Lucien

18, it/its. Non-human, mentally and physically disabled. I block freely. I never really post here, it's just my main- I mainly use sideblogs :P

[qaivan]

have you noticed that it's "female" and "male" but "prefer not to say?"

have you noticed that it's "trans men are men" and "trans women are women" but "nonbinary people are valid?"

have you noticed that it's "love trans women" and "love trans men" but "respect nonbinary people?"

have you noticed it's "brothers" and "sisters" but not "siblings?"

have you noticed that it's "transfem" and "transmasc" but not transneutral, transandrogynous, or otherwise?

have you noticed that nonbinary characters are sorted into "masc" and "fem" but not allowed to be anything in-between or outside?

have you noticed that it's "lesbian" and "gay" but not cenelian, or enbian, or gai, or strayt, or any other nonbinary-focused attraction label?

have you noticed that it's "yaoi" or "yuri" but any nonbinary equivalents are jokes?

have you noticed that everything is this or that?

have you noticed the binary?

have you noticed?

have you noticed?

have you noticed?

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

Stop treating fem and masc as the only way to be non-binary.

[PT: Stop treating fem and masc as the only way to be non-binary. /End PT]

Fem and masc enben are real, important members of the community. I am a masc enban myself. But people *cannot* keep pushing this "are you a masc enby or a fem enby?" concept. People cannot keep treating fem and masc as the only two gender types that exist.

Stop excluding androgynous enben.

Stop excluding neutral enben.

Stop excluding null enben.

Stop excluding genderless enben.

Stop excluding xenine enben.

Stop excluding outherine enben

Stop excluding aporine enben.

Stop excluding culturally gendered enben

Stop excluding unlabeled enben.

Stop excluding multigender enben.

Stop excluding multitrans/multicis enben.

And while we're on the topic of treating enben like they have only two categories - lesbian/uranian and straight enben are completely real, and deserve to have a place in the community. HOWEVER, please stop neglecting enben (and binary people attracted to enben) who don't fall into those categories. Please stop neglecting diamoric orientations [link].

Please stop neglecting feminamoric, viramoric, symmaic, contraic, ceteramoric, tria, etc, etc. Please stop labelling every single NBLNB, NBLW, and NBLM relationship as "lesbian", "uranian", and "straight."

Please stop acting like every enban should be comfortable using the gay-straight identities.

Also, stop acting like every enban uses they/them (or that every man uses he/him or every woman uses she/her) pronouns, and stop calling enben "theys." It's very othering to hear "men, women, and theys" and exclusionary towards enben who do not use they/them. Enby/enban, person, enbies/enben, and people are all *right there.*

And please stop erasing cis and other modality enben [link.] Thank you.

[ed-recoverry]

*Pssst* Here’s Some Free Books for Coping with OCD

Everyone say thank you internet archive

Living with severe OCD

Taking control of OCD : inspirational stories of hope and recovery

OCD : a guide for the newly diagnosed

Overcoming compulsive checking : free your mind from OCD

Anxiety, worry, OCD and panic attacks : the definitive recovery approach

Obsessive compulsive disorder : practical, tried-and-tested strategies to overcome OCD

Getting over OCD : a 10-step workbook for taking back your life

The OCD workbook : your guide to breaking free from obsessive-compulsive disorder

Daring to challenge OCD : overcome your fear of treatment & take control

Coping with obsessive compulsive disorder

Coping with obsessive-compulsive disorder : a step-by-step guide using the latest CBT techniques

Obsessive-compulsive disorder : core interventions in the treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder and body dysmorphic disorder

Obsessive-compulsive disorder : a guide for people with obsessive-compulsive disorder and their families

Obsessive-compulsive disorder : the facts

Obsessional thoughts & behaviour : help for obsessive-compulsive disorder

Overcoming obsessive thoughts : how to gain control of your OCD

Overcoming obsessive compulsive disorder : a self-help guide using cognitive behavioral techniques

The dutiful worrier : how to stop compulsive worry without feeling guilty

[hurristuff]

For this Disability Pride Month, I saw a post that was shittybad and it made me angry. So have this

[obsessivelycompulsiveblog]

A friendly reminder that people with burns, self-harm scars, medical scaring, or scars from trauma are normal and that their bodies don't and shouldn't need trigger warnings.

If you aren't any one of those and your first thought is, "But sometimes it's upsetting/anxiety inducing/disturbing to look at." Then I think you might have to think beyond yourself (not in a shaming way, but as genuine introspective), or just not engage in the Internet.

Bodies that don't fit the non-scared body standard or that don't look "normal" to societal standard are still humans that do have normal bodies.

Imagine having scarring and already being self-concious and having people put "Trigger warning: body horror and scars." Like your body comes with a warning because it's so upsetting to look at and everyone should be warned before they show a person who looks like you.

This is especially true online and I think people need to understand when they may be becoming overly entitled.

Seeing a person with self-harm scars and the video is nothing about self-harm, but then commenting, "Please put a warning for your scars," When you are in complete control to scroll isn't okay.

On the internet, you can scroll, block, restrict, or do other things before you ever have to engage in content that upsets you and 2. Make others feel bad about something normal they have (yes, even if its upsetting or triggering for you, because that's their appearance and you can choose to engage in that content or not.)

If you want to live in the comfortability that everyone's bodies have to not be reminiscent of anything atypical or "upsetting" or that people always need to accomodate for something you should work on, then that's a society where disabled/different people/scarred/burned people can't exist and you're opting for that over facing your own discomfort or finding coping skills.

It's completely okay to be triggered by something, as it's tied to trauma (triggers aren't just things you find a bit uncomfortable or things you dislike; its related to trauma); you can't control that. It's okay to be uneasy, squeamish, or feel another type of uncomfortable feeling; you can't control that.

But it's never okay to make others feel bad about their body, tell them to hide, or make them suit your needs in a way that makes them live quieter and sadder.

Scroll, block, disengage, don't look, or don't stare.

Scarred, burned, and body differneces are normal. We don't need warnings for existing (as someone with scars).

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[64mpg]

guy who has a mental health condition that comes and goes: i’m cured this time actually i can feel it

[64mpg]

same guy when they start having symptoms again: what the fuck is happening and why

[this-is-ocd-ocspec-saneism]

Question, what are mental compulsion and physical compulsion (what can they look like?) and what are the common ones, are there common compulsions? I was asking some friends what they did when they got intrusive thoughts and I described how I feel really guilty if I don’t fight them off, correct them, or think “good” thoughts to cancel out the “bad” thoughts I had. A friend asked if I’d been assessed for OCD and I said no and that I have intrusive thoughts but not the compulsions so I don’t think I have OCD, she said that the way I described needing to fight or correct intrusive thoughts sounds like a mental compulsion and that if I can I should look into getting assessed and that I should do more research into OCD. I can’t really find good sources on what these compulsions can look like, and if they give examples they are big and obvious compulsions but I’m more curious about the discreet or hard to notice compulsions (like not realizing that fighting off and correcting intrusive thoughts can be a mental compulsion)

Mental compulsions include but are not limited to: ruminating (being stuck on a thought and analyzing it), attempting to logic your way out of the thoughts (“no that’s not true because…”), and searching your memory for evidence (like telling yourself you did not hurt your friend’s feelings because you remember already checking in with them). Yes, trying to replace “bad” thoughts with “good” thoughts to feel less guilty would also be a mental compulsion.

(Subtle) physical compulsions include but are not limited to: seeking reassurance, doing random jerk movements to “shake out” intrusive thoughts, excessive apologizing, over-explaining (usually in the case of being afraid of lying), needing to do things a specific number of times, doing something to one side of your body and needing to do it to the other (for symmetry or to feel “just right”), avoiding specific things or locations, and needing to repeat yourself. These ones are usually the ones people fail to notice that they do.

I understand what you mean about sources only including hand washing, checking, and symmetry. They never really go into different subtypes either. It’s really a shame how little resources people with OCD have. I hope this helps you a bit :)

[dhddmods]

Fuck intersex gatekeepers

Fuck people who say that hyperandrogenism or hypoestrogenism caused by PCOS "isn't intersex"

Fuck people who say that a 'male' with hyperandrogenism isnt intersex, or a 'female' with hyperestrogenism "isn't intersex."

Fuck people who say that hypoandrogenism or hypoestrogenism "isn't intersex."

Fuck people who say that the agenital spectrum or people with absent/small/underdeveloped reproductive organs/gonads "aren't intersex."

Fuck people who say that duplicated or extra primary sex traits "aren't intersex."

Fuck people who say that Turner syndrome (or any other chromosomal variation) "isn't intersex."

Anyone with naturally developed genital, reproductive, hormonal, or chromosomal variations is intersex.

Intersex is a sociopolitical identity, not just a diagnosis. Doctors and the community disagree with each other on what it means to be intersex. Doctors are far behind and taught to be intersexist. They are taught to diagnose any sex variation as a disorder, deformity, or defect, rather than diagnosing it as "intersex."

Please read our intersex guide for more detail.

[the-starfinder]

agenital spectrum flag

(made by me)

description. in the background there are five dark blue horizontal lines of three different shades: the lightest, darker, the darkest and back, they symbolise sky. in the middle there is dark half-transparent circle, left part of which is filled with very light, almost white-ish purple, that symbolises moon.

for reasons, i have a hard time describing pictures and meanings behide choices when creating them, but i will give you the main topic of the flag which is "wholeness".

feel free to use.

[agenital-spectrum-culture-is]

agenital spectrum culture is going “wait the diagrams aren’t making them bigger so it’s easier to see. they seriously look like that. like for real. that’s actually what it usually looks like.”

agenital spectrum culture is...

[agenital-spectrum-culture-is]

Agenital spectrum culture is spending hours examining yourself with a mirror and comparing yourself to pictures and drawings of perisex people and coming away feeling a little bit empty… until you are introduced to intersexuality and the agenital spectrum 💛💜💛

agenital spectrum culture is...

[agenital-spectrum-culture-is]

agenital culture is feeling stupid for not being able to find my clit and hearing everyone say it’s so easy and then realizing i barely have one

in a similar vein “it isn’t hard to orgasm as a woman people who can’t are just repressed” & people suggesting i’m “doing it wrong” because i can only feel anything thru penetration 😒

agenital culture is...

//

this is intersexism and People Suck™

there is no right or wrong way, just your pleasure and comfort are the most important things

[this-is-physi-sensory-ableism]

I have congenital anosmia. This means I have no sense of smell, and i never have, and most likely never will. Alot of people tell me I'm lucky because of this. But Im not lucky. Whenever I tell people to please not say I'm lucky or ask me to smell something, they still do. The asking me to smell stuff is honestly more of an accident, which I can understand. But I hate when they say I'm lucky! Its not lucky, its a disability.

This is sensory ableism.

I know someone with anosmia. Knowing someone with such a disability, it has made us extremely aware of just how prevalent smell is in every day life, how often it's brought up, and the issues that can come from not having it.

Here are some issues that can cause:

-You cannot smell gas, chemical leaks, mold, etc.

-You cannot smell when something is burning.

-You cannot smell if something is spoiled or rotten.

-You cannot smell food in general.

-You cannot smell nature.

-You cannot smell hygiene or cleaning products.

-You cannot smell your clothes.

-You cannot smell your own body.

-You cannot smell your house.

-If you have an animal that tends to urinate/spray or otherwise leave smelly messes around the house, you cannot smell where it is, and are out of luck if it dries in an inconspicuous location. (Saying this as a person living in a household with cats who have adopted spraying as a behavior.)

The list goes on and on. An inability to smell can be inconvenient in some cases (which is already enough to constitute disability), but it can also be downright dangerous (with the inability to smell chemicals, mold, spoiled food, fires, etc.)

[cupidd-saint]

(I put this in the conments but I'll put it here too)

"i have hyposmia and it also sucks cuz I can't smell anything unless it's super strong and usually up in my face-

Growing up i was always called "lucky" for it 😭

I wish people realized that we have senses for a reason and having the lack of or lessened sense(s) is not "lucky" in any way (unless that individual feels that way about their own lack of/lessened sense(s) )"

[transgender-vulture]

"God you made your character look so CLOCKY. Its CLEARLY a FETISH at this point. God. Why do you have to draw girls with facial hair!? Why do you have to draw guys with small shoulders and wide hips??"

Hey. Question. How do you feel about visibily intersex people? Hey. Answer the question. Why do you feel so deeply uncomfortable seeing someone who doesnt look cis. Hey get back here.

[this-is-trans-joy]

everyone loves to hate terfs until they realise that it actually entails rejecting bioessentialism entirely and then suddenly you’re “taking things too seriously” and you “don’t have a sense of humour” like i’m sorry but saying protect the dolls doesn’t make you immune to terfism it has seeped into every corner of mainstream feminism and unless you’re actively searching it out and checking your own biases you will always be at risk of sharing a space with terfs

[this-is-trans-joy]

“Only women can—” nope. “But all men—” nah. “The divine femininity of—” gonna stop you right there. “Everyone born ama—” if you finish that sentence I’ll kill you. “Men don’t experience—” you’re wrong. “Gender isn’t real but sex is imm—” *loud incorrect buzzer*

It also goes without saying that bioessentialism inherently can’t be trans inclusive no matter how hard you try. “All men including trans men—” probably not. “This is only a woman’s issue—” is it really? “Afabs only—” why? “All trans men are like—” what? what are they like? finish the sentence i dare you.

[nonbinary-wrath-month]

Non-binary people get louder NOW. Non-binary people get angrier NOW. Be a killjoy. Get obnoxious about your pronouns. Put gendered words together in ways that people don't like and spit on the ones they think are mandatory. Refuse to laugh at their stupid exorsexist "jokes". Dress in ways they don't understand. Refuse to answer their prying questions. Tell exorsexists to kiss your ass. Keep your chin up. Raise your voice. Get loud and a little cocky. I want to see your nonbinarity from outer space. Don't get it twisted; do it TODAY. Do you understand me?

[cupidd-saint]

AGENDER CREATURE THING REPORTING FOR DUTY ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

IT/NEOS NON-HUMAN WHO DOESN'T LIKE ANY GENDERED TERMS INCLUDING NEUTRAL ONES!!!!!!!!!!

LOOKS FEM BUT DRESSES HOWEVER TF I WANT CUZ I'M A CREATURE DEVOID OF GENDER AND IDC HOW OTHERS VIEW ME!!!!!