the back in single file. Cat remains on the front step. Just before the last dog enters the back room, the owner calls out again.]

Owner: Teng (Dog’s name), go get Xiao Bao (Cat’s name) too. Go fetch Xiao Bao

[Dog turns back to the entrance and gently drags the clearly reluctant cat back inside. The owner speaks softly as the dog approaches the camera]

Owner (softly): All right, put (the cat) down.

[The owner gives what looks like dried jerky to the dog]

Owner: Let Xiao Bao eat some. Let Xiao Bao eat some.

[The dog takes the jerky and lowers his head so that the cat can nibble on the other end]

[amoisthobo]

This is literally the best video I’ve seen in my entire life

[petermorwood]

I’ve reblogged the video before. The translation brings it to a new level of niceness.

[arrghigiveup]

Heh, because this seems to come up a lot in the notes: the cat’s name is not “Little Dumpling/Bun” (小包), but “Little Treasure” (小宝). It’s a different tone. Also I can’t be sure of which “teng” the dog’s name is, but it’s probably 疼, which is “to love/dote” (also “pain”, but it’s probably the former definition she’s using here XD)

[fatsexybitch]

Having loved many dogs in my life, im sure its both

[everythingfox]

Dog refuses to get out of bed then proceeds to fall asleep looking after baby

(Source)

[black-geek-supremacy]

Why do we deserve dogs

[seu-bobo-da-corte]

[sailor-etheria]

In case you don't know, this literally happened in Brazil. One of the first fatal victims of COVID-19 was the maid of an upper-class woman who had just arrived from Italy and knew she had the symptoms.

[urbanism-archive-deactivated202]

#I've rb this before &am rb this again w/the explicit information for those non brasilian/latines who might not have been aware #the first cases were brought over by ppl who were vacationing in Italy going to weddings and shit. the first fatalities were their 50ish #black domestic worker & soon after the other ppl in her home & favela. and now the current situation :))) #'just a little flu'

[1dietcokeinacan]

I can’t STAND her she’s too fucking on it. The pronunciations

[aiweirdness]

Once again, a neural net tries to name cats

Last year I trained a neural net to generate new names for kittens, by giving it a list of over 8,000 existing cat names to imitate. Starting from scratch, with zero knowledge of English or any context for the words and letter combinations it was trying out, it tried to predict what letters might be found in cat names, and in which order. Its names ranged from the strange to the completely nonsensical to the highly unfortunate (Retchion, Hurler, and Trickles were some of its suggestions). Without knowledge of English beyond its list of cat names, it didn’t know what letter combinations to avoid.

So I decided to revisit the cat-naming problem, this time using a neural net that had a lot more context. GPT-2, trained by OpenAI on a huge chunk of the internet, knows which words and letter combinations tend to be used together on the English-language internet. It also has (mostly) figured out which words and letter combinations to avoid, at least in some contexts (though it does tend to suddenly switch contexts, and then, yikes).

When I trained GPT-2 on the list of cat names using Max Woolf’s colab notebook, it still retained a lot of what it had learned from the rest of the internet. Gone were the strange names like “Tilly-Mapper” and “Balllucidoux” - it had a bunch of real words it could use instead. Here are some of the names it came up with - and the Morris Animal Refuge (who you may remember from that time they used neural net names for their guinea pigs) has given some of these names to some highly adoptable kittens.

First, neural net can do fancy:

Taffeta Pompompur Monocle Tom Glitter Notion Tinnitus Cheesemonger M. Tinklesby Linklater Soap

It can also do the opposite of fancy:

Scat Cat Butthole Gangrene Moisture Grotesque Petard Oilbag Buttwig The Cream Meatbag Dr Fart Fudge Putty Scumbag Constipation BUTT

And it can also do names ranging from tough to downright sinister:

Miss Vulgar Lillith The Vamp Elle Fury Deadbolt Romeo of Darkness Starmaker Fist Warning Signs Bibles Smoked The Firestarter Higher Rune Scarlet Be Thy Coat Kill All Humans Bones Of The Master Mr. Sinister Evil Whispers Spawn Serendipitous Kill Stranglehold

(Starmaker and Sparky Buttons are from a litter that had upper respiratory infections that damaged their eyes, but even though their world is kinda cloudy, they love to play and cuddle.)

I’m a particular fan of the Very Weird cat names:

Honeystring Dr Leg Tom Noodle Pinball Scene Peanutbutterjiggles You’re Telling A Lie Beep Boop Thoughts Bobble Bun Atmosphere You Name It Whiskeridoo Sparky Buttons

Seemingly This Guy Various Authors Chicken Whiskey Fish Especially Thelonious Monsieur Ringo Shuffles Sweet Cakes EXTAs (Eye Stalks) Checker Spin Donut Quin Two Patz Grandpa He Glad Funky Moe Fluttering Feelers Accepted A Tribute Chewie Bean PLEASE Gregory Chimney Notable PRODUCT LEGEND Weird Science Platinum Not Suitable For Character the Enforcer

Did I mention these cats are adoptable? If you live near Philadelphia, you live near these kitties!

Bonus content: yet more cat names!

[pastrygeckos]

Ok I can’t stop laughing at Scat Cat Butthole

[leafcrunch]

most of these are functionally indistinguishable from what people actually call their cats

[out-there-on-the-maroon]

I’m obsessed. “Scarlet Be Thy Coat” and “Bones Of The Master” are especially fascinating. 

[validwarriorcatsnames]

This blog and all forms of naming warrior cats is hereby replaced with this AI. Clan leaders are obscolete

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