he’s so pretty i wanna cry

16 year age gap | he teaches biology | obsessed but aware nothing will ever happen

[s-ickangel]

Dear people that could’ve stopped my abuse sooner, but didn’t:

I’m still angry.

[agirldying]

a gentile reminder that you didn’t deserve your abuse even if you were conditioned to “behave” to the point that you did what was being asked of you without being forced.

[ojibwa]

the crushing guilt of being unproductive vs the exhaustion of being burned out. fight.

[sadhoc]

“i’m in kind of a weird mental place right now” i say, as if there are times when i am not in a weird mental place

[thesexypanda-boo]

to whoever who needs to hear this- you're not sensitive and you aren't overreacting. If something hurts you, it hurts you and it's okay to hurt

[justseveralowls]

Message of the day:

Whoever needs to hear this:

You aren’t faking, you aren’t exaggerating, 

I believe you

You deserve to believe yourself too.

[traumasurvivors]

Your trauma is valid even if you think you deserved it.

I promise that you didn’t. 

[hillergoodspeed]

[its-about-the-trauma]

You've taken away everything I could have been

[bad-days-are-ok]

[radicalbrownbabe]

shoutout to the survivors who are not forgiving, who do not believe that what happened to them was ‘for a reason’, who know they did not deserve it, who are angry at what happened to them, and who do not show the typical ‘good victim’ trope. You all get so much shit from people about how you should act from your trauma because only ‘good victims’ are deserving of empathy and support. You deserve so much more than that.

[traumasurvivors]

100%.

You do not need to forgive to heal and your feelings are 100% valid.

[overabluemoon]

"fuck you my child is fine."

Your child has a fearful-avoidant attachment style.

[agirldying]

a gentile reminder that you didn’t deserve your abuse even if you were conditioned to “behave” to the point that you did what was being asked of you without being forced.

[paganowlsheart]

[survivor-positivity]

one of the key points of trauma recovery is learning to let go the idea of getting back to “who i was before”. your trauma has shaped you and that’s okay. recovery is learning how to live with what happened rather than getting rid of it, even if that feels impossible at the moment

[b4st4rd-420]

[defiantsuggestions]

One of the hard truths you need to understand as an abuse survivor:

Nothing you could have done would have stopped them.

You could have been perfect. You could have done everything right.

And they would have found reasons to abuse you anyway.

It wasn't you. It wasn't anything about you. They would have found some reason, some excuse, and they would have found a way to make you hate yourself for it.

It was always about them. It was about them exerting their control, and it was about them stamping someone vulnerable into the ground.

There is no such thing as "being good enough" for an abuser. They look for reasons to tear apart the people around them. You can do everything right and they'll still find a reason to punish you, because punishing you is their goal.