sweet creature

super nice person.

[masokistinenkissanpentu]

[liberalsarecool]

Check your privilege.

[homunculus-argument]

Apparently people who don't have executive dysfunction think that actually working on something is the hardest part of doing something. And that's why they get mad that you call the rest of the project "easy" after you've finally worked through doing the plan and know what to do when you're working.

So when you're through with the epiphany of how to make it physically possible to make the thing you're making, and you're sharing the plan with excitement, because the hard part is over, and now you only have to get your hands moving and do it, they get mad at you like

"it's not that easy! It's a lot of hard work! >:C"

they mean it, because

to them, working is the hardest part.

They don't have to fight their brains to get started. They don't have to fight their way through making the choices, making the plan, making yourself make the thing. People who don't suffer from executive dysfunction think that the hardest part is actually doing the thing.

[smoldragonborn]

“we need to stop the stigma towards drug users and addicts” and “we need to challenge the idea that being sober makes you boring” and “we need to stop acting like binge drinking to the extent you’re doing medical damage is fun and normal for young people” are all ideas that can and should coexist.

[fatfemmefreaquency]

just so we’re clear, the threshold for “binge drinking to the extent you’re doing medical damage” is waaaay lower than you think.

I work in an obstetrician and gynaecologist’s office. we have to tell patients on a regular basis that they are binge drinking weekly when they think they are simply consuming a normal amount of alcohol on the weekends.

having more than 3 drinks in a single sitting if you have an estrogen based endocrine system is a binge that is medically significant.

having more than 5 in a sitting is a medically significant binge for someone with a testosterone based endocrine system.

every time you do this, it significantly impacts your risk of getting breast cancer, and damages your liver. it takes time to recover from that liver damage. if you’re having a 3-5 or more drink binge on a weekly basis, you are an alcoholic, medically speaking, and your liver is not recovering.

again: the bar for what binge drinking is, medically, is so much lower than what you think it is.

alcohol is a really toxic substance and not something you should fuck around with.

again: if you have an estrogenized hormone system (common for most women), then 3 drinks is a binge. if you have a testosteronized hormone system (common for most men), then 5 drinks is a binge.

anything above that number, consumed as frequently as weekly or more, and you’re medically a binge drinking alcoholic.

also, if you’re drinking any quantity of alcohol 6 days a week or more, that’s another threshold at which, medically speaking, you meet the definition of alcoholism. your liver needs more days without alcohol in your system than just one a week to recover and be healthy.

I don’t say any of this to shame anyone—to me, alcoholism or substance use disorders aren’t a sign of weakness or moral failing. and most of us genuinely don’t know this stuff.

rather—I point this out because it’s important to reduce harm, and find ways to live healthier, happier lives. there is a life outside of constant binge drinking. it’s not always easy to find it. but it’s out there. you deserve a life where your emotional needs are met by something other than alcohol, and a life in which your liver is healthy, and the ways you cope and celebrate and find joy don’t put you at increased risk of cancer.

[qweerhet]

also–even if alcohol is the only way you can self-medicate, or if you choose to go on with your alcohol usage anyway regardless of other options–you still deserve to know what it’s doing to your body.

information is key. you don’t have to stop drinking, but the utter lack of education on alcohol + the normalization of binge drinking in current society leads to many people drinking without any idea of what it’s doing to their bodies.

addicts deserve accurate medical information regardless of what they decide to do with it. for some people, losing liver function is worth the benefits they get from binge drinking, but they can’t make that choice if they don’t know what the consequences are to begin with.

[jeanjauthor]

addicts deserve accurate medical information regardless of what they decide to do with it.

[delphinidin4]

Tons more at the source!

[6thlovelanguage-deactivated2020]

[alleycatboy]

being smart has never stopped me from being a complete fucking idiot

[60s-heartshaped-chevrolet]

[dangeronthetrack]

should I come back to tumblr? 🤔

[genderkoolaid]

"queer spaces are for everyone but cis men! safe spaces include everyone but cis men!"

okay

that will require stealth trans men to out themselves in order to receive help

that will require closeted trans women to out themselves in order to receive help

that will require nonbinary people who don't ""look nonbinary"" because they look too masculine to out themselves in order to receive help

it will also alienate transfems & trans people who were AMAB who haven't realized they're trans yet from spaces that could provide them a safe place to explore gender & sexuality and be introduced to the idea of being trans

trans people are eventually going to get uncomfortable with your hatred for cis men, because people who were AMAB are gonna wonder if you secretly hate them for being "actually men" and trans mascs are gonna wonder if you hate them for being men at all

people attracted to cis men are going to feel uncomfortable when they try and bring up their love for men including cis men or bring their cis boyfriends/partners/friends to your spaces

there are cis queer men & queer men who blur the lines between cis and trans and they have just as much a right to queer spaces as you do

^ intersex men also exist including intersex cis men

there is never going to be a group of people who it is alright to blindly hate just because of circumstances of their birth or identity and every time you try you are going to end up hurting people. embrace compassion and nuance

edit: to be clear, "cis queer men" includes gay cis men, bi cis men, aro & ace cis men, etc. etc. & cis queer men who are verifiably cis are still very much queer

[nostalgicfun]

What was your first source of portable music? Walkman? CD player with headphones? MP3 Player? iPod? Phone? 

[somecunttookmyurl]

my fucking god these tags aged me 50 years

they’re literally the size of a CD, hen. you can still buy them

[amortizing]

third wheeling two girls who are best friends is so much worse than third wheeling a couple

[renthony]

Telling all men that they are irredeemable trash with no hope to improve is not actually how you dismantle patriarchy.

It's how you make men stop trying to improve, because they're convinced they can't.

It's how you shit on queer men and keep perpetuating the idea that queer masculinity is predatory and gross.

It's how you keep trans men in the closet, suffering in silence because they don't want to "betray" womanhood.

It's how you silence men of color trying to talk about the ways they're marginalized and seen as inherently more aggressive.

It's how you steamroll over disabled men trying to access care.

It's how you tell fat men that their struggles with fatphobia and medical neglect aren't worth attention.

It's how you tell abused men that their struggles aren't real and that men can never be victims.

It's how you tell marginalized men that they deserve to be treated badly because "man" cancels out the need for human dignity and kindness.

[thestrawberrydreams]

Inclusive language is for everyone!!

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Their boyfriend is their partner why is this hard to understand

[korben600]

Also, “partner” is just a good word? It implies an equal relationship where both of your work together in pursuit of something, whether that be life goals or just having fun together.

It’s a good word. People should use it more.

[transgender-rex]

[puttingherinhistory]

Alcohol is genuinely a hard drug and it’s literally fucking everywhere. We should all be more horrified at the way alcohol abuse and alcohol dependency is so culturally enshrined. Alcohol abuse is especially pushed on and expected of young people as a supposed necessary 'coming of age' experience. And if you don't do alcohol abuse as a 'coming of age experience' when you're a teen or if you think it's fucked the way alcohol abuse and alcohol dependency is culturally pushed on us, people sneer at you and treat you like you're an uptight naive church grandma.

[ladychlo]

@mattxiv

[prideknights]

Moms for Liberty cry when ‘Don’t Say Gay’ bill gets turned against heterosexual parents

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