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thesewersofparis

this painting came to me in a dream

sludgebones

NO ONE appreciated my joke and its two revisions when i posted it so i’m posting it here

ryegarden

happy pride but ESPECIALLY to m/f bi couples

ryegarden

CONSIDER THIS AS WELL gnc bi woman and her beefy stupid but well meaning bi husband

#as a gnc bi woman with a beefy boyfriend #thank you

vivienvalentino

This is what plays in my head every minute of every day.

gncfag-moved

i know its been said b4 but growing up suicidal and then reaching an age you never planned to live to is extremely stressful and terrifying, and we deserve more credit for not killing ourselves and THEN having to make up for the time we spent not caring if we lived or died and not doing work to improve our lives.

gncfag-moved

i feel behind in life because i spent the last 7 ish years not giving a shit about my future because i assumed id be dead before id have to deal with that, and now i have to start making decisions that many people started considering years ago.

gncfag-moved

i just feel like. suicidal people dont get credit for firstly, how stressful life is while suicidal, how difficult it is just to do simple tasks, and secondly, how hard it is to recover from years spent not caring once a person is no longer actively suicidal or no longer having suicidal ideations.

kaleighbytheway

I’m about to turn 30. Teenage, suicidal, me thought that 28 sounded like a good number to be a “top end”. Every day feels weird because I spent years with zero intention of seeing this age.

#didnt think id get to 25 #guess whos turning 25 this year?

appraisedtiktoks

thewiglesswonder

mareep-is-transfem

how many times do we have to say "you will never ever be able to tell with 100% certainty who is and isn't trans in any given group of people unless they all individually want to tell you and policy based around the assumption that you can will fail terribly" before cis people start taking it seriously. just wondering

mareep-is-transfem

all of the following are true:

1. some trans people can and do pass very well

2. some trans people cannot or do not want to pass at all

3. pre-transition trans people who look like their AGAB exist

4. intersex people who do and don't identify as trans both exist

5. pronouns aren't an indication of gender

6. presentation isn't an indication of gender

7. gender nonconforming cis and trans people exist

8. sometimes someone's gender literally just isn't any of your business

all of these things make it impossible to definitively, 100%, with absolute certainty, tell someone's gender without them being okay with telling you.

popepauljohn

#me when i quit tomorrow

geekdawson

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.

#seriously #why im blunt