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[the-banana-0verlord]

lemme know if you guys want more flags :3

[frownatic]

Please remember that non-israeli Jews can't do anything about the crimes being committed in Palestine, they have no power to stop it

Hell, even Israeli Jews can't do much, which is made clear with them having also protested and taking initiative to stop the war with no success (so far)

The blame for the crimes and atrocities committed in Gaza is on the Israel government and the governments of other nations that blindly support them

I'm saying this because I have seen some people being openly hostile to the Jewish community and justifying it by blaming them for the genocide happening in Palestine

Hating Jews for being Jewish is antisemitism, no if or buts about it, target your anger at the people actively committing the crimes, not random people that happen to share one identity with them

[genderqueerdykes]

unfortunately, most intersex people are not told outright that they are intersex, in that verbiage, even by doctors or other medical professionals. most of us have strung together that conclusion through being told our specific conditions if we're lucky, or a piece or part of it such as being told a symptom, or even being told nothing at all. many intersex people undergo surgery at very very young ages and are never informed about it ever in life, and only find out by seeing scars, or never at all.

the only reason i discovered i was intersex was because of how apparent my condition made itself to me. i started growing a full beard during puberty and had some disruptions with my menstrual cycles that were so intense and severe i was having to stay home from school. i was told by the obgyn that i "produced too many androgens, and needed to be placed on estrogen to correct it." that's all they told me. by the way, the estrogen made things far worse for me, and the only thing that actually helped was starting testosterone HRT.

being intersex is for the most part a process of piecing things together. people are very hush hush about it for the most part and don't want to draw attention to it, so you have to be your own detective. you have to be your own advocate.

[genderqueerdykes]

hating & avoiding men doesn't "keep lesbian women safe" btw, it makes you a violent asshole by stereotyping all men as dangerous predators, and it opens up the doors for you to be a violent person by encouraging yourself and other to harbor violent thoughts toward people who haven't wronged you. it's just unhealthy as fuck to pathologically avoid an entire gender for the rest of your life. when recovering from trauma, one of the most important parts is learning to accept that your trigger exists and you must encounter it in day to day life and deal with that in a healthy and mature fashion.

avoiding the trigger at all costs is not a healthy coping mechanism. learn to cope with the fact that you've been wronged- women and people have wronged you, too. even if we live in a violent patriarchal society, maleness itself is not what has wronged you. you will never inherently be an innocent baby for being a woman and men will never inherently be violent, dangerous people just by virtue of being men.

[genderqueerdykes]

it's never funny to say "that's unfortunate" or something to that effect when someone comes out as a trans man or some other type of man, or tells you that they are attracted to men/a man. it will never be funny, it's literally just queerphobia. queerphobia extends to queer men, too

[genderqueerdykes]

the reason intersex people need to be visible and at the forefront of every queer's activism is because we are completely devoid of autonomy when it comes to identifying ourselves. no matter how hard we try to speak up on how we are treated, how we are dehumanized, how we are refused our right to say who we are, it falls through the cracks because of how many people continue to diminish our issues, and espouse intersexist beliefs.

when i speak up about being transfemme, and a trans girl, it's not because i'm trying to step on people's toes or speak about something i don't understand. i speak up about it because this is the life i've lived. it doesn't matter if strangers see me this way or not, this is how i've been my entire life. whether or not someone knows i was technically born AMAB and then had my gender "corrected" shouldn't matter.

trans people do not only come in binary sexes- just like gender, physical sex is also not a binary. i am an intersex trans girl , even if my agab didn't stay AMAB forever. I would be an intersex trans girl regardless of whether or not they assigned me male at birth, because my experience with womanhood and femininity is that they've always been held away from me, way farther than it would ever be possible for me to reach.

i've had to take estrogen & progesterone HRT in the past in order to "correct" my masculine features in order to look like and be a girl "correctly". the subject of my body and my gender has never been something i've been able to control. my whole live i've just been told that i'm a girl wrong, and that i need to "Fix" it.

boyhood or manhood weren't options either, that was held away from me with a 10 foot pole as well. i've had to transition into gender, itself, because i was forbidden to be a boy or a girl. i was always too sensitive or soft to be a real boy. gender as a concept has been a source of control and degredation for me. i had to transition into both manhood and womanhood in order to have control over how i identify. even now when i talk about manhood and being a man, people tell me that i'm not a trans man because of how i look. i'm routinely denied manhood, I "have" to be a trans woman only to some.

due to my intersex condition, i'm a trans man and a trans woman, transfemme and transmasc, but people struggle to accept this. there's no reason for people to give me hell about these parts of myself, and yet people still do. intersex awareness matters because we fight to be seen as the people we are. we struggle to have our identities be addressed correctly. we are in the same fight as trans individuals, and we owe it to intersex trans men, women, and people to help people understand that trans folks come in all different types of bodies, and that biological sex is not a binary, either.

we have to fight for each other's autonomy. for all of us. together we are stronger, louder, and braver.

[fxlthyangxl-deactivated20240122]

website

[hesbythecampfire]

StopNCII.org is operated by the Revenge Porn Helpline which is part of SWGfL, a charity that believes that everyone should benefit from technology, free from harm. Founded in 2000, SWGfL works with a number of partners and stakeholders around the world to protect everyone online

Sounds legit

[songue85]

StopNCII.org is operated by the Revenge Porn Helpline which is part of SWGfL, a charity that believes that all should benefit from technolog

[femaleuncles]

BUTCH BALLET is a movement-based theater piece created for REDCAT’s New Original Works Festival. A love letter to female masculinity, the piece is a series of private moments and pedestrian dances created for and with a cast of butch women, trans men and genderfluid queer folks. (x)

how cool is this? i’m tearing up. 

[whatareyoureallyafraidof]

Transgender Day of Visibility.

[crazyhairadult]

As someone whose pronouns change a lot (im genderfluid) and a friend of several trans people, yeah. These all help.

[vergess]

I want to be clear that it is hard to learn new pronouns. People sometimes get the idea that it’s trivial, but most of us learned pronoun rules when we were toddlers and have been practicing them ever since. It’s okay to struggle with learning new language patterns. Hell, plenty of trans people still mix up our own pronouns. We get it.

You’re not going to get “in trouble” for messing up.

But you do still need to make the effort to fix your mistakes when they happen.

[obsidian-hollow-archives]

"homosexuality is unnatural! there's only two genders! it's a sin-"

I'm sorry, have you seen NATURE???

and there's so many more species than this that exhibit homosexuality, varying genders, etc. SO! MANY!

it's very much a natural thing. it always has been. unfortunately, while homosexuality is found in many species, homophobia is only found in one

ALSO THE ARTIST IS HUMON, FIND THEM AT HUMONCOMICS.COM!! was so sure I had included that but apparently I forgot, so sorry!

[vergess]

You can also find humon here on tumblr! @thehmn

[shesnake]

“Progress Shark” outside the Australian Museum, ahead of Sydney Mardi Gras/World Pride Festival 2023.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

More flags should be inflatable sharks

[moth-grrrl-mavis]

People here are hating on finnster so I guess I'm gonna remind y'all that gender expression is a massive pile of horseshit and people who treat it like a game are pretty cool, regardless of how they identify

Also

[bumblebeerror]

If you hate finnster for his frankly hilarious gender, I personally want nothing to do with you. His work normalizing men wearing whatever the fuck they want for whatever reason they want to wear it is vitally important to trans acceptance, and it’s also really fucking funny that he does it just because he likes how his twitch chat reacts. Mans puts on makeup like a pro because his chat likes it when he does girl month. That is objectively funny.

[vergess]

Also, in case you hadn't heard, while he is certainly not calling himself trans, Finnster is questioning his gender after all this, and specifically no longer identifies as a "cis" with no more specific detail forthcoming. When he attempts discussing this on stream he is usually shouted down by fuckheads saying "that isn't how trans works."

So any further detail is fucking sparse, and at this point he many well have been driven back in the fucking closet.

Which is his right as a person, to keep that private.

And, which proves outright what I have been saying for decades now:

When you are spiteful to GNC cis people, you make it hard or impossible for questioning people to explore their gender

It's a more abstracted form of transphobia than many of us are used to addressing, because we live under a rising tide of fascist anti trans rhetoric.

But it is LITERALLY anti trans and anti queer to be a shit about GNC people.

Even the cis ones.

Even the ones you think don't deserve respect.

Get your shit together.

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

I'm a bit tired of people calling asexuality 'not a big deal.'

Here's the thing, I never thought it was a big deal either. I didn't have a big angsty coming out about being aro or being ace. It was difficult in a sense to think of the future I'd imagined for myself not coming true, but I didn't mourn that future. I was happy that there were others out there feeling what I was feeling and going through what I was going through.

But it's become a big deal. It's become a big deal because as I have grown older, I have realised the future is still fucking blurry. I have no idea what to expect from it. Society was not built for those who do not or cannot follow its rules. I've realised just how MUCH people say aphobic stuff on a daily basis. I feel constantly othered by comments that carelessly remind us we are out of the majority. That remind us again and again that we are NOT the norm and will never BE the norm. I rarely see myself on TV and in books and in movies. People feel weird about it, so they just never bring it up like an unspoken secret. I'm constantly doubted and told I'm mistaken about my own identity, which causes anxiety and self doubt so many years later. People make a variety of assumptions about me and tell me it's 'sad' and I'm 'missing out.'

It's not just about 'not having sex.' It's about feeling like you're the only one at a concert that doesn't know the words. it about society making you feel like you're just a little bit off. My sexuality/romantic identity doesn't define me. I don't WANT it to be a big deal.

But it is. It is a big deal because all of you make it a big deal.

[theforesteldritch]

Reading about how intersex athletes have been treated is so fucking horrible. The countless lies and human rights violations. The discrimination and how it's ruined the lives of so many people is so awful. There has been no apologies from any athletics comptetions or organizations. They have blood on their hands. Just a tw for intersexism and mental health issues and suicide in the next paragraph because it can get pretty heavy.

Annet Negesa, who was a middle distance runner. She was suddenly barred from competing due to her hormones. No one told her why. She was then told she needed to take medication to lower her testosterone, then what she was told was switched. She was lied to about a surgery that she was told was like an injection and would let her compete again. She woke up with scars and had had a gonadectomy. That violation of basic human rights and medical ethics combined with inadequate postsurgical care basically ended her career. She deserves justice. She deserves apologies from the Olympics and everyone single doctor who was involved in it, and compensation and the promise that it should never have happened and will never happen again. She. Needs. Justice.

Pratima Gaonkar needs justice. She was a rising track and field star. After forced sex verificatiom she killed herself. The way media and news treated her after her death was disgusting. She deserves and needs justice. Her family deserves justice.

Santhi Soundarajan had her medals stripped and was treated as an outcast after forced sex verification showed she had androgen insensitivity syndrome. She was treated as an outcast, her gender was mocked. She's spoken out about how much discrimination she's faced, and how badly she's been treated. She now works as a coach, but was barred from competing. She deserves justice.

Caster Semenya deserves justice. Francine Niyonsaba deserves justice. Margaret Wambui deserves justice. Barbra Banda deserves justice. Beatrice Masilingi and Christine Mboma deserve justice.

The racism and intersexism and horrible human rights violations and medical abuse these women have faced for the supposed crime of being intersex and good at a sport is horrible. They deserve justice, but the organizations that perpetuate these atrocities don't seem to care. It's so fucking horrible.

[captain-kit-adventuress]

Hey. HEY. Everyone listen up.

There is a common thread besides intersexism here, too. They are all people of colour. Take note.

The IOC doesn't just have a biology problem.

[hoolyelina]

dog witch with the aroace color palette and a telescope staff ☆・*。

[sparklemaia]

a page from my top surgery recovery sketchbook 💚

[rowark]

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[goomymegpoid]

I wish this feeling upon everyone who wants to wear a dress, its really the best

[ghostlynblm]

this makes me so happy as a fat hairy guy who likes skirts and dresses i never get to see guys like me in dresses it’s always skinny twinks this makes me so happy 🥺🥺