anybody watched You and thought about....someone snooping into your phone and seeing you like being tickled and using that shit to try to bring your fantasies to life...??
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anybody watched You and thought about....someone snooping into your phone and seeing you like being tickled and using that shit to try to bring your fantasies to life...??
To me the worst thing about top/bottom discourse, in fandom, is how reductive it is. Like not just that it reduces people to the simple equation of top = penetrating = dominant = super in control and powerful = masculine, and bottom = penetrated = submissive = vulnerable and uncertain = feminine, although yes, that is a large part of it. The automatic assumption that all those traits naturally belong in those two groupings is generally the worst part for most people, and I agree it’s pretty grating.
No, to me the worst thing is the idea that if there are two people who love each other, one of them will naturally be strong and decisive, and the other will naturally be weak and anxious, and those are their positions forever and ever.
Humans are so much more multifaceted than that. We’re all innately equipped for joy and anger and vulnerability and love. We can give gifts, and receive them. We can act, and be acted upon. And even couples with a very established and singular dynamic are not doomed to those roles; in fact, it’s healthier if a strong partner can show weakness sometimes, if the anxious one can sometimes be confident and decisive.
I think a lot of people who are very invested in the world of The Soft Anxious Bottom who is taken care of in every way by The Strong Decisive Top really want a fantasy where the perfect partner will come along and fix your life for you and you’ll never have to do anything scary. And sure, if that’s your kink, I wish you joy of it.
But I’ve had to destroy that fantasy for myself over the years, because believing that if I could only find someone to function as my auxiliary personality, so I could trust them to be strong and brave and decisive and willful so I’d never have to, left me weaker as a person. I had to learn to do those things on my own to be capable of the types of relationships I wanted. And a lot of the dysfunction I see in people is them deciding they will only ever have one role in life so they don’t need to learn the skills for any others, and if their partner can’t fulfill one of those other roles for them, that’s their partner’s failing.
Pigeonholing characters or people into niches they are never allowed to leave feels dangerous to me, especially when a relationship is supposed to be between equals.
(This post is intended for people to read and think about for themselves, their own growth and their own creative works. Don’t use it to bash someone else over the head because they’re ~doing it wrong~. Let them think about the topic and draw their own conclusions.)
This is equally true if your fantasy is the opposite– to adopt a Soft Anxious Partner and take care of them, make all their decisions, and solve all their problems, to always be strong and needed. It’s unhealthy, not only for you as the Strong Decisive Partner, but for the soft partner as well. People should lean on each other mutually. It’s ok to have a favorite role, but nobody should have to be dominant and decisive all the time, and nobody should have to be constantly cared for and infantilized.
I spend a lot – a LOT – of time hanging out in kink spaces talking about kinky shit. Like, people who genuinely and voluntarily are in power dynamics where the stated end goal for both partners is one partner who leads and one who follows, oftentimes 24/7/365 in that role.
And what I’ve picked up over time is that the most stable, long-term relationships are ones that are self-described as “sounding boring” or “looking like a vanilla relationship from the outside.” Importantly, even when it’s 24/7 total power exchange (the whole idea is one person making all the decisions and the other following! all the time! forever!), they both do emotional, mental, and physical work in the relationship. They might put different labels on the same work (a sub running a bath for their dom might be called “service” while the dom doing so for their sub might be called “caretaking,” even though it’s the exact same act), and they might characterize their motivations differently, but it is the same work. The exchange is mutual, not one-sided.
Part of being in a relationship – any relationship, not just a kinky one – is getting which fantasies are great just as fantasies and which are feasible to actually do (either in the short-term or long-term). Decision fatigue is a real-ass thing, and so while it’s possible in fantasy and even in the short term, long-term it’s incredibly draining and unhealthy.
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Sex stuff you probably won’t learn from fanfiction and/or porn:
Erotic fic and porn can be a lot of fun! But if you aren’t being provided with adequate sex ed through other channels (comprehensive sexual education, frank and open discussions with trusted adults, etc.), turning to fanfic and porn for your understanding of sex is gonna leave some major blindspots and may leave you with some unrealistic expectations. While there’s nothing wrong with these kinds of erotica, they are fictional and tend to leave out a lot of the more realistic, human parts of sex - they serve a great purpose, but that purpose isn’t primarily educational. The following is an incomplete list of some things you should probably know about sex that a lot of fic and porn tends to leave out:
It isn’t always super hot or super sweet. Sometimes it’s super silly. Or sometimes it’s sort of mundane and you’re both simply scratching an itch. That’s fine too. (Hell, sometimes you’re talking about comic books while boning and your partner is laughing that you’re getting REALLY ANGRY about spider-man while they’re going to town on you.)
You will probably not climax at the same moment. It’s a sweet idea, but extremely hard to coordinate, and if all your concentration is going into coming at the exact same moment, you’re probably not enjoying yourselves as much as you might.
Sometimes bodies make weird, goofy noises. Squelching, slapping, air-escaping, un-sexy noises. It’s okay to laugh at this.
Hell, it’s okay to laugh during sex in general.
Sometimes you fart. Sometimes you fart while someone is going down on you and it is embarrassing as hell. This isn’t the end of the world. Embarrassing body things happen. Heck, sometimes, with anal, there’s a little poo. You get over it.
Sometimes sex is… kinda bad? This doesn’t mean it’s assault, or something traumatic – sometimes it’s consensual but just kinda bleh and not what you hoped for. The best thing to do (if you’re talking about sex with a partner and not just a hook up who you can not call back) is talk to them about it. Figure out what went wrong, what you enjoy and what you don’t, and communicate what techniques you do and don’t like. Also don’t be afraid to stop someone in the middle of the sex act you’re not enjoying and offer guidance on how to help make it good for you too. (Side tip: masturbation makes great research into what you personally do and don’t enjoy sexually)
You won’t enjoy every sex act. Not every body is wired to find every thing pleasurable. You might find anal does nothing for you. You may find g-spot stimulation just makes you really anxious that you’re about to pee. You may not enjoy giving or receiving oral. You’re not broken if you don’t like something that every pornstar or smutty fanfic protagonist seems to have earth-shattering orgasms from. Everyone’s got nerve endings in a range of places – it’s quite literally, different strokes for different folks.
On that note, not all orgasms are earth-shattering. Sometimes it just feels warm and nice. That’s fine too.
Sometimes, if you’re neutral on a sex act and your partner loves it, you can suck it up for them, and they’ll suck up something they’re not crazy about for your pleasure in return. But communicate preferences with each other! Know that when a partner does that thing you love that they don’t get much from, that it’s an act of care, and vice versa.
Falling asleep in each other’s arms right after wild passionate sex seems really romantic, but dried and crusty fluids are gonna be a bitch in the morning. Also, after sex, you should both (regardless of your equipment) go pee to clear out the urethra of any gunk or bacteria to reduce risk of a UTI.
Putting a towel down on the bed before sex means you don’t have to sleep on wet funky sheets. (it’s also verrrrrry useful for period sex if you or your partner menstruate.)
A lot of people don’t like dirty talk, or rough sex. Always ask first. (Fanfic on the whole does a better job than porn at showing communication, but a lot of it is still highly fictive on this point)
PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION. Use condoms, dental dams, etc. not just to prevent pregnancy, but to reduce risk of STIs. (Yes, even couples with the same genitals who don’t need to worry about pregnancy).
Lube is great and very important, but random goopy things around you are not good lube. Random oils especially, since oil doesn’t flush out well and can trap bacteria inside the body – oil-based lubricant also degrades condoms. Use lube specifically designed for intimate purposes. Water-based and silicone-based lubes help sex feel really good!
Bigger isn’t necessarily better. A lot of people with vaginas don’t enjoy the feeling of being repeatedly punched in the cervix by a monster cock. Some people enjoy a larger size when being penetrated by an appendage or toy and some don’t.
Bodies are hairy. Genitals are hairy. You may get a pube stuck in your teeth at some point. If your partner is WAY fuzzier than porn ever led you to believe they’d be, well, that’s normal.
Not everyone loves the taste of ejaculate. Sometimes it’s nasty (flavor tends to vary from person to person depending on their diet, but sometimes you just really don’t like it no matter what. Some of us hate the taste of peanut butter. People don’t always like things). It’s okay not to swallow, or to request a penis-having partner warn you so they don’t ejaculate in your mouth (in fact, it’s polite for them to do the latter).
If you’re gonna have shower sex, get one of those rubbery mats for the shower floor that gives you traction, because otherwise it’s super embarrassing to call for an ambulance while dripping wet and naked because you slipped and accidentally broke something and your partner got a concussion while you were trying to bang in the shower.
Moaning and screaming wildly during sex is fun but it will make the neighbors in the apartments adjacent to you hate you. Make choices accordingly.
This is all excellent advice. I could throw in a couple more:
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Good advice. Also:
Muscle cramps happen. If you’re in a weird position, your body may decide to object. Pillows for support can be wonderful things.
Anyone who finds towels aren’t enough, they make waterproof pillowcases you can get for like $10. Fold a bath sheet in half, slide the pillowcase in between the layers.
Related, there is no such thing as too much lube. (I wish fanfic writers would depict using lube more often, and I am looking at myself in the mirror on this one.)
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Useful NSFW talk 👀👀
Along with muscle cramps, you or your partner my have hips that do not like being open wide for long periods of time or the movement that sex requires and might pinch, get stiff or pop out of place. PLEASE either move into a different position or take a moment to alleviate the pain when this happens.
Paradise Kiss - Vol. 1
Im sorry that I choose my favs with my pussy and not my moral compass. Wish I could be as boring as the rest of you
look at him, thriving on people talking shit that absolute mad lad
the “s” in “Roy Mustang” is for :s
look at that. gorgeous. stunning. beautiful. impeccable.
then there’s roy
An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works
Chapters: 2/2 Fandom: Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood & Manga, Fullmetal Alchemist - All Media Types Rating: Mature (NSFW) Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Roy Mustang & Reader, Roy Mustang/Reader Characters: Roy Mustang Additional Tags: Sexual Tension, Workplace Sex, Vaginal Sex, Oral Sex, Body Worship, Pubic Hair, Making Out, Blow Jobs, Not Suitable/Safe For Work, Femdom, Switching, Tickling, Safer Sex, Condoms, Enthusiastic Consent, Flirting, don't try this at work kids, Reader-Insert, Black Character(s), Black Reader, Reader is not skinny, Boss/Employee Relationship, Sex, Semi-Public Sex, Groping, An asexual wrote this please be kind, probably not accurate as far as military terms and behavior go, I Tried, My First Smut, Porn With Plot, Female Reader, femme reader Summary:
After transferring to Central Command, you're determined not to let a certain smooth-talking colonel distract you from your job duties.
Fanning the Flames [Roy Mustang x Black Femme Reader]
CW: workplace sex, oral sex, vaginal penetration, blow job, body worship, pubic hair, making out, light femdom, tickling, enthusiastic consent, boss/employee relationship, semi-public sex, porn with plot, BBW reader
WARNING! The contents of this fic are NSFW! Read at your own risk!
word count: 5769
summary: After transferring to Central Command, you’re determined not to let a certain smooth-talking colonel distract you from your job duties.
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You never could have imagined meeting a man like him when you walked through the doors of Central Command. But then again, trivial things like infatuation and love making were the last thing on your mind. Bright eyed and eager to impress, what mattered most to you were your ambitions. You didn’t have time to fool around with romance; a cushy job in Central was everything you could have hoped for as a fairly new recruit. And besides, the higher ups didn’t look too kindly upon fraternizing.
You had heard of the twenty-something aspiring general long before you sent in your letter of acceptance, but didn't think much of him. You learned long ago not to get involved with military gossip, especially the kind that involved sleazeballs like him. You know, the type of man that flirted with anything on two legs with a pretty face. You barely liked guys on a good day, so you were certain you’d have no trouble rejecting his advances. Lay low and work hard was the motto you repeated to yourself every morning as you ironed your uniform.
Unfortunately, your name was on everyone’s lips before you had the chance to introduce yourself. It couldn’t have been avoided, and you were naive to think it could. Being the only non-native Amestrian in the Central forces was mostly to blame, but you figured your looks also had something to do with your sudden popularity. After all, you were below average height, and your round curves rivaled the thin waifish figures of most Amestrian women. It definitely wasn’t the “ideal” body of a soldier, but that never stopped you in the past. Your brown skin, head full of tight curls, and full lips were impossible for others to ignore. You demanded attention whenever you entered a room, whether you wanted it or not.
And as soon as the two of you made acquaintances, you knew something was bound to happen eventually.
From the moment he uttered that first sultry “Hello” and took your gloved hand in his, kissing the back of it like he was some sort of prince out of a fairy tale, your heart decided on its feelings faster than your brain could process. He pushed the knife in deeper with a little coy smirk that made your breath hitch and your stomach tighten.
“(Y/N), at your service,” you stated, doing your best to hide the tremor in your voice. “It’s an honor to make your acquaintance, Colonel Mustang.”
“Please,” he said as he let go of your hand, his eyes never leaving your own. “Call me Roy.”
i did it guys
i wrote The Smut
whenever youre having sex theres a couple guys inside your balls furiously shoveling coal into a furnace
Keanu Reeves & River Phoenix
In: My Own Private Idaho {1991}
just found out today that moths can make their genitals vibrate to throw off a bat’s sonar
we can too you’re just not skilled yet
Me helicoptering my dick so the cops can’t triangulate my cellphone signal