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[deffonotlio]

New tumblr so everyone can hear the unflitered yammering of a man who grew up mute and now has no concept of social norms

[thememedaddy]

[johnny-depp-is-loved]

[depsidase]

[buxxinho]

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[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

I still think pregnancy and childbirth should be degendered. we stopped talking about that and I need us to pick it back up pls

[deffonotlio]

no in all seriousness as a trans guy I think this is really silly to ask for in general. if youre pregnant and not a woman and dont want to personally be feminized then thats fair, but we are a tiny tiny minority anyway, and this applies to even less of us. Things that typically only afab people can do are always going to be associated with femininity by the majority, and there's nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with men being feminine and doing feminine things. I dont even personally view it as feminine at all, I'm not someone who naturally sees things as being gendered, but this is something so broad that it's silly to be offended by. You know it isn't targetted at you.

also "chest feeding" in the comments IS silly. you have breasts. surely if you have carried and birthed a child and are now breastfeeding you're not dysphoric enough not to be able to cope with the term "breast feeding" YOU ARE A MAMMAL MY DUDE.

[snugisnobug]

"It's silly to be offended by" proceeds to make fun of people who prefer the term chestfeeding

You're being a jerk for going onto someone else's post about requesting to not be gendered and literally making fun of people who want to experience pregnancy while being respected as the gender they are

Not only that but it's not just a matter of being offended. People who are pregnant and aren't women are more likely to have hate crimes committed against them.

Also just because someone's a minority..why should they be discriminated against for that? Which yes, refusing to include someone in medical documentation (and other areas) just because they're a minority is discrimination

[deffonotlio]

But referring to pregnancy in general as feminine isn't discrimination, it just refers to the majority (as language always does and always will, as it is built around the experiences and understanding of the people using it). I fully respect individuals wishing to be gendered correctly, I said that quite explicitly, but the language used to refer to the concept as a whole will always be feminine, because it refers to what is experienced in 99.999999% of situations. We have to accept that we are the minority. The world will never cater to your every want when that want is not only atypical, but directly contradicts the majority (because spoiler alert, there are plenty of people who want their pregnancy to be gendered.) OP is not requesting not to be gendered as you imply. They don't say "can people stop gendering me," they say "can people stop gendering pregnancy and childbirth." It's unrealistic and doesn't reflect the reality of what most people experience. If you're a trans person deciding to get pregnant, you are already accepting that this will be seen as effeminate.

As for hate crimes, get off your moral high horse for a minute and think. Nobody is going to stop hate criming trans people just because we stopped gendering pregnancy. You are arguing with a point I never made.

What I'm tryna say is, we can't change how things are seen, especially something as inherent to afab people as childbirth,* especially when it is still so stigmatised for women anyway. I've debated putting this in here because idk if I can word it as carefully as I need to, but a big part of being trans is navigating what is seen as traditionally masculine or feminine. That's what dysphoria and euphoria kinda are?- being seen as masculine or feminine or both or neither as we wish. That requires us to acknowledge what is masculine and feminine. And when so many horrific things are happening to us blaming hate crimes on the fact pregnancy and childbirth r feminine just to try and guilt trip a kid on tumblr is insane.

*I know intersex people exist but we're talking about public perception, and again the majority, here.

[butterflypeaflowertea]

ever since i was a little girl i knew i was doomed to take things too seriously and think about them forever

[ottoillustrates]

today i just (remembers to maintain privacy online) did something really cool. you have to trust me

[rhinco]

i love you semicolon. no one look at my 80 word sentence

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

I still think pregnancy and childbirth should be degendered. we stopped talking about that and I need us to pick it back up pls

[deffonotlio]

no in all seriousness as a trans guy I think this is really silly to ask for in general. if youre pregnant and not a woman and dont want to personally be feminized then thats fair, but we are a tiny tiny minority anyway, and this applies to even less of us. Things that typically only afab people can do are always going to be associated with femininity by the majority, and there's nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with men being feminine and doing feminine things. I dont even personally view it as feminine at all, I'm not someone who naturally sees things as being gendered, but this is something so broad that it's silly to be offended by. You know it isn't targetted at you.

also "chest feeding" in the comments IS silly. you have breasts. surely if you have carried and birthed a child and are now breastfeeding you're not dysphoric enough not to be able to cope with the term "breast feeding" YOU ARE A MAMMAL MY DUDE.

[deffonotlio]

I hate hate hate it when people come onto the world wide web and r like "ohh u need to wear suncream!! suncream is a skincare essential! it protects u from skin cancer you should wear it every day." No Brenda I'm not gonna get skin cancer if I don't wear suncream. because I don't live in a warm climate. I don't live in a sunny climate. I hate how people I know who live near me believe that they will get skin cancer if they don't wear SPF every day all year. I am sick of the US-centric people living in hotter climates than their white bodies were built for acting like they are the default. I'm so hate filled. You don't need suncream every day. Definitely not as part of a skincare routine. I'm so hate filled rn.

[depsidase]

[depsidase]

[insert-witty-user-name-here]

[starknstarwars]

Me opening up the half-finished draft of my ‘narratively creative’ Conclave fanfic:

[kisha0w0]

Send me your memes by "Okegom". Please repost so that other people can post their memes in the comments.

[leyza-haide]

The definition of trust the process

[beardedmrbean]

Next up someone is going to claim that the Narnia series isn't kids books.

Kids books is probably not the best way to word it, you can enjoy them at every age, including your childhood, as you get older you may find new truths in them, but they're still good for any age.