there is no nonbinary identity that is more accepted than others*.
people say nonbinary means being in between the binary genders until someone is androgyne or something similar, then they're a bad nonbinary person for fitting a stereotype.
people say nonbinary means not having a gender until someone is agender, then they're missing a fundamental part of what makes us human.
people say nonbinary means being both binary genders until someone is a manwoman or similar, then they're being contradictory.
people say nonbinary is a third gender until someone is maverique or similar, then they're just making up identities to be special.
people say nonbinary means being gender-neutral until someone is neutrois or similar, then they're also bad for fitting a stereotype.
people say nonbinary people all fit into either transmasc or transfem until someone does, then they're actually just a trans man or a trans woman in denial.
and this supposed validation of different ways to be nonbinary is only done to invalidate other people, i.e. if i say i'm nonbinary and maverique, i guarantee you someone's gonna turn around and insist i must be masculine or feminine, or that i'm not really nonbinary because nonbinary means genderless, then they will do the same thing to an agender person. they only say this to invalidate us while not trying to seem like a complete bigot, as in "i accept nonbinary people who do it correctly".
they keep moving the goalposts so that we can never win.
and the fact that some nonbinary people see this exorsexist behaviour and insist there is a thing such as a "gender trinary" where three genders are more accepted than others means that their rhetoric is working. it's creating a divide within the nonbinary community. it's making our community tear itself apart.
the sooner we realise they do this to all of us and work together to defend each other, the stronger we wlll be.
*there are nonbinary people whose genders are pretty binary-adjacent and who can live as a binary gender without much discomfort or dysphoria which gives them a bit more privilege, but that's not at all the same as these nonbinary men or women being accepted for who they are. they are accepted as fake binary versions of them, and if they were more openly nonbinary, that part would not be accepted, they wouldn't be accepted as their whole selves. acceptance on the condition of keeping parts of you to yourself is not acceptance. i've actually heard from multiple nonbinary men and women who opened up to some people about also being nonbinary and they lost support, friends and more.
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