I really think we need to be having conversations more often about how to figure out if you're being abusive, and how to address it if you are.
Abuse isn't just done by one demographic, or in one specific way. Most abusers justify their actions to themselves and do not think of what is happening as abuse.
It's dangerous to just assume that you don't have the ability to abuse someone due to your Pureness of Heart or oppressed status. Thinking this way can make you more likely to harm someone.
I have known people who talk a lot about abuse, have read a lot about it, and have been abused themselves, who become abusers and don't notice because they see their victim status as overriding any concern they should have about how they treat others. It seems impossible to them that abuse could come FROM them rather than always automatically only happening TO them.
You can abuse people. I can abuse people. Abusers are human beings who choose to exert control over others. Not storybook monsters you have nothing in common with.
Let's talk about how to make sure we keep our friends, loved ones, and other community members safe from harmful behavior, not just from Total Irredeemable Obvious Monsters.
